Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Are you Frank or Matt when it comes to Self-Actualization

I am republishing this article from four years ago… because even though it doesn’t say fixed mindset and growth mindset it is about that…

Frank and Matt… the two archetypes of seekers in all areas of life. relationship seekers, weight loss, prosperity, mindset, spirituality… seekers are seekers!

I got an email in my inbox from a marketing teacher of mine today.

I liked the subject line. I followed the link. I found a fascinating article.

It is about marketing, or better said, two types of marketers, two types of seekers of success, one is Frank the other is Matt.

Frank and Matt are two different types of marketers. But… Continue reading “Are you Frank or Matt when it comes to Self-Actualization”

Who are you being? What is your beingness?

Your being is a paradigm and things show up consistent with your beingness, aka who you are being.

Your being is either a default being or something invented.

A being is always the result of some speaking, inside or outside.

I speak often about turning points in my life. Turning points are points in time where who you are changes… ¹

One of them turning points, suddenly I remember, was in 1975. I just left a job where I was unhappy. Nothing new about that: I was happy only a few of the 17 years while I worked as an architect.

I made a decision based on a temporary emotion early that year, and went to a small firm with a good looking boss. I slept with him, and began a descent to a bad place. Really bad…

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What keeps you from what you want? Can you change it?

The world has never been so divided.

The dividing criteria is intellectual and spiritual abilities, the ability to tell truth from falsehood. To interact with reality the way reality is… not how it should be.

The stupid is becoming stupider, and the smart remains the same. Said in another way: the underachiever is stuck there… and more are joining him. ²

In this article I’ll look what may be a linchpin issue, and how you can start moving from the hopelessly stupid to the smart camp.

Here are a few contenders to being the linchpin issue:

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High vibration – low vibration: what does it really signify? What does it really mean?

Everyone wants to have their vibration measured. But they don’t know how to measure vibration, and they don’t know what the number they get means.

This is an old article that is as relevant today as it was when I wrote it. It clarifies what low vibration, high vibration is, and how to raise your vibration…

I woke up late today. I could recall my dream. It was nightmarish, but it was a guidance dream. A first in a long long time.

I was in a mental hospital, in Hungary, talking to my psychiatrist; young,innocent, pregnant, terrified of me.

I was explaining that we all have a dark side, as long as the light source is outside of ourselves. She asked: even a sheet of paper has a dark side? Yes, no matter how thin paper is it has a dark side.

Slice it even thinner… but…

No matter how thinly you slice the paper, it will still have a dark side and a light side.

That was the dream… the rest of the guidance happened while I was sitting in the cold room on the edge of my bed… the only way to have no dark side is to be the Light.

Which means…
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When the teacher needs to do the work for herself: climbing the Tree of Life

I listened to step two ³ of the 67 steps, I think, the seventh time three days ago, and then again yesterday.

The step is about evolution. Growth. What it takes to grow… personally. It’s also about being adaptable, it’s about adapting.

Adapting is very hard. Why? Because part of adapting is to say no to what you have been saying yes to.

So it is complete upset, confusion, fear, uncertainty, and personally, it feels to me that death would be preferable. That is my 50% TLB speaking.

I always bring the example of climbing the ladder, but it is not how it feels. It feels really jumping. And when both feet are in the air, you don’t know where you are going to land.

I am seeing that in every area of life all the yes’s I am saying are keeping me the same, and I am terrified of saying no to them and saying yes to something else.

It started with my health.
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Confidence? overconfidence? confident or overconfident?

An open and well-reasoned person might be very wrong, even if they’re rightfully confident. A falsely confident person could well be right, even if their confidence is false. Confidence is a feeling, a state of mind, and a way of presenting oneself. It isn’t in itself a good measure of correctness.

False Confidence, overconfidence, confident or overconfident… What is the measure of correctness?

The measure of correctness, (from value science, Axiology,) is clarity. You can be visible, clear and crystal clear. These are categories of how accurately you see reality.
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No man is an island. You need others if you want to succeed… How to get people on your team

One of my students said to me: “you are like a scientist. And yet so much of your work lies in the realm of the not easily measured.“

I have always had a difficulty answering the question: What do you do?

Defining what you do is important. To whom? To you: if you want support. Unless THEY know what you do, they don’t know if they are aligned with what you do or not…

It is a need and a must to “meet the expectation of others”. It is a survival need. You can’t skip it.

Depending on what stage of personal evolution you are, it may be a lot more important to you than meeting your own expectation.
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Judge, Pre-judge people? It’s a cognitive bias…

Judge, Pre-judge people? Pre-judging is a cognitive bias… how to avoid making stupid value judgments…

Our prejudices often rob us from seeing what is in front of us.

Prejudice is a simple two-part word: pre-judge. Meaning: judge from some simple criteria, like the color of someone’s skin, the strength of their grammar, their clothing, or whether they curse or not.

And then we stop looking, because the judgment is already there: this or that.

Pre-judging is a cognitive bias, it is the mind’s attempt to save you time. It is accurate for our purposes of survival, about 60% of the time. 40% of the time it is inaccurate, and leads to stupid, self-defeating decisions.

Most people get married based on a the 40%, hire people, buy stuff, or not buy, reject perfectly good matches. Continue reading “Judge, Pre-judge people? It’s a cognitive bias…”

How I raised my vibration: my secret method revealed.

Kindness reveals the diamond…

Change must begin with clarity of where you are… precision, exactness, all of which you and I have been trying to avoid.

So we make up all kinds of stuff, including the butterfly analogy. After all if you need to go through transformation to become a butterfly, you don’t have to be responsible for any of it… it is a miracle transformation, it is out of your hands.

In this article I’ll show you how I change, from a totally different place, the place of conscious change, where you don’t need a miracle, you don’t need voodoo, where you need work… (Oh no Sophie, not work again!? lol)

I will show you the work that brings out the diamond, the shine, the beauty in us… the best work anyone can ever want or wish for.
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Clarity is power, but meaningless on the Tree of Knowledge

On the Tree of Life (Reality) clarity is the main component of having a winning life.

Clarity, on the Tree of Life, is finding the cause of an effect… Once you know the cause, you can play with it like a musical instrument: you can change out of the cause, you can modulate. Continue reading “Clarity is power, but meaningless on the Tree of Knowledge”