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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
This article is about using guidance, but not for its truth value, but in spite of its truth value. 1
Tai’s 67 steps program coupled with my coaching is the perfect growth program.
It’s not because of me, it is not because of the steps either but because of its structural essence.
Continue reading “Long winter may be the secret of high achievers”
There are tons of coaches, coaching companies, transformational coaches, etc.
Bloggers teaching you tools of success, tools of happiness, etc.
Tons of books… courses… programs.
I have known for a long time that when people followed what was taught they would end up unhappier than they were before. I have tested it, observed it, and have pondered it. Continue reading “No coach has helped you to become happier”
When we live on the 14th and the 15th floor of our being, where words and the added emotional content govern our lives, we are utterly miserable. We have no control over our emotions: others have, words have.
We eat the menu, not the meal. We chase worthless and useless temporary “values”… and we hurt. Continue reading “On the 13th floor words don’t have emotional meaning”
When you live on the 14th-15th floors of your being, the ground of your being comes from there too.
Let’s first look what is the ground of your being, the floor on which everything is built that is compatible with that floor.
On the 13th floor the ruler is Life. Nature. The Universe. No interpretation. Life, nature, the universe gives you your actions, your attitudes, your interpretation of events.
Virtues live on the 13th floor, because virtues are a Yes to life. Anything gets evaluated by that question: is it a Yes to life or a no to life.
Is it part of the flow, or is it a blockage to the flow. Blockages need to go. Attitudes, needs, wants, habits, activities that are a no to life, that don’t fit the flow of life, Nature, the Universe, must go, because it is evil. Against life. Continue reading “The ground of your being comes from where you live”
From time to time a student or client confides in me that they resent being told what to do.
I find that really funny, especially when they paid me well for telling them what to do.
But such is human nature… or is that human nature?
This question is what this article is about. How do you know it is you and not some addon making your decisions for you? Continue reading “Who and what is making your decisions, your attitude, your behavior?”
It’s Tuesday, and my Rob Brezsny horoscope arrived this morning.
It addressed something I wanted to address, because it is important: treating yourself well by providing yourself with what you need to be well, to do well, to feel well.
You treat your pets better than yourself.
If you were only judgmental and stingy with others, that would be one thing. But you are stingy with yourself.
You judge yourself harshly, you treat yourself badly, and you skimp on yourself first.
Consider yourself your own child, or your own pet? And your relationship, your treatment of it public.
A lot of people, in private, abuse with impunity, but would not dare do the same in public, or when someone can see it. They fear judgment. Continue reading “Is happiness even possible? Is self-hate, self-punishing a good path to it?”
Ignorance: ignorance is a two part notion: not knowing with a certain attitude. 2
A child who goes to first grade doesn’t know how to find another country on another continent on the map… and yet we don’t call him ignorant. He is in the process of learning that… maybe at fifth grade.
But if he doesn’t wash his hands after he uses the bathroom… we will call him ignorant.
Why? because ignorance is not knowing what you could be expected to know, given your age, your education level. Or not knowing what you are talking about and talking anyway.
Continue reading “Ignorance: what is under the cover?”
In my quest to find like-minded people, who want to better humanity, I am watching videos, and am exposed the feelings of the speaker, commentator, or whoever is in the video.
What prompted this article is a bout of weeping… for no reason.
I am sitting here examining the context inside which this happened, and I Have had no reason to be sad, to weep. Continue reading “What is the purpose of life? how to live it on Life’s terms?”
One of my favorite quotes from an ad is from the Men’s Hair Club… where the owner says: “I’m not just the president of Hair Club for Men, I’m also a client!”
I would never want to do business with anyone who is not also a client of their own business…
And of course, I am a client of my own. Meaning: I learn from what I write… and I learn and test everything first, before I recommend it…
With that said: to date the two most valuable nuggets I got out of my participation in my 67 step coaching program are:
Continue reading “If the mountain won’t come to you, go to the mountain”
Starting tomorrow… at 4 pm.
Why it is nearly impossible to change… unless…
Landmark Education has a process for leaders called clearing.
Clearing is probably the most effective tool to, at least temporarily, allow for change.
Clearing is saying, listing, everything that is in the way of change… with the intention to question its trueness, question its validity.
People watch you, listen to you, and depending on their own attitude, they hear dumping, they hear gossiping, they hear complaining.
But the intention, the wording, the tone of voice is all serving one thing: so the current personal reality, the inner map, disappears and allows space for a new reality to be spoken into its place.
Continue reading “Take back your power, take back your freedom, take back your peace of mind”
