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What is co-creation? 1% inspiration, 99% perpiration

What is co-creation? Obviously you don’t know, because…

It is the lack of co-creation that causes you to not produce results while others do create amazing things, with the same exact product. So don’t you think it is time you learn what is co-creation and how to co-create?

And alternatively, what is the difference between those dudes and dudettes that produce results, and you. You look the same… and yet, somehow you are not the same.

1. I’ll tell you in the end… because if I told you now, you’d nod and stop really reading… that is how you behave with everything: the moment you think you understand, you are done.

But understanding IS the booby prize… Continue reading “What is co-creation? 1% inspiration, 99% perpiration”

Vibration, enlightenment, meditation, Buddhist monks.

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I started the day with reading… Yesterday’s Growth course sucked all creativity out of me…

I stumbled onto an article about a funny English born Buddhist Monk… Funny? English? Monk? lol…

I like funny… so I went and looked up a video to hear funny.

Yeah, he is funny for a monk, but that is not what struck me most.

The dude, no disrespect meant by calling him a dude, is 69 yeas old, has a Wikipedia entry, is the abbot of some Western Australia Buddhist monastery, with meditation retreats, blah blah blah. The spiritual head of, the advisor or… more blah blah blah. Look it up if interested… I wasn’t.

I measured his vibration. 200. I listened to half of the long talk, about 50 minutes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2aZo38WeXw

He did say profound things I practice, I live by, I somehow attempt to teach..

He says that the noise doesn’t disturb you, you disturb the noise. The [disturbing thing] doesn’t disturb you, you disturb it.

Smart, maybe even obvious, and yet, not even the abbot is living like that… At 200 vibration you can’t… not yet.

What is missing? Because to have that attitude, natively, automatically, you need to clean house… your inner house, of all the ways you have labeled everything and its opposite, wrong, good, bad, right.

And that is a long process, it is all verbal, you cannot do it in a wordless meditation.

Verbal, because all the wrongs exist only in language.

Outside of language nothing is ever wrong. Everything is just is. Mosquito bite, not being able to sleep, noise, assholish people… they just are… no label. Outside of language what you have you have, what you don’t doesn’t even occur, because the only place for it to occur is in language.

What you produce is what you produced, what you didn’t doesn’t exist, because the only place for it to exist is in language.

Really.

If you are agile enough to turn around and catch your shadow, i.e. to hear the voice saying something like ‘you didn’t do X’, then you’ll know what I am talking about. Because if you look around, what is is, what isn’t doesn’t exist…

Can you find ‘no love’ if you are looking? It isn’t there… unless you say so.
Can you find ‘not enough money’ if you are looking? It isn’t there… the amount of money is, but not the ‘not enough’.

Because homo sapiens live their lives entirely in the speaking, the job is to clear up that world, the speaking world… and then, only then, will you be able to have peace, joy, and then, only then will you know that if you are complaining, you are complaining about something that only bothers you if you are speaking.

It is not easy.

I have seven students in my Growth course. Five of the seven continued from the Playground. One is a newbie to this work of ‘transformation’. One has been around quite some time, but she wasn’t in the Playground…

This work of transformation? What does it mean?

Transformation is simply a flexibility in language that gives you new and new ways to look at reality, so you lose the suffering, escape the rigid confines of the words you have been using.

The way you get a new perspective, in the world of homo sapiens, is through words… Because, as I said above, homo sapiens lives their entire existence in the world of words.

Anyway, one of the new students is so entrenched in the world of words, that she has no access to her feelings… even though this morning she sent me an email regaling unusual physical sensations she had between last night and today…

The moment you label the feeling, you are again back in the world of words… cut off from the current feeling, firmly in the past. The exact situation Plato’s Cave is best to explain… You don’t feel the feeling, you feel its shadow… The feeling may have changed, may have stopped, but you are still feeling it. Phantom feeling.

Just in…

I just got off a zoom webinar. the webinar was full of opportunities to practice no words… no mind…

there was noise, jarring noise in the background of the speaker
the presenter talked too fast and too theoretic, and I didn’t understand a word, my attention was wondering
I felt stupid
he kind of helped me with an issue (this is a technology call) but not really.

OK, so for a person with 200 vibration, this would have been an unpleasant call, and the noise in their heads would have prevented them from benefiting from the call, that is part of an expensive course. I even caught myself saying: maybe I signed up for the wrong course… I even had to do some work, some magic to not judge, to not suffer, to not hate.

So what did I do?

