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Are you stuck? What IS stuck? How do you know you are?

What is stuck? Here are 15 ways of being stuck…

1. stuck is when you can only see one way forward and you don’t like what you see
2. stuck is when you have too many options and you are paralyzed by choice
3. stuck is when you know what you want to do but can’t get started
4. stuck is when you don’t know what to do and don’t know where to begin
5. stuck is when you know things aren’t working and can’t step back to see why
6. stuck is when you are doing something but not what really needs to be done
7. stuck is when you know what needs to be done but you lose your nerve
8. stuck is when you make a start but get lost along the way
9. stuck is when you are waiting to be rescued and your superhero isn’t going to show up

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Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion

I just had an insight. I saw something I had never seen, even though it was right in front of my eyes.

The source of neediness.

First let’s look at what is a need and what is not…

We need food and shelter and clothes to cover our need. We may need a community, and air and water. Not much more.

Margoczi says we also need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves and other people’s expectations of us… Maybe. I am not sure. Maybe to the extent that we can carry our own weight… but not more.

But there are certain things we, as children, thought we should have gotten, and we didn’t, and now we pursue it, relentlessly, at our own detriment.

What kind of things? Continue reading “Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion”

In life you get what you get. Want more? Negotiate for more

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A child is self-referential, self-centered, considers everything personal, and sees everything through this vantage point: everything is because of me, about me, for me…

By age three the child is able to see that some things are not related to him, some things have nothing to do with them.

And by now, that you are reading this article, it would be a sign of maturity, a sign that you grew up, if you take nothing personally.

But you do, don’t you? And it makes you miserable, reactive, and ineffective in life. Continue reading “In life you get what you get. Want more? Negotiate for more”

We are all at the mercy of cancer… old age, etc. eventually

I want to ‘muse’ about cancer a little bit more… not because it is my or anyone’s favorite topic, but because we are all at the mercy of cancer.

I will only say what I actually KNOW, I am not repeating anything I haven’t seen, experienced, checked with Source.

So this will be a really short article… And I know I am going to make a lot of people angry… So be it…

The question is not what causes cancer… cancer isn’t caused by anything, cancer is ever present in the body. Cancer cells are born all the time.

Cancer isn’t caused by anything

The problem begins when the cancers cells are not removed by the immune system. When your immune system is sluggish, or too busy working on some other issue that you caused, the cancer cells behave like mice when the cat is busy. Proliferate. Continue reading “We are all at the mercy of cancer… old age, etc. eventually”

The pretense to know… and cancer. The pursuit of smarts

That’s me on the picture, 20 years ago… Waiting to get wet on the USA side of Niagara Falls… A perfect example of becoming… Scared, anticipating, not knowing what is going to happen.

We, humans, negotiate our way in life… with circumstances, schedules, things, and other people. From cradle to grave… we could say, that is life… negotiating every step, winning some and losing some.

But here is the thing: the rules are not clear, not clean, and not overt.

You cannot be sure what constitutes winning, and what constitutes losing a step… in fact, most steps: you have no idea.

But, as society, as a race, we have trained ourselves to pretend: to look as if we knew… maybe even feel as if we knew. Continue reading “The pretense to know… and cancer. The pursuit of smarts”

The pull and push system of growth… How inspiration is proving to be stronger

I have been ‘playing’ this self-improvement, self-development game for 35 years. It germinated and grew into a full ‘tree’ in me, while in others it remained stunted, or maybe even died.

What was the difference between those others and myself?

The main difference was, I thought, is that I saw going up incredibly inspiring, while others focused on protecting their egos. We call it precious I in my work.

I had a precious I too, but I could see that what it had given me is grief, so I was willing to think and do things that offended or scared my precious I, because what I saw was available was inspiring enough for me to do so. Continue reading “The pull and push system of growth… How inspiration is proving to be stronger”

Another wrinkle in authenticity and your strengths

We’ve spoken about authenticity before. My definition of authenticity, I borrowed from a note on someone’s desk I saw some 35 years ago, is this:

Authenticity means: there is nothing in the unsaid. There is nothing that you should say that you don’t.

That doesn’t mean you should say everything… No, no, no. The one who says everything is not authentic, he is a bore. Or she is. And often seemingly saying everything is a smokescreen that covers up what you are not saying.

This topic came up because some of the people I coach are in the middle of starting to use their strengths… or about to start. Continue reading “Another wrinkle in authenticity and your strengths”

Main issues in this lockdown environment… What are yours?

My experience with people, you, during this pandemic is that you have too much time on your hands and you become unfocused… no time constraints, and nothing gets done, and you waste the rare opportunity to grow, to learn and practice a new skill, to become the person you were meant to become.

Another experience I have is that their vibration drops, much like during 3-day holidays: too much social influence. Don’t forget that the average vibration on the planet is now 100, and people influence you and your vibration, in subtle ways.

When you spent eight hours away from these people a day, you had other influences, and you gave actually more time to yourself than you do now. Continue reading “Main issues in this lockdown environment… What are yours?”

What are your strengths? Do you know them?

Peter Drucker, famed management guru said: ‘Build on your strengths’…

“A person can perform only from strength. One cannot build performance on weaknesses, let alone on something one cannot do at all.”

It seems that even one strength built on and used makes the person’s fatal flaws insignificant… Boggles the mind that so few actually do build on their strengths, because all the self-help books talks about your weaknesses.

And that is tragic… but it now makes sense that…

People have a really difficult time finding their strengths. Continue reading “What are your strengths? Do you know them?”

The vibration of the world is plummeting

As I said yesterday, I read a bunch of articles in the morning, especially mornings when I need an idea-starter, because I don’t have anything to say.

I have subscribed to a few bloggers’ posts, and today was no exception: I read some of those articles.

Two things I noticed: none of these people have an independent thought in their articles. Not one. They write like a school assignment, quoting from other people.

Their vibration is stuck at 170 vibration. Of course that is much higher than their readers’ vibration, which is the unbelievably low 100.

Independent thinking starts at 300 vibration… until then it’s all Tree of Knowledge… At 170 it is pure and unadulterated second-hander…

The average vibration of humanity…

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