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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
I had an experience this morning that made me look and made me ponder.
The number of times my site is recommended by google has dropped to one third in the past two-three months.
I wasn’t sure why… so yesterday they told me: it is because I am not getting any visitors from Pinterest. Continue reading “To what degree do you fulfill others’ expectations of you?”
Explained: That is the name of one of my favorite shows on Netflix.
Continue reading “Explained… the only path to happiness is…”
My job is a lot like tuning a car… but a car that has 160 adjustable parts… like a human… not that easy…
I love the joke about the guy who brings his car to the mechanic because it doesn’t work properly. The mechanic opens the hood, listens to the motor running, goes to his toolbox, picks out a big hammer and hits the motor, and voila the noise stops. Continue reading “What keeps your foot nailed to the floor? Can you guess?”
Since it got really cold in Syracuse, NY, I have been having a difficult time maintaining a high level of cell hydration. Why? I keep my apartment cold, 50-52 degrees Fahrenheit, 10-11 degrees Celsius and I get sore throat from drinking cold water.
By last night I was running on empty. I had a hard time concentrating, I had a hard time having a good time. I had cravings… not food… mental craving. I had cravings for stories.
Last night I had wild and slightly violent dreams, and felt no desire to do any work this morning. I got up at 3 am.
So for the past three and a half hours I have been watching youtube videos… Continue reading “Bored, listless, desirous… check your biology”
Connecting the dots… Cognitive performance… Cognitive activity… what am I talking about?
Cognition, according to the dictionary is “the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses.” Acquiring knowledge means: it stays… NOT merely understanding. You’ll see why later in this article.
As clients get better results nowadays, I am now really motivated to get better myself, to be able to help them get even better results.
So I read more books, watch more relevant videos, have extra conversations to home in on what isn’t working as well yet as I hoped it would, and what would.
Continue reading “Long term memory… learn to connect the dots”
This morning, while I was measuring someone’s starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. 1 And it is… drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it… just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money… It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it’s about you, take things personally.
The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.
Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.
So when something happens, and something always happens! they are sure it has something to do with them, that somehow they caused it. Continue reading “How to get reasonably clear of your past?”
What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase… because the product or program delivered on its promises?
Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff… or the accent of the coach… so they are happy. With what? one might ask…
I wonder how much these people value themselves and their money… My guess is: not much. Continue reading “Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?”
U2’s singer Bono, says that all of us suffer from the sense that something’s missing from our lives.
We imagine that we lack an essential quality or experience, and its absence makes us feel sad and insufficient. Continue reading “The god shape hole that keeps you wanting…”
Tikkun is a Hebrew word, means correction.
I am yet to hear a Westerner, or an Easterner use the word: correction. The world, nowadays, is into “fixing”. 2
Fixing is an ugly world, immediately signaling what the speaker sees, that there is something wrong and it urgently needs to be fixed, because it is wrong that it is. Reactive.
But when emotions run high, the cone of vision narrows, your intelligence plummets, and stupid as the stupid does, your fixing creates new problems, that are the next thing to fix.
Compare that with the approach of correction… course correction… returning to the path of true north. Continue reading “Happiness or misery… the invisible dynamic”
I have a magnet on my refrigerator door that says: Cats leave paw prints on your heart.
And they do. You remember your pets fondly… and often.
I remember one woman, often, and fondly, even though she was an enigma to me.
We met at the psych ward and spent some time, every day, together. I met her husband, son, and mother in law… whom I knew from work: she was an acoustic engineer advising me when I was the architect for acoustic practice rooms for the Hungarian Academy of Music.
My friend was in the psych board because she could not sleep. I was there because I didn’t want to live. Continue reading “Cats leave paw prints on your heart…”
