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Persistence is one of the top five character traits of successful people… Why is it so rare?

I did something today I had never done: I listened to the same 67-step the second time. Step 66 on persistence… (The Persistent Widow…)

And I heard something differently this time.

The rapper, @50cent says that people don’t stick with anything, because they get bored easily. He calls going beyond boredom devotion. ¹

This is what today’s article is about. The phenomenon of getting bored… or getting devoted.

Bored is the result of an attitude… the attitude of being aloof, being separate, not giving oneself fully over.

In the beginning, if we are lucky, right after we are born we are reunited with our mother and there is a bonding.
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Where do you look to answer the question: “how are you feeling?”

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I love learning. Even if the learning is preceded, or a result of some bad experience… even if it is pain…

You learn nothing from pleasant, or good, or happy.

You can only learn from bad, mistakes, wrong steps, screw-ups, or failures.

If you are willing. If you are not willing, then you’ll never learn. And if the glove doesn’t fit… don’t wear it.

I talked to two clients yesterday.

I asked one how he was feeling. I already knew because I had run his numbers, but I was curious how he felt about how he felt. Continue reading “Where do you look to answer the question: “how are you feeling?””

You… the good, the bad, and the ugly. Team you…

Yesterday I shared with you the evolution of my Self. It’s like Beethoven’s Fifth… Victorious.

When you look at what I wrote and your life, you may get depressed, feel inferior, and go into despair.

Don’t.

First off: don’t compare. It is comparing apples to oranges… your job is not to live my life: it is my job.
Second: you can’t see everything in another’s life… so you are jumping the gun.

Here is dark stuff in mine…
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Smart phone and your Twitchy Little Bastard Score?

If you have a smart phone… What is it doing to your Twitchy Little Bastard Score?

Warning: this article is half teaching half ranting… Consider yourself warned!

As you know the most reliable indicator whether you’ll have a good life or not is your TLB score.

We could say that your worth a damn factor is very close to your TLB score… And whether you are worth a damn, is clearly indicative of the quality of life you’ll live, the kind of friends you’ll have, the kind of money your can make, consistently, and the kind of intimate relationships you can form and maintain.

Tai Lopez says… one of the high achievers said it… that it is awareness.

But this was said before the age of the smart phones.

Today the amount of time you are willing to spend without your phone is a better indicator than your education, your IQ, all you could do if you had time… almost anything.

Why?

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My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel

The inspiration to coach using Tai Lopez’s 67 steps came from one of my all time favorite books, the Neal Stephenson novel, Diamond Age.

In that novel, science fiction, far in the future, a scientist puts together an interactive book, a primer, for a rich and influential client’s grand daughter. And then he steals it… meaning: duplicates it without permission.

He means to give it to his daughter, but accidentally it goes to a very young, very poor, very disadvantaged girl, Nell.

Nell grows into a veritable person and a hero as a result of interacting with the book.

Not READING the book, but interacting with the book… doing what the book says to do, answering the book’s questions, etc.

It is not what she learned from the book that made her a person, by the way. It is the constant redirecting the book provided. Getting to know herself. Minding her job as a person… not worrying about others’ opinion of her, or what she is doing, of what one is supposed to do. Continue reading “My 67 step coaching program was inspired by a Neal Stephenson novel”

To put the spring back into the old mattress

“To put the spring back into the old mattress” ²

I heard that expression yesterday in a movie, and loved it. I wrote it down. Because that is what our work is about. Putting the spring back into the old mattress…

It could be said about you.

Most of you were happy little children once, even if life was tough. Even if bad things happened to you or around you. You jumped out of bed looking forward to the day ahead!

I remember I was, even though I had bad things happen to me.

And then, slowly, gradually, the inner turmoil, the inner misery set in, and now the misery is there, most of the time.

You may even have periods when it feels like someone or something is trying to annihilate you. You think it’s a psychic attach. And it is… except that it isn’t coming from the outside.

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Without trust there cannot be humility… Without humility there is no growth

As we saw, the two capacities, humility: (saying: I don’t know), and seeing the big picture/looking at the thing inside the big picture, are the most predictive of people who can and will correct their faulty mental picture of reality.

Of these humility is primary.

Humility is what gets us out of our head, and makes us look again.

The mood of this: maybe I didn’t see it right!

We all know people who didn’t look twice, and walked into a trap, walked into disaster with their heads high, no idea that the trap is there.

And how you do anything is how you do everything. So if that is you: it is all over the place for you, in every area of your life.
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Raising your vibration? Are you sure that is what you want? Or do you just want to feel good about yourself?

Are you sure that what you want is Raising your vibration? Or do you just want feel good about yourself?

When people come to my site, buy a product or sign up to my mailing list, I ask them what they expect to find, what they expect to get.

Ultimately I find out that they don’t know what vibration is, but they want to feel better. Feel better physically, feel better about their lives, feel better about themselves, without doing anything, changing anything.

They want it to done for them.

They may be willing to pop some pills, listen to some audios, drink some magical potions, but that’s it.

99% of my site’s visitors are not willing to inconvenience themselves in any way.

They want the same life, do the same things, the exact same way, but have a different result: feel better.

When I get a person to ask me to measure their vibration, 50% of them know that their vibration is low, and agree with the number I send their way.
The other half argues: “But I am such a nice person. Kind, caring, volunteer saving cats, blah blah blah”
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The pain of being devalued…

We all have a need to fulfill others expectations of us, and also some of us have the need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves.

Now, what if someone says something about you, or something that you like, find important, says something that conflicts with what you think about yourself, your self-image? Your I you consider your Self. (it isn’t… by the way)

Your experience is that you are devalued. ³

The lower your vibration, the more it hurts.

And when someone puts down a thing or a person we have liked, then we feel devalued by association.

This can happen quite frequently if you hang out with me…
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Failing at raising your vibration? I dug deep for this…

One of the missing pieces that you are missing, is not only missing for lack of ability, but…

The missing piece is seeing the result of what you are seeing in the big picture view, and check it against the probability of being accurate.

I am pretty good at it.

I am an architect, a structural engineer, and I had to do that every day for 21 years.

But…

In 1971, I got my diploma, and it was going to be my last full summer. I had no income, I had no money. So I took a job waitressing in a coffee shop.
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