Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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What is a distinction? And a definition?
Distinction is at the heart of the matter.
If I ask you what is a human, you can talk for weeks without stopping, and that would be a definition. Everything a human does, feel, aspires for, hopes for, talks about fit well into definition.
But if you look all those, that torrent of words don’t really say the heart of the matter. Continue reading “What is at the heart of the matter? Of loving life?”
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People share one major feeling: a sense a danger, a sense that pain or death is coming. We call it fear.
Depending on how someone handles fear is how humanity can ultimately belong to two groups.
We could also look at anger as a divider, but let’s stick with fear first. Continue reading “What is the work, the spiritual work you are asked to do?”
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Alienation… not feeling yourself… rigidity
One of my students sent me her collage.
A collage is an artwork where the hidden surfaces. We think one things but what is the truth, what is underneath it come out in a well-done collage.
We all feel disconnected, isolated, not quite belonging, lacking intimacy, and we think that it is from circumstances, like COVID or the other person, or maybe even you. Continue reading “Feeling yourself is the key to personhood”
You are always, every moment, are on the verge of limbo or in limbo… so learning how to reinvent yourself to move out of limbo is a good skill to learn
But change, I teach, is not good. It is mostly fixing, and every change carries in itself the seed level of what you didn’t want, what you wanted to change.
So now what? Another way to have something more, better, or different is through reinventing yourself, reinventing your business, your job, your life… But can you do it? How do you do it? Continue reading “Reinventing yourself…. Can you do it? How to do it…”
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I’ll teach this until I am satisfied that the method the way I teach it works…
We have had, over the years, results all over the board: some came away moved to tears, some came away and quit coaching… lol Why? The workshop brings up what you have been desperately trying to hide. I teach that in another course… what you are trying to hide. Continue reading “What Victor Frankl tried to teach but never really did”
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Everyone is worthy of love, except him who thinks that he is. Love is a sacrament that should be taken kneeling.Why? because love, real love has nothing to do with worthiness. Or deserving.
You either love or you don’t love. Continue reading “What do people love when they say they love you?”
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Your outer world truthfully reflects your inner world.
But the question begs to be asked: what do you mean ‘inner world’?
People, teachers, even psychologists all talk about the mind, then they expand it to beliefs, but if that is your inner world, then you are stuck.
Nothing will change the mind, nothing will change beliefs, directly. Continue reading “Your outer world truthfully reflects your inner world”
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That I have never been asked, so I am volunteering the answer: What it feels like to intentionally connect to someone through their picture, so I can measure stuff about them?
I get to be paid ‘the big bucks‘ because connecting to most anyone is like going under the knife without anaesthesia. It hurts. It’s jarring. It is painful. And then, with some people, the pain doesn’t go away.
So first I am feeling my own feelings of being violated. Continue reading “What is it like to be an empath and connect to you?”
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If the who doesn’t change, nothing can changeThis morning I opened an email from a dude who reads my emails, reads my articles, and says he resonates with what I say.
In his latest email he said that we should talk. That we are the world’s two smartest people… so we should talk. Continue reading “If the who doesn’t change, nothing can change”
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In this article I am going to point out the difference between students and clients who grew and those who won’t grow. Didn’t grow. Most likely will never grow.
The goal is so you can find yourself and if willing, change what there is to change about you, so you can change.
Here is the simple truth: what gives you being, doing, is what you see. Now, or in the future… for yourself.
So your main organ that initiates action that creates what you want is your eyes. Continue reading “Case studies. Who will and who won’t grow and why?”
