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Originally posted 2011-08-25 14:41:07.
Without Integrity 1 Nothing Works. Sounds Good. Sounds Weird. It’s True! But Why?
I am borrowing that phrase, “without integrity nothing works” from Landmark Education.
It’s a catchy slogan. When things aren’t working, you can look where is your integrity, you put it back in, or not, and that’s that. Life either starts working or not.
Yeah, but why? Why would integrity matter?
Continue reading “Life Is Not Working? Look at Integrity. Maybe It’s Out”
Originally posted 2011-04-19 08:45:30.
Commitments are powerful. They are life transforming. When you commit to doing something, doors open and paths appear. When you commit in word and action, people appear to support you in your quest. Commitment leads to change. Decide what you are committed to and your life will change in that direction.
What is a commitment? Merriam-Webster, an Encyclopedia Britannica Company, defines commitment as “an agreement or pledge to do something in the future.” I like this definition because it does not include “obligation,” “financial risk,” or “emotional promise.” It is merely an agreement or pledge that you willingly and noncoercively have decided to do.
A true commitment involves a sense of “No matter what.”
No matter what happens, I will continue eating less food or specific food as required by this diet.
No matter how I feel, I will exercise several days for at least one hour every week.
No matter how my partner responds, I will maintain my own state of equilibrium and reduce my own stress.
No matter how much money I make, I will manage my bills and save a specific amount each month.
No matter how long it takes, I will develop the required skills and learn how to….
No matter how I feel, I will find a way to be happy in any given circumstance.
Happiness is a mental state. It is built on internal, not external, realities. Regardless of the external circumstances, we can choose to be happy in any given moment. In fact, there is a system known as the “Science of Happiness,” which seeks to apply the scientific method to determine what happiness is and how we might attain it. Wikipedia cites a quote from Martin Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihaly “We believe that a psychology of positive human functioning will arise that achieves a scientific understanding and effective interventions to build thriving in individuals, families, and communities.” The goal of this scientifically derived, positive psychology, is to enable others to thrive, not to just survive.
What would it be like for you to make a commitment to happiness? Do you believe you can actually make the choice and decide to be happy? Can you make this choice into an actual commitment? Can you decide that you are committed to being happy, no matter what lemons life might present you with?
Once you truly make a commitment, any commitment, the universe has a way of first showing you the opposite of what you are striving for. That means, you will be tested and you may be tempted to give up and forget your dream. But if you hang in there, hold on to your commitment – no matter what – miracles may happen. And you may find yourself so happy, most of the time, that you never believed such happiness was possible.
Are you willing to make a commitment to happiness?
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In the Wisdom Course I took more than 25 years ago, between Saturday and Sunday we had a homework. To write an autobiography through a filter of our choice.
The filter could be where you lived, who you live with, your love affairs, your schooling, your health, the sports you participated in… anything.
I don’t remember what filter I used then, but in this article I’ll do a little of that homework through the filter: depression. Continue reading “Lethargy, aimlessness, listlessness, the blahs, no ambition?”
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Have you asked yourself the question why I have such a long list of measures in the Starting Point Measurements?
After all, there was a time when I only offered your vibration number and your soul correction… wasn’t that enough?
Maybe yes, maybe no.
The more ways I get to look at you and give you feedback the more potential access you have to actually turn your life around, and become an expanding human being. Continue reading “Why do I measure so much in the Starting Point Measurements?”
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So let’s first attempt to agree on what happiness is.
We will call happiness is a sense of rightness. That all is well with the world, all is well with our world, all is well with us. A sense that we are OK, at the right place. Another word, maybe, is contentment.
The unhappiest people around us are people who have a stringent requirements for the world, for people, for themselves… Continue reading “The Kabbalah of happiness… why does happiness elude you?”
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Occasionally I find myself mumbling to myself: ‘I am not happy.‘ Add the scrunched up face…
What does that mean that I am not happy?
How do I know I am not happy? Continue reading “What is unhappiness? Is it the opposite of happiness?”
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Happiness is a function of accepting what is. Reality.Love is accepting the other exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t.
If you pay attention, deeply, both statements talk about what is and what isn’t.
Love mention what isn’t… Isn’t in reality, because it only exists in the mind, as an expectation. Continue reading “Reality… can you tell what is real and what isn’t?”
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The Desire Trap and how to release it… A life with greed, want, desire, or resistance cannot be a happy life
The book Feelings writes at length about the Desire Trap,
Quoting from the Feelings book by Margoczi:
Continue reading “The Desire Trap and how to release a life of wants”
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If, and when you manage to get out from behind your own eyeballs, you make someone happy… what just happened?
I have been alive for 75 years. I have experienced being made happy, made proud, only a few times.
What makes anyone happy is when what they do is acknowledged as useful. When they find that they were instrumental is someone else’s success, or happiness.
Not what you thought? Continue reading “What made me happy, happy enough to want to live”
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In this article I take you through a whole range of emotions to get to a clearing. Just like taking you through a dense forest… But there is a pot of gold in the forest’s clearing… so it is worth wading your way through, I promise.
If you play by the rules you lose
Very interesting observation: British writers, also British films are honest about corruption, about people talking about the rules but not keeping them.
So today I am going to talk about something I have never talked about… In fact I have never thought.
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