How you dampen the fire that motivates you to grow

How you dampen the fire that motivates you to grow

I came up with the expression “top 10% of your mind” many years ago, when I was teaching the What Color is Your Parachute workshop.

It is said that you only use 5% of your brain. But, of course, you useĀ  your brain most of the time, but not for something worth using a precision instrument even the stupidest person possesses. Continue reading “How you dampen the fire that motivates you to grow”

The most frequent energy leak that holds you back

The most frequent energy leak that holds you back

I just realized that I left out one of the most frequent energy leaks, need leaks from the last article.

And that is the minuscule pleasure you gain when you feel clever, when you feel you got one over someone, when you are told you are clever.

Or maybe that you are pretty. Maybe some other compliment, that you are put together. Or that you do a good job. Or that someone pays attention to you. It is all the same bait.

Any compliment that you find important.

You are the guy/gal who, when you do the five questions exercise, you pay attention to the positive feedback. When you listen to me: you are waiting for the positive feedback… and hear none of the negative, or if you do, you grieve about it, but won’t change a thing.

You are a whore for little pleasures, ego boost, ego gratification, ego stroking.

You sold who you could be for a bowl of lentils. Bowl of lentils or whatever it was that Esau sold his firstborn right to Jacob for.

You always thought he was stupid, he was greedy… but he was you.

As long as you are hooked on this pleasure/release, you’ll never amount to anything… guaranteed. Because anything worth achieving requires you to control the release… to bear with discomfort, to hold your peepee, so to say.

To be someone who can handle it.

I am lucky. My parents never complimented me, so I never thought I was clever and I never thought that I don’t have to work for things.

They did tell my two brothers, though. And both of them suffered because of it.

One married someone who pushed him, the other one married someone who didn’t.

Their lives turned out as different as their wives…

And me? I worked my ass off, got into trouble, got thrown out, was rich, was poor, went from country to country, learned seven languages, and here I am, attempting to teach you something that can change your life, that can return you to the path of becoming a person, to fulfill the Original Design.

Obviously my chances are between slim and none.

Because to change, you need to make a huge and consistent effort to take more and more discomfort, more and more pain, without trying to fix it.

Do you want to? I don’t feel that you are… but I am willing to be surprised.

Some of you are… to some degree.

One of the tests is what you do with the guidance you get from me about your health.

If you do well with it, then you probably will do well with everything.

If you don’t… well, we know that how you do anything is how you do everything.

One good sign I have: the new clients are a whole new breed. And with them I think I can start a revolution.

The old clients, nearly all came at the time when it seemed that what I am about is doing it for you… energy healing and such.

Or: just connect to Source and get everything you wanted.

Laughable. But you see I had to get clearer myself… and I have to admit it to you and to myself that I didn’t know how to take you to the promised land, to Heaven on Earth, because a lot of knowledge was still missing.

And my hunch is there is still a lot missing. But the truth value of what I am teaching is climbing steadily.

And it’s a journey. If you are waiting for someone who knows everything you’ll get someone who pretends that they know everything… just like you have.

You have uncomfortable feelings? The why will surprise you

You have uncomfortable feelings? The why will surprise you
This is a very important article. If you just read one article, this is it. Without getting this, what I am showing here, you can’t and won’t be able to fulfill your destiny as a human.
This morning I looked up the expression ‘eager beaver’ in Hungarian. And cried again. This time without tears. This time, not for myself. This time for humanity.
This article is what you can get when you cry with your eyes open…

To belong to the cool guys, you needed to, at least, pretend, that work, school work, reading, learning, achieving are not important to you.

It is pretending that you don’t care.

The cool guys are losers. In life. But they look good. Continue reading “You have uncomfortable feelings? The why will surprise you”

If I asked you: how much of my articles you actually get… What would you say?

If I asked you: how much of my articles you actually get…  What would you say?

If I asked you: how much of my articles you actually get… What would you say?

Experiments and tests show that if you have the right attitude, high level of interest, and you are coherent: you can receive as much as 7% of what is being said. Word based communication.

Re-listening or re-reading the same thing won’t improve the percentage much. Why? Because what you think is there replaces, effectively, what you hear or read the second time.

This is what is normal.

What is also normal is to believe that you got 100%. And for the speaker to think that you can get more than 7%.

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Out of sight, out of mind… the death of all intentions

Out of sight, out of mind… the death of all intentions

A lot of years ago a guy, another participant stood up in a Landmark Education seminar and shared something that has impacted my life to this day.