I said to myself: You are disturbing the noise.
Then I said: he is talking as fast as he is talking… you don’t have to understand. And then
I said to myself: ok, feeling stupid is just feeling stupid…
And with the fourth ‘issue’ I just thanked him. I didn’t even have to do anything. He gave me what he gave me, and now I have that… and have a chance to look how it can benefit me… how it can be a starting point for me.

The monk on the video spoke in terms of a meditation retreat, I spoke in terms of participating in a zoom call…

The Universe is always there to answer, so I got an email from a client. He hasn’t done any of my courses, so he is a good representation of most people in the world.
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he writes:

Hi Sophie

I wanted to know how one should deal with discrimination, racism and oppression.

Yesterday I watched a short video clip of a police officer using excessive force with no regard for another life. After watching the short 3 minute clip I became angry.

My solution to the above issues are to not be ignorant of what is going on in society and in America but to just not watch it or read about it.

In terms of employment: although I feel that less qualified people are favored and that I normally receive the short end of the stick. I also must increase my value and what I am able to bring to the table so that I can get paid more.

Lastly I feel that I need to focus on my spiritual development as that is one of the things in life that can’t be taken from you because no one can give it to you but yourself.

I read your articles daily and I pick up things like taking responsibility, integrity and authenticity in which I have to work on all of them. Reading your daily post is a constant reminder of taking responsibility for my life.

Thank You

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As you see, life is full of triggers. Triggers to label, labels to make you upset, resigned, angry, sad, hopeful, etc.

Things, people, attitudes, behaviors offend your sensibilities… but it’s not a good way to just control yourself.

Those sensibilities are just the tip of the iceberg of a long chain of ‘offenses’ with something at the bottom, that until it gets disengaged, defused, it gets triggered, and then you need to use your expensive ‘will power’ energy that you now don’t have available for important things, like getting things done, doing something that is difficult, or keeping healthy.

A number of years ago I volunteered to be a ‘leader’s assistant’ in Landmark Education. The job entails picking the leader up at the hotel, driving them to the seminar site, running errands for them, making lunch for them, tea, coffee, and being there for them for the duration of the course, which is normally a 16-hour day, each day.

I was dumbfounded how reactive my leader client was. He is still active, so when I measure his vibration, today, it is 200… just on the cusp of low vibration and high vibration.

Could he become higher vibration? hell yeah… but it is a process, and unfortunately I know that Landmark Education doesn’t have the time and the personnel to develop people to that degree… they didn’t when I was being trained to be a Forum Leader, and they don’t today.

Dianetics trains a horde of auditors, an audition cost an arm and a leg. I know two people who did it, and they are as reactive as ever… so the methodology and the theory of the audition isn’t effective… even though it is a one-on-one process and can take days.

So what I am saying is this: you have to go deep deep deep and find, not just the incident, not just the moment, but the words, and then the whole ‘tree’ of words, ‘tree’ of attitudes what come from that seed.

Unless you manage to change the seed level, the tree that grows out of it is going to be the same… reactive, like a machine, when a suitable trigger happens.

Obviously I can’t coach someone through an article. But what I’d suggest to the writer of that email is to look at this whole idea of inequality as the trigger… Considering that it is personal. That in his fateful early incident what he discovered seemed to be that he wasn’t equal to something or someone, and suffered a real or imaginary loss. And then the whole family, society pushes for that, because it is a favorite trigger and a favorite mindset to a lot of social groups.

So you can see that unless the first incident and what you said there gets de-fused… i.e. the explosive material removed, and thus collapse the entire tree, limb by limb, you’ll never have time, energy, and attention to develop yourself spiritually, professionally, emotionally… EVER.

We could say that it is the chip on your shoulder… and we all have one. Some of us have, at least seemingly, have more than one.

Myself not exempted… But because I have done the work I teach myself, on myself, I now get triggered once or twice a week, while I used to be triggered several times an hour.

The triggers won’t disappear, but you’ll have a weapon to manage yourself, a weapon that requires less will-power than it requires now.

I won’t be starting a new Growth Course in the foreseeable future, so your only option is to do the recorded course… the recording of the webinars.

Get the Growth Course recordingAfter you pay, you have the option to sign up to a one-on-one call with me, or to sign up for email coaching. Outside of a live course, they are the only ways to get personal attention from me.

When you are satisfied with your skill level, you are already shrinking

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And most likely you are also blind… comfortable in your ignorance.

I am having a week of many one-on-one calls. Each very different, each very educational for me a lot more than for the client/student.

