16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor

16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor
16 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

What can it be that causes you to be less popular than most?

Why do you miss out on invitations and frequently feel like a Billy-No-Mates?

Or do you feel that your career is suffering because you’re alienating superiors and co-workers alike?

Let’s take a look at some possible factors. Continue reading “16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor”

You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?

You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?

I am reading many books, many articles.

They all say that my life could be better, would be better if I just looked at the bright side of things.

But that… looking at only the bright side of things, actually leads to a boring, inauthentic life.

What makes good good is the contrast… No bad? Not looking at it? there suddenly isn’t good either… only boring, dull, dead. And you can’t sleep… Continue reading “You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?”

The Third Kind of Depression to beat: simple but not easy

The Third Kind of Depression to beat: simple but not easy

depression is a sign that you are unwilling to hit bottom. when you hit bottom, there is the beginning of coming upThis article, unintentionally, has two parts. They are loosely connected. One part is about hitting bottom, the second part is about getting out of the judgment, getting out of the systemic value paradigm where you have no future.

Depression Is A Sign That You Are Unwilling To Hit Bottom.

Continue reading “The Third Kind of Depression to beat: simple but not easy”

By nature, men are nearly alike ~ Confucius

By nature, men are nearly alike ~ Confucius

By nature, men are nearly alike; by practice/culture, they get to be wide apart. ~ Confucius

or by another great Chinese philosopher, Mengzi:

…if the people ‘are full of food, have warm clothes, and live in comfort but are without instruction, then they come close to being animals

Can you, do you ever contemplate what is the measure you could change? Change so you can be a high achiever, a high earner, a popular person, or even just healthier? Continue reading “By nature, men are nearly alike ~ Confucius”

Why those successful people became successful and not you?

Why those successful people became successful and not you?

You are Stuck…

Stuck without a solution, stuck in a tight spot, stuck in a relationship, stuck with an irrevocable promise, stuck in a job, stuck behind… Stuck. And stuck is stuck.

This is the landscape of our life. NORMAL.

Whether we verbalize it or not, we feel stuck. life seems to work against us, and we feel we are a poor match to deal with what we need to deal with. Continue reading “Why those successful people became successful and not you?”

Coming Out Of Grief – The Process And the Problem

Coming Out Of Grief – The Process And the Problem

grief replaced angerThis article deals with the stages of healing, healing your grief. Denial, anger, fear, and so on.

The most important distinction I can add is: check your cone of vision. If your cone of vision is narrow, everything is colored or filled with your grief: the context of life becomes your grief, independent of the content of life.

In addition to that, when you are grief stricken, you start interacting with unreality, and avoid reality. Continue reading “Coming Out Of Grief – The Process And the Problem”

Why you may be tired, maybe depressed, maybe just listless

Why you may be tired, maybe depressed, maybe just listless

I have been tracking the mornings when I wake up with this ‘why bother? it is not going to work!’ feeling for a while. I am tired. Even resting doesn’t feel good. There is no future, nothing to look forward to.

The most exciting thing is the first sip of tea. and the only exciting thing is the same. The sip of tea.

One of those mornings was today. Continue reading “Why you may be tired, maybe depressed, maybe just listless”

Why do you want to know your soul’s purpose?

Why do you want to know your soul’s purpose?

You want to know what is your soul’s purpose so you can start to live the life of your dreams. You are waiting to do the right thing… but there is a problem.

If and when the right thing comes along, will you be ready for it?

It has taken me 60 years to become ready to do what I do, and although most things are not as complicated and demanding as returning humanity to the Original Design, most things require you to know how to do quite a few things. Continue reading “Why do you want to know your soul’s purpose?”

Pick your battles… And win the war of life

Pick your battles… And win the war of life

Pick-your-battlesEvery Tuesday my driver picks me up and takes me shopping, to the chiropractor, and other errands.

It makes me look like an old lady, but that doesn’t make me an old lady. Yet it took me quite a while to warm up to the idea of having no wheels of my own.

I pay her $30 cash, and I didn’t have any cash yesterday. So I paid with my debit card and asked for $40 cash back. I normally use the self-checkout line, faster for me. Continue reading “Pick your battles… And win the war of life”

In a guru-disciple relationship: who has the power?

In a guru-disciple relationship: who has the power?

When someone insults you and you react… Who has the power?

I mean who has YOUR energy? I don’t imply that they can use that energy for themselves. I don’t imply that they can use that energy for anything… yet, you don’t have it. You gave it away.

  • What power am I talking about?
  • What energy am I talking about?
  • And most importantly, what the heck do I mean when I talk about power?

Let’s state it, so we mean the same thing. Continue reading “In a guru-disciple relationship: who has the power?”