Most people experience stress and suffer from it. But you don’t have to, unless…

Most people experience stress and suffer from it. But you don’t have to, unless…

Most people experience stress and suffer from it

stress-job-interviewStress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouse the body for emergency action.

You probably think that stress is the same for everyone, that stress is a physical reality, but it doesn’t seem to be that way.

There is no such thing as stress. Stress only exists when someone says so: it is a lot like most people we deal and struggle with in life: made up by humans. Not real…
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Tai Lopez’s 5 Steps To ‘The Good Life’

Tai Lopez’s 5 Steps To ‘The Good Life’

tai-party-croppedI am a coach. But spirituality is a tricky thing: not much action: most things happen on the inside as a result of some shift.

But… but it is only possible to coach someone who is in action.

For decades I tried to coach people who weren’t… and it was a waste of my efforts. Decades. I hated my life… 🙁

Finally I wisened up when I myself bought Tai’s program and started to do it.

It was action. Daily or five times a week action. I either did it or didn’t do it. I either paid attention or I didn’t. I was either humble and soaked it up like a sponge, or judged it. I was either growing or shrinking. It had a what and it had a how aspect. Excellent.

I saw that it is the perfect thing for my clients and students to do: do the 67 steps… and then suddenly there will be sense in coaching them. 1
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Why you are unhappy when you are unhappy

Why you are unhappy when you are unhappy

This is a brilliant article… except one thing: I see this same thing across the board, across all ages. 20 to 70…

So this article is probably written about you, accurately, if you are not happy when you are not happy.

Why Generation Y Yuppies, and you! Are Unhappy By Tim Urban

Say hi to Lucy. lucy

Lucy is part of Generation Y, the generation born between the late 1970s and the mid 1990s.  She’s also part of a yuppie culture that makes up a large portion of Gen Y.

I have a term for yuppies in the Gen Y age group—I call them Gen Y Protagonists & Special Yuppies, or GYPSYs.  A GYPSY is a unique brand of yuppie, one who thinks they are the main character of a very special story.

So Lucy’s enjoying her GYPSY life, and she’s very pleased to be Lucy.  Only issue is this one thing:

Lucy’s kind of unhappy.

To get to the bottom of why, we need to define what makes someone happy or unhappy in the first place.

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I have been in a special place where words are not

I have been in a special place where words are not

whereof-one-cannot-speak-thereof-one-must-be-silent-quote-1I have been in a special place where words are not…

I remember in Landmark Education I heard “Whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent.”~Wittgenstein

I had no idea what it meant… I felt it. I felt it solemn, I felt it exuberant, I felt it exhilarating, I felt it divine.

And then 20 years passed… lots of talking… words and more words. Continue reading “I have been in a special place where words are not”

The ability to be in awe. how will it matter for your life?

The ability to be in awe. how will it matter for your life?

aweSometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine~Alan Turing

I watched yet another movie about Alan Turing and how his machine won the war against Nazi Germany.

I would not be around without him. My parents, my race would have perished. And you would live a totally different life… The book (and the Amazon series) The Man in the High Castle approximates…

I am in awe. With what he did, with who he was, with genius winning, with goodness winning.

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Do you have opportunities to break out from your routine?

Do you have opportunities to break out from your routine?

the-2-percentFor me holidays are important, because they are not routine. And because it is so easy to be in a routine, and not consider it a rut… even I need something outside to change to take a different look at my own life, at my own business.

This time around I finally was willing to admit that my site needs redesigning.

I am not willing to overhaul it completely, but I am willing to make it completely compatible with mobile devices: already more than 50% of all visits are from mobile devices. I have been acting in concert with the 5% tweak principle I learned from Tai
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The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity you rush into… headfirst…

The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity you rush into… headfirst…

actions-over-wordsThe hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity do you rush into… headfirst… That activity can be four kinds… four conative types, four types of conative actions… reading, planning, action, and execution.

Scientific name for your “how” is Conation. It is innate, and it is NOT changeable.

Regardless… I have been looking at taming my own… I find that it is not tamable. It is what it is.

But I have come to suspect that what you do after you do what your Conation makes you do is when the magic happens.

You see, all people belong to three types. People who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who wonder what happened. But all three types will, if you ask them, explain why they did what they did… and it will be all a lie. A big fat lie. Continue reading “The hardest pull to resist is the pull of your “how” nature. Or what type of activity you rush into… headfirst…”

The story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing…

The story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing…

the history of kings in BritainThe story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing… either way it’s the context of your life

Your story can be your personal story. Telling what happened from your personal point of view. No creativity is required: it’s already applied generously.

Why? How? Anything that happened is turned into words… and words, whenever applied, create a story, a story line, an interpretation. Filters added creatively… Skewed.

Your story can be the story of your heritage. No matter how you tell this story: it is filtered through opinions, beliefs, and other filters.

You think a story tells something about the past.

But a story tells your future: reliably. Continue reading “The story. Your story. It is either inspiring or it is depressing…”

Life is pain. Anyone who says differently is lying

Life is pain. Anyone who says differently is lying

discover-the-oceanWith some movies I ponder for years why I liked it.

One of these movies is The Princess Bride. Why do I love The Princess Bride? Why do I watch it a few times a year, especially when my energy level is low?

Because, for me, the movie is about persistence. It’s about working towards something remote and maybe even impossible, and yet…

There are a ton of amazing quotable sayings in that movie… here is one:

Buttercup: You mock my pain!
Man in Black: Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.


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On fools and wise people… the fool never learns…

On fools and wise people… the fool never learns…

isocrates-quote“It is more important to know where you are going than to get there quickly. Do not mistake activity for achievement.”

I am old. And pretty much alone in the world. Not lonely. Alone.

How I do is entirely up to me. No support system, no cushion, flying without a net.

The notion has different effect on people. The effect is on their actions… or more precisely, on the attitude with which they take the actions.