Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

How to gain an unfair advantage in life?

There is another reason you want to learn as many skills as you can: in today’s competitive environment, with eight billion people, it is hard to stand out. And if you don’t stand out then you are competing with everyone… and that, my friend, is not a good thing, unless you are satisfied with crumbs.

“Success isn’t about being perceived as the best at what you do. It’s about being perceived as the only one who does what you do.”

Now, that is a tall order, when there are eight billion people on the planet… and many of them are probably smarter than you are… And yet you want to get as close to that idea, being the only one who does what you do, as close you can….

So how is that possible? By coloring over the lines… not inside.

We are all trained as kids to color within the lines… But…

Everyone can have one thing they do well. Many people do two things well. Some people do three or more things well. Most people don’t do anything well.

Only a few people think of combining what they do well into a unique skill-set. They have the mindset of either/or… doing either one or the other.
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Find the Growth Method That Matches Your Personality

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There are two big categories of humans from the aspect of personal growth.

sheep, victim, the effect… not in action, hoping, praying, visualizing, etc.
the climber

Climber can be someone who climbs the Tree of Life… and can be the type of person I want to talk about in this article. The politician. The ruthless user. The win-lose type of person. The either/or person who cannot even imagine, tolerate, or stomach the you AND me model of thinking.

Why do you want to know them? Because you need to know evil intimately to fight evil. Both outside and inside.
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The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth

I made an alarming observation yesterday at my monthly Playground Playground session. Every single person in the program has a version of ‘I only want to do what I want to do, and none of the things I am supposed to do‘.

Of course there is a gradation… gradients… some are less unwilling than others.

Chances are I didn’t get all ‘special’ people into my programs, so it seems that this is part of the human condition now: people don’t want to do what they need to do, what they ought to do to be well, to be valuable, to be happy, fulfilled.

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The best way out is always through. ~ Robert Frost

I love Hungarian poetry. I hate English language poetry because, to me, they are either too vague, or don’t mean anything… No offense meant, by the way. It’s probably a weakness in me…

Now, the line from a poem, in context, is complaining that he cannot see his way through

He says the best way out is always through.
And I agree to that, or in so far
As that I can see no way out but through—
Leastways for me

I recognize this sentiment because a lot of my students have it. I had it, maybe, a few times for maybe hours at a time… when I was looking for a way OUT, instead of looking for a way through.

Looking for a way out is, in other words, either escape or fixing.

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What’s relevant, what is irrelevant? Can you tell?

Hey teacher, why are you teaching about relevance?

One of the areas where being able to tell the difference between relevant and irrelevant things, between measuring your time and measuring your results, is work.

Whether you work for a job, or work for a future, i.e study for and build a future, a project, lack of being able to tell the difference between urgent, have to do, need to do, want to do tasks, between relevant, important, and not… between procrastinating and not having enough data, not knowing what to do and how to do it… will make you a working bee with no results or someone who produces results within the framework of a day, a week, a month, a year.

Most people don’t have this capacity open, and therefore most people’s life looks like a mess… and they produce no results in their lives.

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Are you astute? Do you think I am saying something bad?

Astuteness is being able to identify what’s in front of you, what’s happening, what might be the issue, the problem, and match solutions with problems successfully.

It seems that one of elements, or sub-capacities of astuteness is missing for nearly every person… and this capacity is easier to turn on by asking a simple question… while the whole sink and caboodle of astuteness comes to bear only AFTER you go through the first fundamental step.

This step is being able to separate, to tell apart what is relevant and what isn’t.

When you have a capacity open, you suspect that everyone has it open and functional, and fall flat on your face when it turns out that people don’t have it, can’t see it, and it isn’t missing for them that it’s missing for them.

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When the guru is wrong…

When the ‘guru’ is wrong

People put gurus on a pedestal, but guru simply means ‘teacher’ in some language: teacher… wise teacher.

But I am not a guru. I may teach, but my methodology, experimenting, is more scientific.

Scientists have a hypothesis, and then proceed to prove or disprove it. Both are good results.

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Without a vision you are driftwood

As I promised, I am going to start, probably will be a series, on the role or ‘future’ on your behavior.

I’ll start with a personal example.

As you may know, I am old, fragile, living on borrowed time.

Back in November, meaning six months ago, my main computer was giving me grief, so I bought another one, but my main computer recovered, and I never installed the new computer. Yeah, I know, but I didn’t have the physical strength… or a good enough reason.

I have a vision for my work, but had no vision for the ‘company’… but that changed about a month ago.

Three things contributed to that:

1. I found a teacher who is a solo entrepreneur like me, off-kilter, like me, and curses like me… lol. I got revitalized. I started to see that I am not alone, even though I have never spoken to him, and he has no knowledge of me. Continue reading “Without a vision you are driftwood”

It is not the smartest, it is not the strongest that make it

Whether Darwin said that anything like that, or he didn’t… doesn’t concern me. The principle is true, whether a famous person said it or not.

In the evolutionary sense, it is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able best to adapt and adjust to the changing environment in which it finds itself. Continue reading “It is not the smartest, it is not the strongest that make it”

Never pick a fight you cannot win… Now what?

Humans, as a species, are not good. They are an invasive species. Destroying the planet they live on.

This is not a moral judgment. I am do not subscribe to any moral system…

Morality is a human invention. There is no morality in reality, in nature. Morality is invented by rulers and governments, and churches, to keep the hordes at bay, to make them behave in a way that is counter to their nature. Continue reading “Never pick a fight you cannot win… Now what?”