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A little understood aspect of integrity that screws up your integrity…
Integrity is between you and you. There are things you do with other people, but integrity is an inside job… if you don’t like what you did, if you don’t think you did a good job, it doesn’t matter what other people think… you are not happy with yourself. Continue reading “You don’t love yourself. You don’t respect yourself.”
Where attention goes, energy flows… but can you direct your attention by your thoughts?
I’ve read somewhere that we live in the age of attention. Everyone fights for your attention, and you have little or no control… unless you can control your attention.
How much control do you have over your attention?
Why is that important?
Two reasons:
What happens when you see something that seems to be threatening you? Essentially what happens is that you take that ‘thing’ completely out of context… because in your puny cone of vision you cannot see the larger picture, you cannot see the context.
Context is decisive. It decides what you see when you look… You can only see what agrees with the context.
Continue reading “Can you direct your attention by your thoughts?”
I want this to be different than it isFor one, a sky high desire number. Maybe even a desire trap. Coupled with a low, weak, tepid ambition number.
Holiday times are especially trapping… I can even feel it myself.
Why? How? Continue reading “I want I want I want… holiday weeks malady”
Somewhere else is better than here… Something else is better than this… Someone else has it better than meYesterday, still recovering from my strenuous weekend, lol, I watched TED talks for a few hours, all on Emotional Intelligence.
They were all profound, and nice, and useful… and yet.
Emotional intelligence, measurable in percentages, is the ability to be appropriate to life, to dance, to get stuff done, to rest when it is time to rest, and work when it is time to work, and to love, and appreciate, and say what you need to say, when it is appropriate.
To look at things from more than just one fixed point of view, to be able to empathize, have compassion, express instead of stuff it…
You see why emotionally intelligent people get ahead in life… they are easy to be around because they are OK with themselves.
What people, psychologists, writers, etc. teach is surface.
Much like telling you to cover up chicken shit and enjoy the praline… Praline is an expensive candy… for those of you who don’t know. Continue reading “Somewhere else is better than here… Something else…”
What’s the invisible dynamic that makes “It’s all in a day’s work” so transformative?
I have a different relationship to work than most people.
People at large want to do what they want to do, and don’t want to do what they don’t want to do. An attitude, a behavior, a maturity level of a 3-year old.
It is the level where most people got stuck, and now they are unhappy, because the world doesn’t respect their wishes, their rules, their “right”… so they are angry, pissed, reluctant, belligerent, feel slighted, lazy, stupid, clueless… whatever it takes to avoid playing life at life’s terms.
It’s easier to see it on misbehaving 6 year olds, than on adults… but it’s there. Continue reading “It’s all in a day’s work… what does it mean?”
You can’t catch what you don’t seeGratitude is a capacity. You can’t fake it, like you can’t fake riding a bicycle.
Appreciation is another capacity.
Appreciation means: seeing value. Gratitude means: acknowledging value.
It is one thing to appreciate the obvious, and quite another thing to appreciate what is not obvious… because in the moment it is not visible yet where the value is, or it doesn’t FEEL GOOD…
Too much, too strong focusing on systemic value robs a person of their ability to have spiritual, third level, godlike capacities: generosity, love, enthusiasm, creativity, intuitive, etc. Continue reading “Why you can’t see, don’t see value… what is in the way?”
I put all my knowledge into my articles. I hold nothing back. I am not afraid that it cheapens my brand, that the knowledge will be, suddenly had by everyone, and I’ll have nothing to sell.
Why?
I read articles on other sites, and they are quite inane, with a nugget of gold here and there, but even that nugget is rare. And hidden.
When I realized that I was in the marketing and selling business in 1998, 21 years ago, I was in for a long and very slowly rising learning curve.
I bought courses, in-person, online, and most courses, if I could glean a nugget, I was lucky. Most courses I didn’t glean any knowledge. Why? Am I stupid? No. What was wrong with me that I spent tens of thousands of dollars and didn’t get the results I paid for?
I think I was one of those fools who think that they can get heat from a cold stove. Continue reading “Only fools think they can get heat from a cold stove…”
But it’s so “normal” to be a small thinker, that many people think they are big thinkers because they have big pie-in-the-sky desires.
What is a pie-in-the-sky desire? It is an end goal to which there is no ladder and there is no intention to build one.
One of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements is the size of your desire vs. the size of your ambition.
People with sky high desire entertain pie in the sky goals.
The easiest “test” to find out is to ask them to do the skill-finder process from the book “What Color is Your ParachutE” that has been published, I guess, for 50 years? OK… I just checked, for 49 years. Continue reading “Small thinking always indicates a small life, small opportunities, low vibration.”
I am noticing that longevity is attracting a lot of “clicks” on Youtube.
As I was looking for pictures, I found another dude, British, long beard… Aubrey de Grey… who approaches aging more the way we do here… so I’ll show his TED talk he gave in my favorite city, Budapest, Hungary, where I was born.
He looks at aging as a side effect of living, and his approach to longevity is to work with the side effects, and one by one beat them.
It’s going to take a lot of medication, and hoopla… before this can even be working on humans… but the idea is sound, so here is his TED talk. (Truth value: 20%)
You’ll see, that there is this other approach… focusing on extending. This one has one sound idea: stressing the system so it needs Consciousness to wake up. Continue reading “Longevity, extend your life… a sexy topic for most, a must for me”
I have students who fake thankfulness, gratitude… you can hear it. And occasionally they confess.
To me, to hear the fakeness, it indicates their wretchedness.
They think that gratitude, appreciation is social grease… and you give it to look good, to fit in, to obey some social rule, or because the other needs it.
Their knowledge about how reality works is completely missing…
But if you get nothing, ever, then you are wretched. You got nothing… and no joy, no being moved,no nice feelings, no connection with the other… you are an empty shell waiting to be filled. Continue reading “Gratitude, appreciation is for you, not for the other”
