If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, does it mean…

dysfunctional familyI have been working with my core group… and some of them I have had a difficult time to see why they never put out, why they never do what is theirs to do.

This article to unwrap that issue… and look at behavior differently. The student is judgmental… Has high, impossible standards for others… So let’s see what she could do so she could become a productive person, and maybe love herself…

The dysfunctional family

Here are some behaviors that I say come from this kind of upbringing… growing up in a dysfunctional family. Continue reading “If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, does it mean…”

Something keeps you down… do you know what it is?

One of the signs of intelligence is for someone to be able to see and actually see the big picture.

To see you need to look. Look and see.

Most never look. Or when they look they are looking for something, which means they narrow their cone of vision… to minuscule width.

Results: most people never see what there is to see.

Today the average intelligence is not high enough for the average intelligence person to even appreciate looking wide and deep… Even the average asks: look for what? Continue reading “Something keeps you down… do you know what it is?”

Fulfillment starts in third and fourth gear. Below that…

Below that it’s discontent. This is true in any area. Health, wealth, love and fulfillment (aka work).

It seems that most of life can be lived somewhat safely without consciousness. Consciousness is activated with a type of thinking. Thinking things out, deeply. Without that kind of thinking there is no consciousness.

Animals get on quite well without thinking things out, without consciousness. And for millions of years they are still around, more or less. Continue reading “Fulfillment starts in third and fourth gear. Below that…”

I there any truth in the ‘law of attraction’?

I read someone’s email this morning and in it the dude says: It is important to bet on the person and not on the deal

Why? Because deals are a dime a dozen

So, he says, it is import to bet on the process no on the result… not on the pot of gold.

And if there is a person going to do the process… hell, you should bet on the person first and only if you deem you should, only then bet on the process.

It is the classic example of not putting the cart in front the horse…

But, alas, knowing what to bet on and in what order requires a little bit of thinking. Continue reading “I there any truth in the ‘law of attraction’?”

You live in a machine. The machine lives your life for you

You live in a machine. The machine lives your life for you

But don’t feel suddenly innocent… you are running this machine as much as this machine is running you.

We could maybe even say: what is your vibration? Your vibration depends on to what degree this machine is running you and your life. The more often it does the lower your vibration.

The only real enemy of this machine is responsibility…

Without responsibility, at this time, and maybe forever, the machine is running unimpeded. Continue reading “You live in a machine. The machine lives your life for you”

You need to see what you said so you can say no to it

Do you remember the pie chart of all knowledge? The circle, the pie, represents all facts in the universe?

  • A tiny slice you know and you know that you know it. It is your address, it is your name, it is facts that you can prove.
  • Another tiny slice is all the things you know that you don’t know. For example you know that you don’t speak Japanese, unless, of course, you do.
  • The rest of the pie is the things that you don’t know that you don’t know. Some of it you think you know, but what you think is just isn’t so.

Continue reading “You need to see what you said so you can say no to it”

Where do your worldview, expectations, beliefs, come from?

I just listened to a Frank Zappa song and I loved it.

Most people I know listen to music. What they call music is songs. You listen to them. And you are put in a trance. The songs areĀ  hypnotic in nature. They implant b.s. in your mind about HOW IT SHOULD BE. About the order of nature. Ugh. (aside: movies too)

I don’t understand the words in American or British songs, but I do understand them in my mother tongue, and those lyrics, although I haven’t heard those songs for 40 years, reverberate in my head. Continue reading “Where do your worldview, expectations, beliefs, come from?”

It’s not a rule of nature. It is YOUR rule. You made it up

You’ve heard it said that, ‘Every person is entitled to their own opinion, but not to their own facts.‘ Yet we routinely craft our own facts from the fabric of personal experiences, preferences and prejudices.

A stereotype is nothing more than a pattern we’ve observed.

This pattern isn’t always predictive, but it is a pattern nonetheless and we trust it. We do this in the misbegotten belief that we have correctly interpreted our past experiences and that our preferences and prejudices are, in fact, correct and reliable interpretations of objective reality. We’re a funny, funny species, aren’t we? (~Roy Williams) Continue reading “It’s not a rule of nature. It is YOUR rule. You made it up”

In life you get what you negotiate… or win…

In life you get what you negotiate. Not what you need. Not what you want. But what you successfully negotiate.

Some truths pop out when you least expect them.

None of my students know how to negotiate. My students are a microcosm… A mirror of the whole damn world. Continue reading “In life you get what you negotiate… or win…”

What gives away your worldview… to yourself?

You may think that procrastination is reserved for lesser people like you, but you would be mistaken.

I have been observing this famous dude procrastinating, waiting, and not doing much for the past year or so…

He is a well-known public speaker, highly effective coach who has made many people very very rich. Continue reading “What gives away your worldview… to yourself?”