I wrote about the Baby genes yesterday… The two entitlements genes that were supposed to turn off, one at age 3, the other around age 6.
Thinking that it is an end point would be a mistake.
A bunch of people paid me to disable the baby genes for them, some paid me for the second time. And I was left with a sense of ‘it is not over till the fat lady sings‘ and the fat lady hasn’t sung yet.
So in this article I am continuing this whole entitlement issue… and look to see what’s underneath it…
Because unless you pull a weed by its roots, it will grow back, and that is what’s been happening. The people who paid for their entitlement gene ‘pulled’ had that work done before.
So entitlement, just like a weed, grew back. Stronger than before.
You’ll grunt in a minute… but please, consider what I am saying important.
I have been using Freecell, the solitaire game, to train myself. It has caused me to go from an IQ of 120 to an IQ of 175.
So what is the difference between 120 and 175?
I have found that the difference between 120 and 175 has been one and only one thing: I have been saying less and less ‘It is over‘, or ‘It is hopeless‘.
So what about saying those simple sentences?
Every time you say anything that you say it as a fact, you are exercising ARROGANCE. You, me, everyone.
We, of course, think that we are truthfully describing reality, but it is true only about 1% (one percent) of the time (astuteness). In 99% of the times we actually don’t know how it is, we either say it from pre-judgment, from a belief, from hastiness, from fear, from some need to release some tension.
To release us from the need, from the obligation, from the uncertain outcome of actually LOOKING. From thinking something through. From paying attention. Or often from allowing someone else to win.
If you offer a 3-year old to teach him to tie his shoelaces, 99 out of 100 will say: I know.
Homo sapiens considers KNOWING the ultimate superiority.
And when they see that they cannot know, they invent a myth, a fable, a god, a narrative, where even though they don’t know, the one who knows is a god… So they can’t be blamed for not knowing.
Humanity stopped evolving about 10 thousand years ago. 9700 years according some historians.
Adam is told to name the animals…
I am not a Bible scholar… But this sounds to me was the birth of that arrogance that has stopped humans from evolving further. ‘God delegated authority to men, since the act of naming the animals shows lordship or dominion.’
Obviously the Bible describes a stage in the intellectual/spiritual evolution of humanity. The level where humanity got stuck.
Naming things around himself gave Adam a sense of power, a sense of authority, a sense of being an arbiter.
Eve was ‘born’ into an existing worldview… The Worldview of naming… The worldview of arrogance.
The two operative words are ‘is‘ in any form, and ‘should’… in any form. I am, I should, it is…
How does this work?
To do this, to say is, or should intelligence is not needed. You go to the Tree of Knowledge, and look what others name what you are looking at.
Intelligence, on the other hand, is saying at any point, ‘I don’t know. Let me look some more.‘ The more often you can say that and mean it, the more often you say that about the more things, the more intelligent you become.
I used to be just like you. Because I labelled, I knew, I pronounced. I spoke like an Oracle.
To you I might still sound like an Oracle. but I didn’t actually get stuck in that mode. I started looking. And I am still looking.
When you say: ‘she is arrogant, a know-it-all‘, you are probably the arrogant one, not necessarily the person you are talking about.
The new thing I saw today is this:
Arrogance and the entitlement genes are in cahoots to keep you the same.
I have a few clients who are attempting to explore The Sight capacity. Attempting to explore means: they look when they normally stop looking.
They look to suspend their opinion. To not talk when they would usually talk. They look to allow the discomfort of not talking, not doing, not jumping the gun. They attempt to allow something new to emerge.
So, they are, in essence, working on raising their intelligence.
Their success will depend on their attitude.
What attitude? Why would attitude matter?
Remember the saying: ‘Your attitude, Not Your Aptitude, Will Determine Your Altitude.‘ – Zig Ziglar
Your attitude is a declaration of sorts.
In that you declare yourself, declare your relationship to others, and change everything.
I have one student who has been earnestly working on her attitude.
What’s interesting is that she needs to invent a new attitude every day.
The ability to stand on the accomplishment of the previous day is completely non-existent for her.
She knows the word ‘ratchet it in‘, meaning the previous result… in order that she could use the compounding interest principle, where you always build on the accomplishments of the previous result… so that it doesn’t disappear.
Whether this is ‘normal’ for a homo sapiens or not, I don’t know. She is courageous, she is ambitions, she is diligent, and… drumroll… she produces the same result every day. Never more.
And she expresses surprise every day about how much difference her new attitude created about work, about being interrupted, about not being where she thinks she should be.
Every day… Kind of a personal ‘Groundhog Day’.
Or another movie I really liked, ’50 First Dates’. She wakes up every morning with no memory, no learning, no recollection of what happened before.
The opposite of arrogant, I am going to name it because it has no name, or no name I can see.
I am going to say: the opposite of arrogant is expanding. Expanding through SEEING. Expanding through not KNOWING.
In the upcoming Drink your food Challenge your results will depend on your attitude.
So, in addition to learning a new way to eat, you’ll be asked to create a new attitude. And attitude is always a declaration of
- Who you are going to be
- Who you will consider the other to be
- How you will relate to what there is to do
Some useful attitudes:
A who you are going to be type of attitude:
I will be like a sponge. I will learn everything there is to learn. And I will also hold onto what I learn… so I can grow from a higher point further
A who you will consider the other to be attitude:
I will listen to those who have gone before me. I intend to stand on the shoulder of giants. And I will consider the teacher my guide, my mentor, and I’ll surrender my will to them.
How you will relate to what there is to do attitude:
I will put all my power in doing what there is to do, without hangups, without questions, without hesitation. I won’t hold back. If I make a mistake, and I will, I’ll just return to following the instructions faithfully… doing the doing as it is supposed to be done… NOT MY WAY!
Every person I have ever coached, observed, worked with failed, if they failed, because they never invented and stuck with their attitude. Not in their work with me, not in their work with others.
- They bailed at the littlest of difficulty.
- Or bastardized the instructions, and did it their way.
- Or like my Groundhog Day student… never retained any of their results… so they started from zero every day.
This last one, the Groundhog Day must be somehow part of the Genome…
- Every single Landmark participant that I had a chance to observe ‘practices’ it.
- Every single salesy email that lands in my inbox counts on that ‘Groundhog Day’ to sell me yet another tactic, another method to make me rich.
And this is in every area… health, wealth, love and fulfillment.
I have no idea yet if that Groundhog Day is a habit, an attitude, a capacity… My hunch that, ultimately, it is part of The Sight capacity…
Anyway, If you want to sign up to the Drink your Food Challenge, this is your opportunity.
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