Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

Advising, giving advice, helping and the evil eye

people-helping-ducklingsUnless it’s your job to give advice, don’t.

Why? Because giving advice comes from your shadow side, from your dark side.

How? When you give advice, you place yourself above the other person. Giving advice is asserting your superiority.

Have you noticed that you can get fired for that? Even if your advice is right on the spot…

By the way: this is true for healers, coaches, salespeople, helpers, charity volunteers, parents, relatives, everyone.
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The cycles of energy: the will to live and its cycles

bipolar cycleSinatra described himself as ‘an 18 karat manic-depressive’, and claimed he had ‘lived a life of violent emotional contradictions’. “I have an over-acute capacity for sadness as well as elation,” he added, hinting at one of the classic symptoms of bipolar disorder.

As I have said in other articles before, we have several cycles going on in our lives.

What I didn’t say about the cycles is this: earliest incidents of disappointment, pain, abuse, loss may create them. The length of the cycle is fixed, and it is correlated to the age when the incident happened. Continue reading “The cycles of energy: the will to live and its cycles”

We all walk around with veils in front of our eyes.

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Warning: this article is a little sloppy… in time I’ll clean it up. I just wanted to get it out. Enjoy.

We tend to see the same thing over and over. It is called: already always listening. Or sometimes it is called “a seeming”. And yet other times it is called prejudice. Continue reading “We all walk around with veils in front of our eyes.”

7 steps to create ease and grace about making money?

dont-should-on-yourselfWhat does it take to have, make, save, invest, and spend money in a way that you end up enjoying it, benefiting from it, being enriched by money?

Before we can talk about money, we need to define what we mean by abundance… Abundance is a being that says: All is well with the world. Abundance is also an experience.

I don’t know anyone who lives in abundance, although all of us have experienced abundance for moments, minutes, hours… sometimes even days. Don’t kid yourself, rich people don’t live in abundance… every person I have ever checked, had some version of anxiety in them.

And yet… abundance is our birthright… we are hardwired for abundance. But because…
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Now that You don’t have to be perfect, You can be good… and alive

The best present I can give you is this

“Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good,” says a character in John Steinbeck’s novel *East of Eden.* I suggest that you make this your rallying cry. In fact, why not begin right now, wherever you are? Say “Now that I don’t have to be perfect, I can be good.” Free yourself of the pressure to be the polished, ultimate embodiment of everything you’d ever hoped you would be. That will allow you to relax into being more content with the intriguing creation you have already become. You may be surprised by how much mojo this affords you.

Most procrastination is caused by the strong urge to ONLY do things that you can do perfectly, like watching TV, eating ice cream, sleeping…

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Review of Gary Douglas and Access Consciousness. Scam? cult?

access consciousness barsThere are few things worse than being scammed.

Being scammed leaves you with less money, with less time, but what is worse than that is if you participate with Access Consciousness…

You’ll be left with an energetic attachment, like a spigot, through which you can be mind-controlled, and made to dance to this cult’s rhythm.

Most people end up with some really serious health issues… If you’d like me to check out your health, without putting an attachment on you, I can do it. And if you mention that I promised…just because you came from this post, I’ll check if you have an attachment sucking the life out of you.

Let me check out your health for you

I discovered it by accident. As you know, one of the special services I offer is removing energetic attachments.

Each attachment belongs to some type of attachment, like a weed can be recognized.

Most attachments are relatively benign, just like a chink in your armor, or a hole in your energy body, but some attachments are self-replicating, and infectious.

I first met an infectious attachment three years ago, it was placed by Mr.T, whose name is in itself an energy signal to receive an attachment. I haven’t said the name, haven’t written the name, and am unwilling to listen to the name. Thinking it is harmless.

Then came this summer, with its several infectious attachments, including the one placed by Access Consciousness.

Nasty, but I have developed a method of grabbing the two-headed attachment on the client and on my own head, and pulling them at the same time. That saves a lot of time, so I am more willing to do the work now, than in the beginning, when it was a going back and forth event… nasty.

Now, the question could naturally arise: why does a teacher, a guru, a cult mark and weaken their quarry?

I think it is the basest of all human qualities, wanting to reduce another to a thing, to property, to a slave. And that is what I think these gurus and cults are doing.

Through the attachments they can influence the “members” and weaken them, suggesting that any attempts to flee the coop is suicide.

If the flight succeeds, through the attachment they can effectively make the ex-member sick, listless, and miserable.

Can they literally kill a person with an attachment? I don’t think so. I don’t think the energies are strong enough. But to make someone hurt, or miserable? Absolutely.

Now, let me say a few words about cults… my own experience.

I was participating with Landmark Education for 25 or 26 years, the same company that used to be called est. A lot of outsiders viewed Landmark Education as a cult, but it isn’t. A cult takes ownership of your life, and makes it very costly to leave it. It encourages you to separate from your family, and give your money and property to the cult. Nothing like that in Landmark Education, not in the least.

I am not participating Landmark Education any more, because I don’t find it useful for me any more.

On the other hand the Mormon Church, The Church of Scientology, and maybe Access Consciousness are cults.

If you are in Access Consciousness, I’d appreciate some feedback. the people I have treated were only loosely associated with Access Consciousness. they got some healing with the Bars, whatever they are. and they started to get weak, irritable, and miserable, only a few weeks after they started with that.

Some came to me with cancer… ugh.

