Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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If the who doesn’t change, nothing can changeThis morning I opened an email from a dude who reads my emails, reads my articles, and says he resonates with what I say.
In his latest email he said that we should talk. That we are the world’s two smartest people… so we should talk. Continue reading “If the who doesn’t change, nothing can change”
I have been ‘harping’ on this principle with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest…
Imagine that you are Cinderella… on the night of the big ball.
If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff… what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference… in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.
I even used to use this capacity (oops, forgot to say, it’s a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category…
Universally missing capacity… I found out. The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees. Continue reading “Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip”
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It’s not what you could see, what you hope to see, it is what you actually see, consciously, that defines your actions and therefore your results, your thoughts, your mood…
What you see is not reality. It is ‘occurrence’ and contains a little bit of reality, and an awful lot of words.
Words that explain, words that interpret, words that give meaning of what is actually happening: reality. Continue reading “Why aren’t you happy most of the time? Or ever?”
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If you suck the last little bit of energy out of your battery and then charge it, next day it will give you a little more…
This is not true for all types of batteries… but, it is true for most people…
If you suck the energy out of the battery sparingly, if you are more worried about the battery than about building something with its energy… at the end of the day energy is left in the battery. Continue reading “One model for a satisfying life is the battery.”
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There is no such THING as enlightenment.
There is moving to and living on the Tree of Life, raising your vibration. But enlightenment?
It is a concept to dupe the gullible billions into striving for enlightenment. Into believing in instant and permanent salvation. Into giving up personal growth and learning… These are ways of thinking, ways of being all OK on the Tree of Knowledge. Continue reading “There is no such thing as enlightenment… is there?”
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Awe… One path to feeling your Self you may want to take
One of the capacities you want to cultivate is the capacity of being in awe. Awestruck, awe-inspired.
Awe, the state, is when the spirit is surprised and moved. Inspired. Continue reading “Awe… One path to feeling your Self you may want to take”
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While context is decisive, the One thing, the way I teach it is as decisive regarding your life as context.
This is how it works:
And then you use that one thing to do the same things you’ve been doing, but now you do them differently. Continue reading “The One thing: The who, the how, and the role of rest?”
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Curiosity… Hunger… appetite… sexual desire…are you killing them all?Your parents, your teachers told you: don’t eat candy, don’t eat cookies before dinner: it will kill your appetite.
The five ‘hardware-type’ needs, the need for energy supply, information, safety, reproduction and group are guided by feelings… all a lot like hunger.
Hunger can be fulfilled with empty calories or good, nourishing food.
The need, the second most vital need is the hunger for information. We also call that curiosity. You can fulfill it, just like the first one, with junk. Continue reading “Curiosity, hunger, appetite, are you killing them all?”
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Given that I go deep inside humans… deep into the invisible… all the way to DNA, this article is different than what everyone says about emotional intelligence…
So if you want the same b.s. beware… It isn’t. Continue reading “Emotional Intelligence: learning what emotions are…”
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Or here is another question for you: Who are you?
If you asked back: What do you mean? you did the smart thing. Because the question: who are you? can be asked from so many vantage points, we can spend hours exploring that. Continue reading “Who do you like? Who do you love? Who is the one loving?”
