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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Another one of the consequences of not seeing reality from unreality is a life that doesn’t amount to much
Let’s clarify a few things before I start:
Scam… every time you really expect to get something… and therefore you believe unreality…
Reality is reality, consistent, and congruent. A is A, as Ayn Rand and his famous character, John Galt (In Atlas Shrugged) say. Continue reading “Being scammed: One of the consequences of not seeing reality from unreality”
This article was inspired by an Aeon.co article against cheerfulness as a virtue
cheerfulness: noticeably happy and optimistic.
causing happiness by its nature or appearance.
I am taking that concept to its conclusion… So here we go…
That quote is from Mentally Tough leader, Steve Siebold…
I get his one-sentence emails, and I read them. They are all wakeup calls, and they are all telling me the many ways your TLB, Twitchy Little Bastard score manifests.
Continue reading “Is cheerfulness good for you? Is it a virtue?”
The art of being heard, being known the right wayOn one of the webinars the topic was “Not being heard… Being misunderstood”
Every person on the call had at least one painful childhood incident where their speaking wasn’t getting for them what they intended to get, instead their speaking was earning them grief and heart ache.
They wanted appreciation, understanding, equality, or love, validation, significance, or at least agreement.
When something doesn’t work, one would expect, next time you’ll try something different. But no… in real life it seems that the more something doesn’t work, the more you, humans are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
When we looked, each and every one of us were repeating and repeating and repeating the incident in our lives, the same way, expecting a different result. Insanity, right? Continue reading “Always misjudged, misunderstood? No one sees your genius?”
Emotional intelligence, emotional maturity… the end of suffering, the end of life in hell is all a result of the misbuttoned shirt life
Fiction, good fiction, allows you to have intimacy with people you never knew. And what we miss most in life is intimacy. Knowing the other, being known and accepted.
It’s hard to be intimate in real life, it takes two people, two people who were hurt, maybe abused as children, so it is nearly impossible.
I listen to the partner call (from the Playground) and wish they read fiction. Reading fiction, especially children’s books, is very healing.
At least for myself.
Continue reading “The misbuttoned shirt life and what to do about it”
I just had an email conversation with a client. She wanted my review on a marketed healing program, and I reviewed it for her. The person doing it: personal vibration 100, truth value of that program: 3%
The things you are attracted to cater to where you are in your evolution as a human… They talk to your ‘identity’, to your worldview, to who you are.
If you are attracted to a 3% truth value program it is because your worldviews truth value is about 3%. 97% not reality, not truth, 97% b.s. These programs sell like hotcakes… Because this is the level that most humans live on now. And it is getting lower. Continue reading “How to get out of the cave of your mind to live in reality?”
Things were falling apart on me. Both my computers misbehaved, and threatened me with a situation of no computer… not good, not good.
Two partner calls I listened to showed me that half of my students didn’t, don’t get what is supposed to be done in the Playground.
You can only imagine how it felt…
My home page, using the terminology from Transactional Analysis, is devastated… So I felt devastated… as if my life were destroyed.
I have seen this enough time to know that it’s the machine… so I chuckled… Continue reading “Yesterday was one of my worst days and one of my best days.”
This article is about one of those invisible dynamics mainly: the distinction: listening…
If you aren’t getting as much out of your participation with me and my stuff, then consider that it is not the stuff: it is you. You unconsciously or consciously block, invalidate, judge, agree or disagree with what I say.
I often catch myself with hate and grief arising when I read or study someone’s stuff… and it takes a little bit to resolve that before I can get any benefit out of the reading or studying.
But I do it… Do you? I didn’t think so. Continue reading “If the invisible reality is invisible, how can you see it?”
If you can’t beat them… join them… Or what it takes to turn yourself into a high producer…Warning: lots of footnotes in this article!
I am Jewish…
Jewish people are not genetically smarter than non-Jews… In fact, no ethnic groups are genetically smarter than others. And yet, certain groups test better both on tests and in life. 1
Depending on the learning culture of different communities, the IQ numbers differ tremendously. But, in my humble opinion, when you take the child out of the environment, and put them into a different environment, their abilities, their IQ will match the new environment standard… so it is not innate, and not genetic.
This is what is meant by: “all men created equal…” genetically. Not smarter than they were when they left the Savannah of Africa, not genetically. No, with regards to capabilities, it is all in the “nurture”, not in “nature”.
This is the results of my thousands of muscletests over the years. Continue reading “If you can’t beat them… join them… Turn into a high producer…”
I woke up today feeling good about myself.
Why mention it? Because feeling good about myself is not as frequent as one would think… I could say: I felt better about myself than normal.
Feeling good about yourself is the basis of self-love… that being at home feeling we all crave, but most of us have no idea how to get.
It was, that craving, expressed yesterday by the participants of my workshop 1 to ferret out the issues of the self and brainstorm about a direction that could pull you out of the issue.
Direction, pull you out? Yeah.
Some 16 years ago I was doing a course in New York City, and I was commuting there from Syracuse NY, every week. It was the snowiest winter in my memory. One time I drove down during the day… normally I drove at night when the traffic was sparse. A drive faster and more confidently in snow that others.
And my attitude was: get out of my way! A mix of angry, hurried, superior… not pretty. And suddenly my car slipped to the left and slipped into the snow bank. Continue reading “I woke up today feeling good about myself… so? what is the big deal?! Right?”
I wrote this article 12 years ago. I was 60 years old. I had a lot more money than I have now, I wrote my blog only for my personal pleasure, like a journal.
I was the happiest I had been in my life… but I had no idea that I could be happy… every day, no matter what.
That came later… I was still looking for a home, looking for answers to questions, like why am I not liked… as you’ll see in this article.
I am republishing the article because, I think, you’ll see yourself in it… especially the in comparison part.
I am comparing myself to others and I am coming out short… while I fancy myself better… lol.
Comparison is a very potent misery maker.
Continue reading “How Does Your Personality Effect YOUR Life? Personality is what you interact with…”
