Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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One of MY teachers speaks; I wish I had thought of it myself: Why It’s Dangerous To Give Advice

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Why It’s Dangerous To Give Advice by Roy H. Williams, the Wizard of Ads®

I am, by profession, a communications consultant. I craft strategies, write ads and buy media. My clients ask for my advice. They even pay me for it.

Advice is dangerous to give.

If you are thinking, “Yes, it’s dangerous to give advice because your advice might be wrong,” you probably haven’t worked full-time in a focused specialty for 30 years. Yes, there is a chance my advice might be wrong, but that’s not the principal danger.

Advice is always dangerous because a person only needs it when:

  1. they’re making decisions based on incorrect assumptions.
  2. they made a mistake that triggered unhappy repercussions.
  3. they’re looking at a situation from an unproductive angle.

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How Bad Do You Want It? Money, Love, Success?

I love this video. I love it for two reasons:

1. the guy speaking is a good match for what he says, in his energy
2. the answer he comes up is at least in the ballpark (neighborhood) of what the true motivator is.

Watch it, it’s a valuable lesson. If your efforts thus far haven’t taken you closer to what you want, then your answer may lie in the missing component.

Now, if you haven’t gone far in the direction of your wants, it would be a good idea to explore what’s in the way, would not you think?
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I have found a great resource

I am thinking of using Osho’s dynamic meditations to guide people to no-mind. Sneak in a little fun, sneak in physicality, sneak in joy… Instead of the anxiety and seriousness most people relate to the getting-out-of-the-mind issue.

As I was searching to download the music of those great meditations, I found a series of articles and quotes, by Osho, on fake gurus. Here is an article on U.G. Krishnamurti. A few months ago I would not have believed him, but I saw a video on youtube, Krishnamurti on his deathbed, and it was so convincing, that I now believe what Osho says.

Osho Quotes on U G Krishnamurti

Just the other day I was reading a lecture of U. G. Krishnamurti. He says he went to see Ramana Maharshi. He was not attracted — because he was chopping vegetables. Yes, Ramana Maharshi was that kind of man, very ordinary. Chopping vegetables! U. G. Krishnamurti must have gone to see somebody extraordinary sitting on a golden throne or something. Ramana Maharshi just sitting on the floor and chopping vegetables? preparing vegetables for the kitchen! He was very much frustrated.
Then another day he went and saw him reading jokes. Finished for ever! This man knows nothing. This man is very ordinary. He left the ashram; it was not worth it. But I would like to say to you: this man, Ramana Maharshi, is one of the greatest Buddhas ever born to the world. That was his Buddhahood in action!
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Pop Quiz: What Are The 3 Words I want to hear you say To Do A Course With Me?

Pop Quiz: What Are The 3 Words That Pre-Qualify You To Do A Course With Me?

I have been working my ass off, and the work has paid off: I have found something I think is going to revolutionize how I pick who to accept into my programs and who I should not.

Why isn’t it enough that someone wants to give me money?

Great question, and for most teachers that is probably what you would consider the basic condition fulfilled.

On the other hand, because I am an empath, all my courses can be considered 1-on-1 coaching, because I can’t even escape knowing what’s going on with you, how much work you are doing, and how you feel.

My brand of coaching is called “accountability coaching” and it’s a reverse accountability. Most coaches mean that they will hold you accountable. I mean the opposite: I’ll be accountable that you’ll get what you need to get, many times more than what you are paying for.

But is it possible for me to deliver on this accountability if you don’t do the work? If you can’t do the work? If you are not getting it? If you resist it? If you only want to please me? No.

So I have been looking for a criteria that can be measured, that would be a fool-proof sign that you are trainable, that you are willing to be disciplined, and that you are going to do the work: get out of the mind and become a representative of the new humanity.

I could measure your vibrational frequency: but that would inform me about your past, not about your willingness to do the work.
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The Secret Of Real Learning

get out of the mind to get real learning The Secret Of Real Learning

There is knowledge and there is knowledge.

The first one everyone who went to school is familiar with. It is learning what others say about certain things. What others may have discovered, experienced, thought.

You can argue about it. That knowledge is never YOUR knowledge. It becomes stored stuff in the mind.

The second kind of knowledge is earned.

Learning to walk, learning to ride the bike, learning to use your hands to write, draw, or feed yourself. Learning to play tennis, learning to swim.

These are entirely yours, no one can take them away from you, they can’t be forgotten because they are not mind-learning, not memorizing, not understanding, and not logical.

No one can argue them, it is not a matter of opinion, not a matter of point of view.