Why? Because it is really hard, near impossible to hear what I say, or what there is to see for them, through the ‘already always listening’… i.e. what they are sure of. What Mark Twain addresses in his famous saying: it is not what you don’t know that gets you into trouble but what you know for sure, that just ain’t so…

The more rigidly fixed the untrue view, the untrue conviction about how it is, reality, you, people, the less likely that you’ll hear, that you’ll see what there is the see: what would set you free.

It is almost as if you insisted on being stuck, as if you insisted on being limited, jailed, enslaved, and miserably with hardly any results in life that are worth having.

What allows you to see what there is to see? What allows you to hear what there is to hear?

Not surprisingly it is the ‘master DNA capacity’, The Sight.

It is easier to tell the difference between having The Sight on or off, by what you don’t see.

If you looked at a slide through the microscope, you would see what you see, and it wouldn’t make sense to you… In your view, without The Sight, everything looks like everything else… no distinction.

With The Sight you suddenly see that things are different, you see the timeline, you see the cause and effect, you see that if something isn’t true, then everything that is derived from it must be not true.

But if you don’t have The Sight, it is like you see the world as a gray mass… everything/nothing… no difference.

Two and a half months ago I turned on The Sight capacity for 19 people. At the peak 10 people manage to keep the capacity on for a whole day. Today, only two has it on.

I am in communication with both. Both are actively working with The Sight… needing it, so they can see stuff they are actively seeking.

The rest returned to the ‘everything is the same as everything else’ state.

What can you do in my programs to keep The Sight on?

One method I taught was to ask: What am I not seeing? But specifically suspecting that you are not hearing, not seeing something in what I say in some of my programs, in some of my recorded conversation.

I know you hear everything. But the truth is: you hear between 0-10%, so 90% plus are hidden from your view. How do you get to them?

Through looking more, listening more, even though it feels a waste of time, it feels foolish, after all there is nothing different there. But it is either that you hear what you have already heard… i.e. you are stuck in what you think you know, or you hear nothing.

I hate learning myself. I hate the feeling stupid, inane, clueless part. Yes, me too.

But that doesn’t always stop me to go for it. Sometimes it takes me having a pep talk with myself, but eventually I relent, and go to endure the pain.

I used to be a serial course taker, and I am again in that phase.

I know when to start taking courses again. When? when I start feeling good about how much I know, how clever I am, how well things are going. Then it is time to go back to humility, and the best way for me to humble myself is to set myself up to feel stupid, clueless, slow, inane… you get the drift.

I have been doing this all my life, and I managed to bring my pain threshold (TLB) up to 70, while most people I know or teach have their TLB at 1.

When your TLB is 1, you will shy away from any effort, any pain, any discomfort, and get upset by anything less than perfect in your view.

Practicing The Sight capacity is nothing pleasant. After all you are setting yourself up to feel bad about your abilities. And that is the point.

When you feel good about your abilities, you are already shrinking. And most likely you are also blind… comfortable in your ignorance.

Interestingly the same is happening in the water energizing challenge. Lately I missed a day here and there… and while I was busy doing other things, the Water Energizing Challenge people also got busy with other things… and dropped the ball.

There is a measure I look at in my Starting Point Measurement that is measuring to what degree you are self-sufficient, self-managing, self-organizing… independent of other people’s actions.

I call it your access to your adult capacities.

When you drop the ball, when you don’t have a calendar where all the activities you need to maintain are present, when you need someone to remind you, when you need ME to be accountable for your actions, your access to your adult capacities is probably low, as low as 1%.

I just measured The Sight participants. those two who kept the capacity on, have access to their adult capacities at 10%. The rest: at 1%. One person also had a 7% measure, obviously it isn’t enough.

If and when you don’t have systems to keep projects, spiritual practices alive, you condemn yourself to depend on other people remembering for you… you are not an adult, you are a child.

As you can see raising your vibration, becoming a person who can live life you live and live it powerfully will depend on many things, but it will depend especially on your TLB, on your access to your adult capacities, and most importantly on your being able to keep The Sight capacity on… after I turn it on for you.

Could you turn it on for yourself? By looking long?

Muscletest says ‘no’.

These DNA capacities are turned on by epigenetic factors…

…that have to be forceful and sustained enough to actually work. And a ‘normal’ person cannot generate that… I was lucky, I was born with The Sight turned on. My father, who during the Holocaust was in a forced labor camp, had it turned on by extreme difficulty…

His unit of Jews was somewhere in Poland. It was winter. One morning during the forced march to the work site my father slipped and broke his ankle.

