Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

what is intelligence, and what is more intelligent?

The quality of your life depends on your overall intelligence… intellect, body intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, the ability to live a full life, with a range of emotions, and to conquer difficulties, adversities successfully.

You are born with certain DNA defined potentials. No doubt about that. Your ancestry and its habits lead to your DNA being allowing and restrictive, and yet, all human capacities are encoded in your DNA… but what is not needed, what was not needed by your ancestors is dimmed out… “not needed”, Nature decided…
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You need to be astute to know when to pursue a goal and when to quit

My site gets a lot of hits… people looking to find out how they too could become astute…

Astute people are happier, wealthier, more popular than others.

Of course they are looking for a quick fix to what the opposite of astute is: blindness, unawareness, cluelessness, being a bumbling idiot, or not being able tell their elbow from their ass.

I am not talking down at anyone… I was looking at myself to come up with those opposites.

We are clueless some of the time, most of us: most of the time.
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Where do your questions come from? If you even HAVE any

I am asked questions, all the time.

Asking questions is one sign. What kind of questions… that is yet another sign.

And then asking intelligent questions… well, that is quite another matter.

I am going to my memory now, and say what I retained about questions from the book Curious… that the better questions, the more intellectual questions one asks the higher level of evolution the person is.

But no matter what question you ask, the answer, if it sticks strictly to the question, will be on the same level where you asked it from.

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What you don’t know that you don’t know is making you fail

I used to lead introductions to the Landmark Education Forum.

There is a part in the introduction where you attempt to distinguish for people that most of what’s knowable for a human: you don’t know. Moreover: you don’t know what you don’t know.

Then you ask a simple question: Can you give me an example of what you don’t know that you don’t know?
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Goals, path, intentionality, agenda, forcefulness, and Zen

I had an interesting insight this morning. I woke up with the wicked vertigo back… I moved my neck the wrong way in exercise class… And I didn’t experience the despair, and the urgent desire to fix it. Or will it away. I observed it, and the secondary symptoms that go with it.

I live a goal-less life.

I don’t get frustrated, I don’t get excited, I don’t push, I don’t force, I don’t rush. I don’t do things for a reason either.

I do what I do. Some are creative. Some are response. Some are maintenance of stuff. I read, I cook, I try to move my body, I reflect a lot. I notice the birds. I notice the trees. It’s very Zen.
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Are you good enough to achieve your goals?

I suddenly got a glimpse why people are resisting doing my 67 steps coaching.

It came from Step 19 of the 67 steps… where you are asked to budget lots of money to just read… Read anything… Any good book.

And the resistance of people is tremendous. Because… this is what I wrote to a student of mine (whose yet unattainable goal is to make money) in my coaching:

I think admitting that you need to raise your foundation, from which you attempt to make money is difficult, because it is like a summary judgment on YOU…
“do you mean I am not good enough to make money the way I am”
Yes, that may be the truth… Yes, that is what I am saying.
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Quantum Physics seems to say: reality is what you say it is

Sometimes I get really lucky. And if I am ready, prepared, open, and eager for the gift, I can get it, harvest it, and life becomes brighter, by a lot. Clearer… by a lot.

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How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work

Humans are meaning making machines… and are unconscious of the fact that all meaning comes from them.

We want to know what something means, so we can be prepared for the danger or the good fortune that the meaning carries inside it.

But, alas, life is empty and meaningless… intrinsically.

No meaning.

And yet. Meaningful is something we crave… We crave the certainty, we crave the guidance meaningful would give us. Continue reading “How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work”

FOMO and other ways you are not living your own life

I first heard this new thing, FOMO in the book I am reading, Hooked…

I started to read Hooked right after I finished 1984. The perfect order of things…

Because 1984 is about the loss of Self… First loss of thinking (real thinking) and then loss of a sense that you are an individual and what you thing matters, and then a sudden reversal of the natural order: that living matters more than your Self… so when living is threatened you give up your self.

The path to becoming a zombie: in the book.

So let’s see what is the path of becoming a zombie in reality.

If and when you are that somewhere is better than here, something is better than this, and you can lose out… you have already lost your Self.

I am not talking about a fleeting thought or a fleeting sensation: when you become that… fostered by social media, the press, the hook… that is what I am talking about. Continue reading “FOMO and other ways you are not living your own life”

Soul Correction: How do you do it?

Soul correction is the pivoting point, the fulcrum around which a person can go from gene driven to someone who can become, potentially, an expanding human being.

Said in another way, each person has a particular and typical to their soul correction way that is stuck in a lower way of being.

The most frequent question I hear: how do you fix it? or as one my students said it: “this whole thing turns a lot of corners. I’m not sure i can even recognize all the ways i use it. Nor how to climb out of it.”

The answer will surprise you: The moment you are trying to “climb out of it” or “fix it”… you enter a world of pretense.

Both climbing out and fixing are the genes’ way of pulling the wool over your eyes. To push back the hidden deeper into the invisible.

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