Schools, regular “education” emphasize mind learning. Mind learning is the great equalizer. It suppresses the other kind of learning, and puts us all into the biological machine, the controllable sheep category.

Almost all of us.

Some of us didn’t take to mind-learning. They call us learning disabled, they call us retarded, they call us names.

The closer you are to learning life the way you learned to ride the bike, the weirder the world considers you. The closer you were to mind learning the better people think of you.
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Your Mind Acts As A Filter. The Filter Decides If You’ll Be A Failure Or A Winner, Not Your Talents, Education, Skills, Or Smarts

the mind is a filter illustrated Your mind acts as a filter. It filters everything. It works 24/7. The filter decides if you’ll be a failure or a winner, not your talents, education, skills, or smarts

What the heck does that mean? Most of us will never get it. Most of us will never experience it.

Why? Because most of us will never see the difference between one filter or another, we are so locked into our fixed filters.

What is a filter anyway? you ask.

Filter is the mind’s distortion of reality, a distortion in your view of existence, in a predetermined way.

Much like a window pane: it is never quite smooth, and as you move your head up and down, or left and right, you can see that the picture you see slightly waves, and gets skewed this way or that.

A not totally smooth window pane is a filter.

The mind’s filters are verbal. In fact, everything that the mind stores is verbal, or words. The distortions are caused by the words.
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Are you stuck with who you are? Watch this video and decide it for yourself…

This is the story of the character played by Leonardo DiCaprio in the movie, Catch Me If You Can. Fascinating, entertaining, educational, and made me weep. Watch it. It’s 36 minutes of educating fun.

The Ticket To Peace of Mind, Grace, Ease, and Power

who are you that you are? How Finding Out What’s Wrong With You Is The Ticket To Peace of Mind, Grace and Ease and Power

I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. Not tears of gratitude, not tears of joy. Just tears.

Most people teach from their mind. Most people teach from the Tree of Knowledge.

Tree of Knowledge, simply, means speaking from what you already know, what you store in your memory.

A “real” teacher is different, and very very rare.

A real teacher is always a student. And as student learn with all the people they teach, at the same time. Not what you would think: they are also taking course, they also have teachers. That is not what I mean. That doesn’t make them real teachers.

A real teacher, like me, learn as they speak.

How is that possible? It’s possible because I do not speak from my mind. I speak from the nothing (space) behind my mind. From the space of mystery, from the space that cannot be known.

That is why I am so nervous, anxious, stiff as a board before I approach a new topic. I have no idea what I am going to say.

This was, exactly, the case yesterday when I lead my first Brilliance at Will class. Looking back, I was exactly as agitated, nervous, stressed out as I used to be, every time, I was going to do the Landmark Education Forum. I did that course 20 times, but it was always from the mystery: what am I going to find out about myself now?
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Why are you stuck in a low vibration consciousness? Is there a way to catapult you to a higher one?

wishful thinking Every Sunday at 9 am I talk to the same guy. We’ve been mastermind partners since we did Pam Ragland’s course together in 2007. I have gone from wherever I was then, forceful and quite miserable, to who I am today: fully immersed in my life’s work: causing the seed of new humanity. (from a vibration of 200 to 990) He stayed the same. (Was 200 then, is 200 now.)

He started with an email he received that lead him to some interesting videos. Videos by David Cameron Gikanti… a “spiritual” money teacher. (It’s all about money for my friend, you’ll see later why…) I muscletested Gikanti at 300… a little low for a spiritual teacher, don’t you think?

Many of our calls start the same way: he sends me to a video, or guru, or program… mostly AFTER he buys it.

The inner mechanism of why he stayed the same is clearly expressed in this conversation: his only act regarding his spiritual development is spending the money on this stuff. Maybe watch or listen, never any doing.

I am a good sport, so I watched the videos of David Gikanti. If you are attracted to them, please listen up. If you are not attracted to them, many people you know do, so please listen up.

David Gikanti panders to the wishful thinker crowd. Much like the paradigm jumping guy, or the remote viewer guy, won’t mention names now.

What does the wishful thinker “thinks?”
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The Nine Phases Of Creation: The Next Phase Is The Phase Of Being One

Here are two videos.

Your assignment is to evaluate which is from a higher consciousness. Also, which one resonates with you more. It will provide you useful self-knowledge… that will be explained in my next post.

David Gikandi’s Nine level of consciousness:

and here is Johan Oldenkamp’s Nine Levels of Creation

Share your insight, if you would. I am really curious.