Somehow you can give bars to your family and friends, and spread the attachments… vicious… spreading it like a germ warfare.

At this point I am a little scared, and weary of learning more about Access Consciousness. So, in a worldly way, I am ignorant of what they do, what they promise, why anyone would get entangled with them.

I can look at what they do energetically. As en empath I can connect to it, measure its vibration, its truth value, and just remove the darn attachment…

Truth value of Access Consciousness: 3%

PS: if you want me to check if you have attachments, you can.

Let me check if you have attachments/cords

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through…

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through the ugly, the bad, maybe even the horrible, not around them

We all bow to a deity, the god of respectability. Looking good, being well thought of, getting respect.

Even animals pretend, just watch your cat… their survival depends on looking good to you… so they pretend…

To be authentic

…to have no need to pretend, being willing to be seen, warts an all, is more human, it is in the direction of the evolution of the species.

While you give your life to respectability, your life sours, your dreams die, you stop knowing who you are, where you are, what YOU want, what YOU want to do with your life. You don’t know who you are.

Very unpleasant and troubling feeling.

Most are stuck there, but some (you?) yearn to know and live in harmony with who they are… love themselves, but how do you go about it?

  • Bad news: you can only get to your true self, to your inner beauty, your inner goodness, your inner truth through wading through the ugly, the nasty, and the mountain of lies about you.
  • Good news: What you need to wade through is only a certain amount of ugly… 30, 50, 70? Depends on you and how much you sold out on respectability, status, on looking good.
There is a finite amount of ugly, though it is still a small army…

behind-the-darkenss-is-light…that unless you can face it, without running from it, without judging it, without trying to unsee it, it is going to stay and multiply. and keep you in the world of pretense, where who you are is not who you pretend to be.

Now, I know it is a mouthful, but

ultimately that is the work. Seeing all the ugly about yourself. And make peace with it.

The help I can give, is to give you pointers, give you beacons so you will see the ugly by their light. And, of course, the Unconditional Love Activator, will make it a lot easier…

One such beacon is when you feel an urge to explain or justify.

If you stop for a moment and look behind that urge to justify your actions, you’ll see ugly. You’ll see that either you don’t trust yourself, or you don’t trust the other person to like you after you did what you believe is the right thing while you knew it wasn’t.

Don’t just stop explaining or justifying… no value there. Look. See the ugly in you. Own it.

The ego is the part of you that wants to stay the same. It wants you to resist looking because if you saw it, you’d want to change.

The ego is the part of you that you’ve been quietly and secretly in cahoots with… but, unfortunately, it is also the ego that could give you strength to accomplish.

But you limit what the ego can do for you by having more and more to hide, more and more falsehood to prove every day.

You look at every program with suspicion. Will this want me to change? Will this want me to look at what I have been hiding?

You say you want to change, you say you want a great life, but you are lying.

You can’t have the rose without the thorns, you can’t have night without day… Life has a certain order to it, but you want, with all your might, to go around it.

You want respect without giving respect, you want love without giving love, you want something for nothing, you want beauty without the ugly.

You invent religions, you invent gods, afterlife, karma, just to avoid having to face the truth about you.

You rearrange the furniture, do feng shui, invite a shaman in your home to get rid of evil spirit… but you go back, and there it is again: evil spirit. In you… The ugly that you have been hiding.

Everyone has ugliness inside, by the way. It is not just you.

Beacon #2:

You can see the ugly in others that means you are good or at least better. Nice. High minded.

Exactly the opposite is true.

All the nasty stuff you see in others is something you recognize because you have it.

They hold up a mirror for you to see it. But you run, but you hide, but you blame, smear, get angry.

You miss the lesson.

I am not saying it’s pleasant. But it is possible to bring a sober eye to the things you see and say: Hm… I see that. Hm, that’s ugly. or nasty. However you express yourself. Sober. Matter of fact. Flat.

To the degree you can own the ugliness, to the same degree it loses its hold on you.

Whatever you allow to be, allows you to be.

Beacon 3: Apologizing

Husband cheated on you? Notice the nastiness that comes up… it is choking you. Notice that you want to be nice… then the nastiness comes out… and you apologize.

Don’t apologize. Actually have it a goal to never have a reason to apologize.

If it comes out… then instead of pushing it back, and feeling shame, fear, rejoice. You got a chance to see the poison you carry around. And own it as yours.

Sit down and watch it simmer. Accept it for what it is. Embrace it. Do NOT justify, do NOT explain, just allow.

The longer you can watch it the less power it will have… Half done work (looking away, justifying) will bite your ass.

The beautiful you is behind the ugliness… it is not next to it, not in front of it, it is behind it.

As long as you have the ugly, all beautiful is a pretense… ugh, that hurts, right?

Now get to work. And let me know if and when you are ready for the Playground. Or Reclaim. Or both…

Oh, and don’t forget to stock up on the Unconditional Love Activator. You’ll need it.

Are your actions effective? Constructive? And if not, why?

instead of massive action, it is take effective actionsThis may be the most important article for you to read… Don’t complain that I didn’t warn you!

One of the things mainstream (all the gurus) get wrong is this: they consider you a constant in opportunities. Constant as in fixed… As if you were the same when you are afraid, and when you are confident…

You are not constant until you are on the vibrational level of above 900. How do I know? Because I can see the difference in me and in my ability to act constructively, even though I am above 900. Continue reading “Are your actions effective? Constructive? And if not, why?”