Instead of shooting him on the spot, the Nazi guard just left him there to freeze to death.

A local peasant picked my father up, half frozen, and took him to the hospital. To my father’s good fortune, the doctor was another Jew, who was my father schoolmate before the war. My father was 30 at this time.

This doctor fixed his ankle, and hid him until he could walk.

My father then borrowed a bucket and walked the 200 miles home… using the bucket as an excuse.. while the war was raging on.

No money, no support, enemy territory, my father needed to get sharper if he wanted to live. And he did.

This is how he turned on several DNA capacities… And then challenged himself continually till he died, to keep his capacities sharp and ready to fire.

I was lucky I inherited my father’s DNA capacities. My brothers inherited my mother’s…

So yeah, it is not likely that you’ll find yourself in a circumstance that unless you have The Sight capacity open, you’ll be dead… You avoid those circumstances like the plague.

This is not ‘operation money-suck’ as it may seem to you.

I am not suggesting that you pay me to turn The Sight capacity on for you.

If you don’t have an ‘existence system’… aka a structure to make sure that you don’t drop any plates… I’ll refuse to turn it on for you. No kidding.

Unless the activity is scheduled in your calendar, it doesn’t exist.

All activities fill the available time… so you’ll dilly dally doing whatever you are doing, because it is not in your calendar the spiritual practice that you said you’ll do to grow, to increase your TLB, to activate whole brain functioning, to keep yourself hydrated and in good shape, to eat according to your type, and you’ll throw up your arms and say: I didn’t have time. Or I forgot… or whatever garden variety horse sh*t you invent as an excuse.

You either have your results or you have your excuses. Never both.

My own growth began with a course “More time workshop” where we needed to buy a calendar and put all the things we said we would do, twice daily, into that calendar… among other things, but this is the main thing.

And keep the main goals for life in front of us while we scheduled.

I did that process, religiously, for six years, never dropping the ball.

I went from miserable architect to jobless to advertising sales person to magazine publisher owning my own magazine. In a year.

I would have never done that without this system.

Obviously today I don’t haul that big leather bound book around everywhere, although I still have it.

I do all my stuff on the computer.

I’ll teach this in a workshop… if you are interested.

How much? Haven’t decided. Email me or comment if you think you’d participate at whatever price I set… given that your life depends on it.

I’ll set the price when I’ll know who and what…

Before you say yay or nay, let me measure your important starting point measurements… so I can see where you need the most work.

Get your Starting Point Measurements

Is focus useful or harmful? It depends…

Sometimes the teacher fails to tell you the crucial, most important thing that they should tell you… not out of malice, but out of not knowing that it matters.

No matter what is the topic, the area, this happens all the time.

If you don’t get the results your teacher promised, this is probably what’s going it, this is probably what went on.

Why wide angle, big picture attitude on the hammer exercises is the winning way to do it?

How you do anything is how you do everything. Continue reading “Is focus useful or harmful? It depends…”

Your direction is more important than your speed…

…In everything.

There is a very educational tale in the 67 steps that few consider life altering. I do.

An airplane makes an emergency landing in the jungle. The plane carried a group of engineers to a meeting.

The engineers developed a superior way to cut the branches and trees at a precise 45 degrees, and they were cutting a path with good speed.

A non-engineer passenger, in the meantime, climbed a tall tree and looked around He saw habitation from there… the path cut by the efficient engineers ran in the wrong direction… Continue reading “Your direction is more important than your speed…”

Before a breakthrough you’ll have immense suffering

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‘There are people who take the heart out of you, and there are people who put it back,’ wrote author Charles de Lint. According to my analysis of the astrological omens, your heart will encounter far more of the latter than the former types of people in 2020. There may be one wrangler who tries to take the heart out of you, but there will be an array of nurturers who will strive to keep the heart in you — as well as boosters and builders who will add even more heart.’ my horoscope by Rob Brezsny came in the mail today.

It’s been hard to be me. Continue reading “Before a breakthrough you’ll have immense suffering”

The third brain… immersion: the secret to mastery

There are, in my experience, three thinking brains, at least potentially, in every human…

The first thinking brain

The first thinking brain, the mind, that is in cahoots, in collusion with the selfish gene, works against you. That is what creates a life of reactivity, full of fear, full of anxiety, full of sharp turns and devastating jerks. I’ve lived there… and I hated it. Continue reading “The third brain… immersion: the secret to mastery”