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In this podcast episode I spend 90 minutes to disappear all your misconceptions about what is procrastination and return you to sanity.
Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven
True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar
Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?
There are two ways to get to Self-Love… One through finding things to love… the other is the strait and narrow method: discounting all the bad things you do, so you end up with loving yourself.
I prefer the second path.
Once you love yourself, learning new things to do well is much easier.
So far 46 people read my article about the exercise for self love.
One of them actually did what I did, followed my example, and wrote to me about his experience. He is astute 1.
So what did the rest of them do?
Some of them, at least, hugged themselves, and felt the pain or the sadness.
Did any of them have a conversation? Yes. Some of them. Continue reading “Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?”
A great little exercise to cause self-love…
Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.
Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the “fun” began… The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.
Hoho… I said, what’s going on?
The little voice said: why would you love me?
Because I do… I said.
Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?
I don’t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess… I love you.
oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?
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Simplicity, Elegance, Coherence, Ask a different question
We tend to look at the world in black and white terms. This or the opposite…
You and me… 2
But often what you think is the opposite is not…
My current favorite book, 46 rules of Genius, says:
“Rule 24 (of Genius)
“SIMPLIFY
“People tend to view simplicity and complexity as opposites. But this isn’t strictly true. The enemy of simplicity isn’t complexity, but disorder. And the enemy of complexity is also disorder.
- While complexity seeks order through addition,
- simplicity seeks order through subtraction.
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Emotions are like firestorms, they cause incoherence, and are the most manipulated aspects of a human
The best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.
In emotional terms, for example, love’s opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love… They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.
Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.
Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.
Commitment. Not a promise, a commitment.
No ifs, no buts, no conditions.
No action necessary, just acceptance.
No show of love, no giving till it hurts, no nice talk… those are not part of love, they are societal demands.
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A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The “Spirit” gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up… words don’t come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life’s purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
When I speak your purpose, as I see it, I hear you being hooked, being moved. Then you get off the call, and turn it into mundane… money, sex, or such other stuff, that makes life and you stuck in the mud. Continue reading “A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?”
Identify and overcome your dominant way you avoid
It’s eerie how soul correction that is calculated from your date of birth and zodiac signs, calculated from just your birthday can be so very accurate in their core.
By core I mean your base nature. What you are inclined to do, the attitude you are inclined to have.
My horoscope for the next weeks or so… by Rob Brezsny:
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Pike’s Peak is a 14,115-foot mountain in Colorado. It’s not a simple task to trek to the top. Unless you’re well-trained, you might experience altitude sickness. Wicked thunderstorms are a regular occurrence during the summer. Snow falls year-round. But back in 1929, an adventurer named Bill Williams decided the task of hiking to the summit wasn’t tough enough. He sought a more demanding challenge. Wearing kneepads, he spent 21 days crawling along as he used his nose to push a peanut all the way up. I advise you to avoid making him your role model in the coming weeks, Virgo. Just climb the mountain. Don’t try to push a peanut up there with your nose, too.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Pike’s Peak is a 14,115-foot mountain in Colorado. It’s not a simple task to trek to the top. Unless you’re well-trained, you might experience altitude sickness. Wicked thunderstorms are a regular occurrence during the summer. Snow falls year-round. But back in 1929, an adventurer named Bill Williams decided the task of hiking to the summit wasn’t tough enough. He sought a more demanding challenge. Wearing kneepads, he spent 21 days crawling along as he used his nose to push a peanut all the way up. I advise you to avoid making him your role model in the coming weeks, Virgo. Just climb the mountain. Don’t try to push a peanut up there with your nose, too.
As you know, or should know, I don’t teach anything I haven’t tested myself… and mostly on myself. Continue reading “Identify and overcome your dominant way you avoid”
Can’t learn? Won’t learn? Is that how you keep yourself stuck in life?
I am still struggling with having something or anything to say. Now I have the energy, but don’t have the … what?
What don’t I have, and why is that important to know what it is that you don’t have?
The number one need of people, I say, is the desire to make a difference.
But when I say ‘make a difference’ I don’t mean the big flashy things, like Bill Gates curing malaria… I mean being wanted to be there. That you are not refused.
Cain killed Abel in the Bible, because god accepted Abel’s sacrifice, but not his. He, Cain, got furious, and killed who he could killed, Abel.
Feeling refused, feeling not wanted is the cause of the biggest pain, and unfortunately people carry that in their unconscious for the length of their lives.
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Heaven or hell… same place, same people… the difference:
The opposite of Life is a conversation is you living in a world of objects, being an object. An object. Ugh. I don’t want to be an object. But if you look, you ARE treated as an object, by nearly everyone nearly all the time.
People don’t look at YOU, they look at your body, your clothes, your hair… but not YOU. Continue reading “Heaven or hell… same place, same people… the difference:”
Can you be a creator and yet live in the machine? Yes, if…
Can you be a creator and yet live in the machine? Yes, if you live like life is a conversation
My introduction to this concept, that life is a conversation was in October 1987… The month of the big stock market crash.
I was an architect in the luxury architecture business… custom vacation houses on the tropical islands… and suddenly the clients lost all their money in the crash… and the projects were put on hold.
I had no savings, I had no other income, so this new idea, that I have the power to say, to create a conversation how to hold the “I am probably going to lose this job and my income” with something other than panic and anguish… And I did. I invented stuff, sometimes hourly, and could keep up my sunny disposition.
I did get let go, but whenever this company needed an architect, they called me, per diem, and I survived and was fine… thank to this new way of looking at life.
Did reality change? Yes and no. The largest reality didn’t change. But what was possible for me, definitely changed. Continue reading “Can you be a creator and yet live in the machine? Yes, if…”
