Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Who are you being? What is your beingness?

Your being is a paradigm and things show up consistent with your beingness, aka who you are being.

Your being is either a default being or something invented.

A being is always the result of some speaking, inside or outside.

I speak often about turning points in my life. Turning points are points in time where who you are changes… ¹

One of them turning points, suddenly I remember, was in 1975. I just left a job where I was unhappy. Nothing new about that: I was happy only a few of the 17 years while I worked as an architect.

I made a decision based on a temporary emotion early that year, and went to a small firm with a good looking boss. I slept with him, and began a descent to a bad place. Really bad…

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Let’s talk about your TLB, OK? Twitchy Little Bastard score is your TLB…

So, here I am, again, with tears dripping from my chin. Not from sadness, although there is sadness there. Not from happiness, not from grief, although there is grief there.

I have been watching videos of TED talks, all grouped, themed, around practice. Around getting better at something.

All are great, but the one by Carol Dweck ² and her findings is when I started to cry.

I may be smart, I may be an empath, but I am no educational scientist, even though I teach. And I struggle… struggle with what I call TLB and what she calls yes/no mindset, or “now” mindset.

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A piece of the vibration puzzle just fell into place

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Today was one of those days where the plenty resulted in only confusion and nothing got finished. ³

I started four articles, and ran out of steam, or focus, or attention after half a page or 120 words.

I was a lot like you… lol.

Anyway, when nothing goes well, then the best thing to do is to go out for a walk, or in my case, climbing the steps. Some call this “changing the state”, or you could call it: changing the field inside which life is happening. So…

67 steps audio on my ears, I merrily walked down the steps, 160 steps, 20 cm high each, 3200 cm, not a high hill, about 10-11 stories high. 110 feet or so…

I turn around at the end at the bottom and start the climb. That’s when I ran into this guy who I see on the steps occasionally. I stopped him to ask how many times he climbs, and found out he climbs the steps 7 times at a clip, 3-4 times a week.

I do it once a day… and it “cripples” me… lol.
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The hidden dynamic of not-learning and what you can do about it

If you haven’t read the article: “It’s hard but it is not hopeless… Filling the holes in your education” please go back and read it. And make sure you watch the video as well, all 10 minutes. Without that this article here will make absolutely no sense to you. This article builds on that article… like a house is built on a foundation. Clear? Now go back and read. Please.

This new course I am running on the fields of communication is probably more dramatic for me than for my students.

This is an experimental course, which means I am not teaching what I know, I am using the course to unfold aspects of the invisible. Things that cannot be seen from where I have been looking, or from where anyone is looking.

The second is rare, because the insight that comes from that is new in the world.

This is the kind of unfolding happened yesterday. Shook me to my core. Continue reading “The hidden dynamic of not-learning and what you can do about it”

It’s hard but it is not hopeless… Filling the holes in your education

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I have shared with you my experience as an architect… what ultimately failed me or made me fail… and want to quit.

But I’ll repeat it here, in the wake of a TED talk I just listened to: the tendency of life and formal education to march on leaving you with holes in your understanding, holes in your knowledge.

In the third year of my studies I spent nearly the whole first semester in and out of hospitals, 10 weeks out of the 14 weeks. I manage to get a passing grade, but, looking back now, I would have been better off, had I been forced to repeat that semester a year later.

I had a big hole in my education. I could have had more than one hole… but I had one…

I never had any confidence as an architect that point on. This was in 1969, and I quit the profession in 1988. 19 years of living with inadequacy, impostor syndrome, fear of getting found out. Continue reading “It’s hard but it is not hopeless… Filling the holes in your education”

The difference: on the Tree of Knowledge, the Tree of Life?

What is the biggest difference between living on the Tree of Knowledge and the Tree of Life?

Words are not the thing they symbolize. If you write “dog” that is not a dog, that is just ink on paper, or the idea of a dog.

A dog is physical. It had a beginning and an end, a birth and a death, and it even began before it was born.

It is the result of a physical process that takes time, takes ingredients, takes caring, takes doing.

You cannot go from the idea of a dog to dog, or the idea of death to death.

It is easy and fast, lightning fast, to have an idea. And it is easy to think that ideas are the thing they symbolize.

That happiness comes from words, or being comes from words, or health comes from words.

It is easy to be duped like that. Continue reading “The difference: on the Tree of Knowledge, the Tree of Life?”

Want to learn something new? Interesting? Useful? Nah, you already know everything!

I have been running an experiment on the title of this post. So far it is an utter fiasco… No one wants to read it… even though it’s, maybe, the key to the kindom for you.

My mail box had a bunch of coaching requests and the Monday Morning memo.

All the coaching requests were in sync: all the coaching stuff was about letting go… about making room for the new… the new you claim to want…
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Why your brain doesn’t make you a winner… Or is your brain to blame?

I just had one of the most productive Sunday Rant call ⁴ ever… and I just finished the third book in the Freak series, Think Like a Freak.

Because it is about thinking, and because it is about frames it is right up our alley at this point in time. Continue reading “Why your brain doesn’t make you a winner… Or is your brain to blame?”

Are you a person or are you a role? Are you a person or ego?

No sense of humor? You just answered the question in the title..

What does it mean about you what you know and what you don’t know? or how much you know…

It means nothing about you. And yet we all pretend to know stuff… stuff we don’t know. Stuff we can’t know.

It is, to me, the most counter intuitive behavior, but I must be a freak, because I would never pretend to know something I don’t know.

There must be a mistaken belief that if you know something you are better. Smarter.

This is one of the detrimental results of living on the Tree of Knowledge, where you don’t enjoy life, where you don’t experience fulfillment, love, happiness, because it is impossible to experience on the Tree of Knowledge. Continue reading “Are you a person or are you a role? Are you a person or ego?”

A life worth living… But what is a life worth living?

We had a fabulous session in the From Upset To Communication course yesterday.

One of the things a good course leader does regularly, is ask people the question what they are up to.

What are you up to? What is the purpose that makes it worth for you doing this course?

The purpose of communication

The purpose of communication is to make something happen through other people: more love, more money, more prestige, peace, sell more, make an agreement… the something is not defined. Lots of things. Continue reading “A life worth living… But what is a life worth living?”