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The foolproof path to NOT having a life worth living

Today’s article deals with what makes life good, what makes life worth living… and what doesn’t…

No exceptions… by the way. So let’s start: Humans want something to thrive for… humans want to feel that tomorrow will be better than today. When they can’t feel it, they feel that life isn’t good. But how to have a life worth living?

The totally unorthodox way to set a direction for your life that works better than anything I have ever observed

What I set up for myself back in 1997 is still working, and working well.

Another one that I set about three years ago still has power, so I won’t be able to use my own example… I’ll have to use clients’ examples… Continue reading “The foolproof path to NOT having a life worth living”

Your complaints: What is the source of your misery?

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I have been pondering a student’s email all morning.

Today I was observing as the machine isn’t interested in going through a process to win: it prefers winging it… Go directly to the top, or zig-zag… with no rhyme and reason.

And then… suddenly, uninvited, a series of connected memories surfaced.

The the captivating story of a 13 year old killing his abusive father, becoming a cross-dresser… pondering if homosexuality is genetic, or imprinted (brain plasticity). I think about the Royals’ sexual behavior. I think about the beautiful enchantress becoming pockmarked from smallpox… to yet another movie’s heroine, face marred with smallpox… rejected by many, and accepted by the one she loved.

And at that I cried.

The insight: the crying, came from a ‘wrong’ I experienced as a child. Continue reading “Your complaints: What is the source of your misery?”

You don’t see… and you don’t even see that you don’t see

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You don’t see… and you don’t even suspect there is anything to see

Almost all the things you want are there, already, but you can’t see… They are not hidden, they are in plain view, but you look straight at them, and to you they are invisible.

What the F… right? Continue reading “You don’t see… and you don’t even see that you don’t see”

How to insult a whole subcontinent? Say you don’t like…

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How to insult a whole subcontinent? Say you don’t like their food…

Back in 1970, my mother hosted a symposium on some urban planning issue… and a few American professors attended. At a dinner my mother asked me to attend, I spoke to those professors, and they liked me… This was a year before I graduated from architecture school, I was offered a scholarship to Princeton University to get another degree, in urban planning. I had no idea what urban planning was really… but regardless I said… No, thank you.

I said, Naaaay, I am not interested. The professors didn’t even blink. Continue reading “How to insult a whole subcontinent? Say you don’t like…”

If you are stuck… why are you stuck? Energetically…

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You are, energetically, stuck because you don’t see. You don’t see because you are not even looking… or if you are, you are looking at what keeps you stuck, what you have seen a thousand times… and it is not even real.

This article will provide an explanation and a remedy that is not just a set of good ideas you can read anywhere… good ideas that don’t work but sound good. Like the whole f-ing self-improvement industry keeps on giving you.

You have low productivity (if you have any productivity at all) because you are in reaction mode.

What? Read on… Continue reading “If you are stuck… why are you stuck? Energetically…”

What nobody told you about changing what you get…

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Is it really true that no amount of talk therapy, self-talk, mindfulness, meditation, no amount of tapping, hypnosis, shock therapy can change what you get? That Landmark Education produces the same meager results as Tony Robbins, or any other known or unknown entity, claiming to transform your life?

Can you do what Gandhi taught? BE the change you want in the world? He couldn’t either! Continue reading “What nobody told you about changing what you get…”

What’s your strategy? Do you have one?

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What’s your strategy?

This is the most important question to ask yourself if you want to build a business, expand a business, or change a business. Or if you want to accomplish anything really… anything that requires more steps and more time that just making your bed in the morning.

What is a strategy?

According to the dictionary: a plan of action to achieve a major or overall aim or result

Strategy is essentially the bridge between where you are and your vision.

It’s also a narrative that takes the listener from how it is now through what it takes to get to the fulfillment of the plan: expanding, balding or changing the business or a project.

Unless it is clear for the listener that the actions listed in the narrative will surely get the speaker to the role, the likelihood of the goal to be accomplished is between zero and none. You can be both the speaker and the listener in this. Continue reading “What’s your strategy? Do you have one?”

Remembering the future… or how to cause self-trust?

Remembering the Future…

This methodology is revolutionary… but let’s not get ahead of ourselves…

What future? What remembering? What can it do? What is self-trust? Is it the same as self-esteem?

Continue reading “Remembering the future… or how to cause self-trust?”

What the heck is a worldview and why can’t you see yours?

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You can’t see your worldview. Or said more accurately: everything you see is a worldview.

View stands for what you see.

Your results, your lifestyle, your actions, your thoughts all come from your worldview.

That is why I likened it to the floor you walk on… before you can change your worldview, you need to be OK for suddenly not have a floor to walk on. Continue reading “What the heck is a worldview and why can’t you see yours?”

Do you have enough? Energy, knowledge, attention, love?

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How do you set the price of your product or program? Or help. Or work. That was the question yesterday in my coaching program.

I know you are probably not a product creator, or a coach. But yet you do have a product or a program… if you work for a salary, if you have friends, a spouse, children.

No matter where you are in life, no matter what you do, money comes to you from other people… or love… or support.

The question here is: what are they paying for? What are they reciprocating?

Depending on your about-me score, you’ll have a different answer… Continue reading “Do you have enough? Energy, knowledge, attention, love?”