Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

A rocket ship drops what would tether it to Earth

Birds, reptiles, bugs molt… mammals shed.

Molting is a tool. You outgrow who you were, and shed the old size.

Humans are mammals and they don’t molt. Culling is the design to cause evolution for mammals. More about that in another article…

Humans haven’t changed, inside, the who hasn’t changed for 100,000 years.

In this article I teach you how to molt, even if other humans don’t. How to use molting to become better and better version of yourself. So you can build a better and better life for yourself. Continue reading “A rocket ship drops what would tether it to Earth”

Your life, driven by your concerns, will…

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You can have two kinds of attitude in life, and which one you have will decide what kind of life you’ll live.

And no, it is not innate. You are not born with it, you assumed that attitude, for reasons of your own.

The two attitudes are

1. coming from
2. going to

I measure this in the Starting Point Measurements as outcome dependence.

I measure to what degree you hope, expect, effort, work, pretend, lie, cheat so that you get what you want. Security, health, wealth, love, fulfillment, happiness…

You want Life, people, society to give you that you want… And your happiness, fulfillment, etc. depend on what you get. Continue reading “Your life, driven by your concerns, will…”

Coming from vs Going to: you’ve always been going to

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Summary: from the comments and email I am getting it is clear that the concept of starting with HAPPY is totally inconceivable to most of you. In my response to a comment I managed to express the essence of it: It is like the skin color you have, it is part of you.

In the ‘HAPPY’ I advocate, where you start with HAPPY, stay HAPPY, end HAPPY.

It’s not a result. It is who you are.

You do what needs to get done to grow, and you are HAPPY while doing it. You are not ‘happy’ to do it, that would be something else again. You are HAPPY, just like you don’t change your skin color according to the type of task you do in life. You stay white, or pink, or yellow, or black… whatever you started with.

It is as if you said ‘I am white’ if you were born white. And then you live according to that.’ Continue reading “Coming from vs Going to: you’ve always been going to”

What is really the strait and narrow in real life?

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I assume that the Bible is talking about strait and narrow spiritually.

And then there are sermons, and teachings, and mimes about it, because it’s not working. people don’t know what to do with it.

But strait and narrow is a very potent medicine. It could heal a lot of the ills that anyone can experience.

So what are the ills of people, what are the ills of society that strait and narrow, and its brother strait and deep could reverse?

Inversion is a great tool to start with. Continue reading “What is really the strait and narrow in real life?”

Want to get the most? focus on one thing at a time

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If you want to get the most: focus on one thing in a program

In my Friday Podcast with Bonnie this past Friday it became clear that the methodology of using courses, coaching calls, programs is not taught anywhere, so each person feels that they need to make up their own method. Each coach, each participant.

By methodology I mean: how to get the most out of a course, a coaching call, a program.

In this article I’ll teach the most effective way to get the most out of anything. Literally anything you do. Continue reading “Want to get the most? focus on one thing at a time”

Methods of getting unstuck… getting unstuck needs energy!

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If you know you are stuck… stuck in a rut, stuck in a behavior, in a cycle, in a predictable outcome, or maybe you are stuck on a plateau… What you may want to consider that you need energy to move away from that place.

In this article I’ll show you two methods to create the energy to move. Continue reading “Methods of getting unstuck… getting unstuck needs energy!”

Can The Sight be useful if you habitually don’t look?

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The willingness to look is a behavior, it’s an attitude, and therefore cannot be activated.

If you act without looking, or if you act from what you stored in your mind, then the activator of the capacity to see the consequences of your actions won’t make any difference.

There is a prerequisite to seeing: and that is looking. Continue reading “Can The Sight be useful if you habitually don’t look?”

The parallels, the differences between Robert Greene and me

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It was Apr 9, 2021

I spent that whole day watching Robert Greene, listening to him, reading him… And had a question to you:

What is the difference between a worldview where you look through definitions and a worldview where you look through distinctions.

Definition vs distinction

The first thing to do is to see what is a definition. Whatever you define: you talk about it. It’s characteristics, and you try to be as descriptive and as exactly as possible. Continue reading “The parallels, the differences between Robert Greene and me”

What do I intend to leave behind as my legacy?

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You live a sheltered life. Either restricted to a small area of the world physically, or to a small area of the world experientially.

So you, just like your cone of vision would predict, have a very narrow slice of reality (the pizza pie) ever seen, heard of, played in, experienced.

One of my 67 step coaching clients says in her reports, on average 10 times each report ‘Wow! I have never thought of that’. ‘I have never considered that’. ‘Hm, I’ve never heard that before’.

Each time she says that her slice of pizza becomes just a little bit bigger. Continue reading “What do I intend to leave behind as my legacy?”

Everybody wants to be special… But it’s a bad idea!

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Santa Klaus’s name is Mikulás in Hungary, and of course Mikulas is Saint Nicholas, and his day is December 6. So today it is gift giving day in Hungary, mostly candy and nuts and red apples… as the song goes… in Hungarian.

When people come to me to have their food list muscletested, they rarely think that the food list will ask them to go back a couple of generations to a time when eating was different: you had to buy ice to have an icebox… You gave away half of your venison, or it would rot on you. You stored up goodwill for other times by sharing when it was plenty.

I am old enough to remember those times. Continue reading “Everybody wants to be special… But it’s a bad idea!”