Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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I just read an article in the Monday Morning Memo and I cringed. It hit me what b.s. is being propagated as wisdom.
As you have seen, if you have been with me for more than a week, you would know that I knock the idea of beliefs being important to your success in life. And after reading Roy Williams article, I am also going to start knocking the notion that the why is what’s important. Continue reading “Who are you? Are you The Dude, or are you your name?”
About 10 percent of my readers are entrepreneurial minded… the rest… something else.
As I am shifting my focus to whom I can really help, new issues are coming up…
Growing is being entrepreneurial… by the way. Remember? There is growth mindset and there is fixed mindset…
And if you have the ambition to grow, you have to watch out for guidance. But you need to remember that Life, the spirit, or whatever it is that wants to guide you does that often in a very subtle way.
I have written about how I experience guidance, but for now I just mention one of them: a sentence I heard back in 2006, and it just popped up again out of nowhere. ‘Learning just in case vs learning just in time‘. One is a waste or time and a pretense, the other is a lifesaver.
Another guidance came just a few weeks ago in a podcast: Don’t start a business, start a project.
Now put the two sentences together and Voilà a really clear guidance.
Continue reading “How you too could start making learning useful”
It’s been stormy here. Lots of rain. The other night a warning went out: a tornado was poised to touch down in Central New York: not a tornado area.
Nothing is wrong: as long as reality works the way reality works, all is well… even if it rains on your parade, even if you hate doing your morning walk trudging through mud, even if you are not prepared like I wasn’t. Continue reading “The Inner Authority that you don’t have but could…”
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Oscar Wilde wrote, ‘…one has to choose between living one’s own life, fully, entirely, completely—or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the world in its hypocrisy demands.‘ The world demands that you always try to be the smartest person in the room…
I saw something today that can be important to for you to learn, because I don’t think you know. It is against everything you have ever thought…
Because it comes from intelligence, not from smart.
Being the stupidest person in the room is the most intelligent move you can ever make… Continue reading “Why you want to be the stupidest person in the room”
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Taking you from smart to intelligent…OK, my intention is to teach you to become intelligent… Lots of people will teach you stuff that is going to help you to regurgitate stuff, look good and smart to others, but is otherwise useless… for life.
So I am really only interested in making you intelligent. And so that you know: intelligence is 70% physical, and only 30% mental. You don’t learn it through mental means: you learn it through being in intimate touch with your physical self, and I am not talking about muscles, and athleticity, I am talking about everything physical, including all the senses, hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting and touching.
OK, after this preamble, we can start… Continue reading “Taking you from smart to intelligent…”
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Good coaching is a bridge… Bad coaching is not.
We all have some area where we don’t already have a bridge, a path, to where we want to be
The bridge is what happens between an idea and its fulfillment, materialization. What happens between a problem and its solution.
Most bridges are connectors between words and actions. Or future words and the process that will make it work. Or teaching and what we actually make of it.
Or maybe our words and the feelings we want to feel, mostly about ourselves…
Words and feelings. Words and doing. Doing and something built in reality. Different ‘modalities’. Continue reading “On coaching: what it is, what it isn’t… It’s a bridge”
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How do you set the price of your product or program? Or help. Or work. That was the question yesterday in my coaching program.
I know you are probably not a product creator, or a coach. But yet you do have a product or a program… if you work for a salary, if you have friends, a spouse, children.
No matter where you are in life, no matter what you do, money comes to you from other people… or love… or support.
The question here is: what are they paying for? What are they reciprocating?
Depending on your about-me score, you’ll have a different answer… Continue reading “Do you have enough? Energy, knowledge, attention, love?”
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What if? Let’s look at it, shall we?
You see, the ‘mind’ is only concerned with future… while it squarely looks at the past. Yeah, the mind looks in the direction of the future, but it looks at the rear view mirror…
And it makes its decisions from the past, past failures, past track record, past mistakes, past pains and punishments.
Moreover, the mind is only interested in the bad stuff… it wants to protect you from it.
I have a track record of 70% good decisions, and I can see what the mind is doing: it looks straight at the 30%… not at the good decisions. Continue reading “I am not ready! What if I choose the wrong path?”
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The other day, during the Integrity Workshop, the urgent sound of police sirens attempted to interrupt the flow of the workshop: every fiber of my being wanted to run to the front room window to find out what happened…
Anything to break the monotony of living an a hill, at the dead part of a dead end street… in the midst of a pandemic. I am nosy to a fault. Continue reading “Interrupt the patterns that keep you stuck”
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I’ve done thousands of starting point measurements, muscletest 34 things about you, that measure the inner struggle between the predatory genes, the soul, and the spirit.
It is one thing to do thousands of these, and quite another to measure the same person monthly, or frequently. The insights come from seeing what behaviors, what moods, what results correlate with what measurements.
In this article I will talk about those correlations, in the context of power vs. force, spirit vs. predatory genes.
I’ll begin with a little history: the term predatory genes came from a book, The Cure by Douglas Richards.