Here is what he said:

“The other day I was lying on the couch, working on a report for my workplace.

I didn’t like what I wrote, so I crumpled the paper and pitched it to the waste basket that was on the other side of the room. After missing it several times, my wife picked up the waste basket and put it right next to me.”

That was all he said. I was shaken to the core. Move the things you need close to where you need them… Hah.

Because we don’t live that way. We hope to get everything done. We make to-do lists, but something always falls by the wayside.

If and when you add a new thing to do, which happens all the time, something else falls off, or you forget to do it.

You live a life that is set up to remain the same. No matter what you want… no matter what you say.
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How to Win BIG if You’re a Millennial. Or a human… for that matter, whenever you were born.

How to Win BIG if You’re a Millennial. Or a human… for that matter, whenever you were born.

This is famed ad writer, Roy William’s article, but I know you should read it… You don’t feel you need it, but if you can turn around and actually need it, and follow what it teaches, it will make you a winner. A rarity.

An it is not only about jobs, it is also about anything that involves other people. Whether you are a college student struggling to write your dissertation in Poland, or a doorman in New York dreaming of stage success. You may be an accountant in Sweden, or a policy writer in Virginia.

Maybe an earth moving company owner in Minnesota? A recent graduate of Chinese descent? Or me.

We all need to learn what he says, or else…
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What is it that hides it from you that you have been wrong?

What is it that hides it from you that you have been wrong?

The biggest issue is not what you have. The biggest issue is how you use it.

I get a lot of emails. People want better health. People want more money. People want to make a difference. People want to have a higher vibration.

What no one has said to me: I want to know more. I want to see more. I want to grow.

One of my students wrote to me this morning: How must it be to see so clearly the truth of things invisible to others? I wonder.

If I took you on the top of the Empire State building, you would be able to recognize a few landmarks, more if you are from New York.

Vibration, the number, is like the number of floors you are above street level.

But it is not enough to be higher, it is important to see things for what they are.

Actually: what raises your vibration is seeing things for what they are. The more precisely and accurately you see things for what they are, the higher your vibration. Astute is the common name for it.

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Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing

Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing

love is generosity. love is allowing the other to fulfill their need while we are fulfilling ours.Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing the other to fulfill their needs while you are fulfilling your own

This article is not about the “love” you, or Wikipedia call love… it’s about another love… What we customarily call love is a “hardware-based need”, the need to make our genes to survive in some offspring. And some of us may call the need for pleasure, the need to get rid of the unpleasant guiding feeling of “horniness” love. Those are misnomers, dressing something as something else… prettier.

Most people have plenty of sex, no love. Some people have no sex, and plenty of love.

The two needs are not connected. Continue reading “Love is not a feeling. Love is generosity. Allowing”

How the left brain blocks all your attempts to evolve as a person…

How the left brain blocks all your attempts to evolve as a person…

I am reading a book 1 that says that humans used to be able to live from their right-brain, meaning they were a lot more intelligent.

The book says that people with damage to their left brain can become savants, exceptional in one or two abilities, or vegetables… lol, maybe not so funny.

Then the book doesn’t talk about me, who did have damage to my left brain hemisphere, and when the brain was knocked self-conscious, the two hemispheres connected and became one.

The good news: I only have some troubles with my left-brain capacities, adding numbers wrong, confusing left and right, and dyslexia: reading what isn’t there, or when it’s bad: not being able to read at all.

The bad news: Your left brain works well, and it suppresses your right brain, the abilities that are beyond words… like being, feeling, knowing, seeing, patterns… all the things I am trying to teach you. My hunch that everything gurus, religions etc. say about the heart, it is really the right brain… And what they call the subconscious is also the right brain. Suppressed, of course, showing itself only occasionally on for a brief second…

Your left brain gets the words, filters out everything it considers garbage, and you are left with what you already knew.

That is the bad news.
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If you don’t take feedback well, you need to grow up and get cracking.

If you don’t take feedback well, you need to grow up and get cracking.


You need to get better, maybe even good at it. 2

So here are a few “memes” I picked today.

When you distinguish something, the whole world seems to rotate around the thing you just distinguished, so feedback showed up everywhere.

And I got acknowledged by two people on the trip to the grocery store… so I am getting better too… lol.

OK, here are the pictures…. almost…

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