Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Self-trust… a linchpin capacity… can you develop it?

How do you develop yourself to be able to move forward? To grow?

Many of my coaching students are at a crucial point in their lives where unless something happens, they probably won’t move forward.

Fear, unclarity, self-centeredness, belligerence…

The main attitude is different for each person. Not one person resembles another in what seems to block their path.

A perfect example of the Anna Karenina Principle: a deficiency in any one of a number of factors dooms an endeavor to failure. All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way

All people who move forward are alike. All stuck people are stuck in their own way.

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A new take on what ‘positive thinking’ could be but isn’t

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Positive THINKING, negative THINKING… listen up: it is not all about THINKING!

Instead, it is deciding where to look, and where to go.

Don’t look backwards unless you are planning to go that way (Thoureau).

Or if you are climbing a rock… don’t look down. You can look after you are safe… but not during the climb.

This has been my mantra for many decades. With it I avoided law suits, blaming, vengeance, and probably depression. Continue reading “A new take on what ‘positive thinking’ could be but isn’t”

There is more than one way to skin a cat or solve a problem

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We are in the middle of Passover. Passover or Pesach is a Jewish holiday, celebrating braking out of the prison of slavery. Being a slave how it has always been, how it is, the fixed mindset…

The process of reframing, and thus the Reframing Challenge is a PrisonBreak program. It is designed to take you from the misery of slavery to the joy of freedom. Please give it respect by treating it as that, not as MY good idea… Continue reading “There is more than one way to skin a cat or solve a problem”

Most people who will die in the next decade are already sick

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We are in the midst of the Reframing Challenge… aka Creativity Challenge… So that is the context of this article…

Most killing diseases take many years if not decades to grow to the level where they can be detected with traditional methods.

So by the time they are detected, they are so established that healing them is not possible.

The expression ‘your cancer is in remission‘, 98% of the time means: you did not have cancer to begin with. But most cancer treatments are worse than what they are trying to ‘heal’.

So what are you supposed to do? Wait for death? Continue reading “Most people who will die in the next decade are already sick”

Reframing… take the Precious I out of the picture

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A student of mine gave me access to a course he bought that teaches psychiatrists to reframe the client’s story so it hurts less, or maybe doesn’t hurt at all.

Reframing sounds really simple: look at what is happening or what happened from a different angle, with different eyes.

The most important element of reframing is to step out of your persona, step out of your ego, step out of who you consider yourself to be. Continue reading “Reframing… take the Precious I out of the picture”

The most accurate measure of both unhappiness and disease

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When we work on distinguishing reality from the voices you add, we actually work on one of the most important aspects of life: your emotions.

The quality of your life, how you feel about yourself, about your life, about the people in your life is all emotions.

You, mistakenly think, that your emotions are an accurate expression, an accurate measure of what they seem to be around, but they aren’t.

The Starting Point Measurements has one measure that directly asks the questions: 26. To what degree you honor your emotions as reality? %

The higher that number is the more wretched you are inside… Continue reading “The most accurate measure of both unhappiness and disease”

What you see will give you your emotions, your actions

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When I find an issue that a student is struggling or not dealing well with, I write an article.

The issue here, I guess, is universal.

It has two parts:

you can’t see the big picture, the forest, for the trees. You are stuck with your ONE interpretation of facts. One of anything is dangerous! You are rigid. You have no imagination. And you have a fixed mindset. You have believed the myth of ‘is’…
you are not good, practiced, skillful at taking advantage of the practices I have taught.

A student of mine has a daughter. The daughter decided to join the swim team. She is 13 years old. The only person who can take her to her swimming is my student. Continue reading “What you see will give you your emotions, your actions”

Prison Break? What prison are you in unbeknownst to you?

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Prison Break or the Art of Questions…

What could someone do when the world, your health, your body, your relationships are not going the way they should… do anything other than be complacent, resigned, live in quiet desperation?

I always had this question, but reading the Fatemarks series the question is getting louder in my head.

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What is Transformation? How it’s like an onion…

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What is Transformation?

On the very outside of the onion called transformation, is the ‘wow’ layer. Wow… what just happened? Wow… that’s not how I’ve been seeing it… An experience.

It is miraculous. It is reality changing in front of your very eyes. Continue reading “What is Transformation? How it’s like an onion…”

What does a 1000 see and you don’t? Can you learn to see?

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One of the differences is that a 1000 always has a coach or coaches… mentors, people they talk to regularly, who are, in certain respects, ahead of them. People who can see what they can’t see.

See principles, distinctions, aberrations, errors, false steps, causation. Continue reading “What does a 1000 see and you don’t? Can you learn to see?”