Confession: You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me
One of your most defining characteristics as a person is, whether you are an optimist or a pessimist.
But the common, and ordinary way to look at those attitudes is inane… as in stupid and near-sighted.
Most words are defined with unreality as their focus…
when you’ll start to see it, that is when your vocabulary start to hit the level where you can actually see some of reality, not just the “map” of reality.
In today’s parlance optimist is someone who brings positive thinking b.s., positive outlook to what is… and pessimist is someone who is a realist… who allows themselves to see things for what they are, tendencies for what they tend to be… And can prepare for bad stuff.
Positive thinking has been a plague that is destroying humanity… and so is this inane definition of what it means to be an optimist.
I offer another view that is firmly rooted in reality, through the observation of certain choices that tell more of the story.
Optimist, if we want to make the stupidity visible, is someone who believes that the future will be better just because they believe it will be so.
Half of my clients are optimists.
They are the ones with the desire trap, they are the ones that are afraid to let go of the rang of the ladder to go to the next level… because their dreams are so juicy… they don’t want reality.
They quit, if they feel forced to face reality. Reality is a bitch for an optimist… to hell with it! yeah… lol.
And then there is this group of ‘it’s not worth it’ pessimists, these are the ones who work the hardest.
I have this ‘it’s not worth it’, or at least a version of it.
This is how it goes: I decided, early on, meaning in early childhood, that I was on borrowed time. I decided that I was not wanted and that I was going to have to die… or have to live in the street… somehow… and that has made making long term plans very difficult, occasionally impossible.
Consistent with this ‘I am going to be thrown out of the garden of Eden‘, so the only thing that has value is what is inside my head… what I can take with me… what no one can take away.
And I did lose everything, every ten years or so… and have started from zero.
I have even called myself the Phoenix… that burns periodically, only to rise more beautiful from the ashes.
Depending on what is the hero-journey story you made up about yourself and your life… you live a life of high drama… Mine has been this Phoenix/living on borrowed time…
My hunch is that I am unconsciously following a script:
I am at the 10-year burn it all phase… and my health has been (predictably) suffering: I am wondering how much of it is self-induced… The high and secret drama unfolds again… lol… not that funny, by the way. 1
I am now 71 years old… but this invisible dynamic has been a constant companion: who knows how long I’ll live…
Dynamic is an important word that has also been largely bastardized in the English language.
Something that is dynamic means: there are forces… forces at work, and those forces cause, stimulates change or progress within a system or process.
I am an engineer, but in my learned profession, architecture, the forces are much less visible, than in mechanical engineering, where the forces move stuff in predictable ways.
One part of the invisible, for most people, is this whole world of dynamics: a near impenetrable world of the unexplained…
and your lack of curiosity, and your lack of squeamishness renders you, forever ignorant. and stupid when it concerns anything that moves, pushes, pulls, jerks, pumps, fuels, shakes, levels, rocks, tears, cuts, or rotates. I just usee a few of the words that unless you know they are dynamic words meaning something specific regarding to forces, you have no idea what’s going on.
For you the world is still flat…
And yet. if you have enough desire to live the life where you can win. A life where you can experience your power. Experience your magnificence. If you have enough desire you’ll summon the courage and the brain power that is needed. Needed to comprehend, appreciate, recognize and use the hidden dynamics of human interactions. the hidden dynamics of the human ‘psyche’… that once known, it is like the sun came out in the dark forest. and you don’t have to stumble over roots and branches any longer.
The whole world is teaching you the shadow-works of Plato’s Cave… my job is to teach you what casts the shadows.
- So I’ll tell you, today, what I need to tell you, who knows how long I have to tell you, you or I may die…
- I’ll take care of myself today… because tomorrow may be too late
Actions are easy, maybe even mandatory when you have this ‘who knows how long I get to live…’. But making long term plans, even buying a 24 pack toilet paper is a daring act… because ‘who knows how long I get to live… right?’
I remember my first Forum, (It wasn’t the Landmark Education Forum yet… back in 1987) this was one of the biggest issues that came up: that we, humans, live as if we lived forever, as if we never died… and yet we are always in a hurry.
‘Our contradictions. We are in such a hurry to grow up, and then we long for our lost childhood. We make ourselves ill earning money, and then spend all our money on getting well again. We think so much about the future that we neglect the present, and thus experience neither the present nor the future. We live as if we were never going to die, and die as if we had never lived.’
And if you look, that is true for you. True whether you live on borrowed time, or whether you believe that the world will give you all you want, just because you want it.
If you don’t want to waste your life… what has remained, you’ll need to learn a new way to relate to life, to reality, to what is going on.
Earnestly. Not to the shadows, but to what cast the shadows. Reality… including the dynamics.
You need to learn to value what matters, what is important, and de-value the stuff that is not real, that is someone’s fancy, even if it is a whole country that believes it, or a whole church two billion people strong.
You need to, finally, stand on your two feet, think with your own brain, and learn how reality is, how unreality is created by words, and how you can learn to live while you live… instead of being a puppet on a string, being jerked this way and that.
99.3% of all humanity sees the world through the shadows inside Plato’s Cave (the mind)…
The shadows are interpretations of reality… creating fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, and other emotional reactions.
All or most of the books and articles stay in the same world of shadows and interpretations… leaving you powerless, clueless, pontificating, and losing.
By coming out to where the sun shines… you learn to see reality as it is, dynamically…
Nothing is static, set in stone, fixed in reality… and nothing is wrong, needing to be resisted or fixed in reality.
Reality is something that you maneuver, adapt to, manipulate, shape to your own image… but you cannot do that from the cave.
All the manifesting teachings, law of attraction, most of making money teachings relate to you in the cave… and don’t teach you the parts that can only be taught to be seen and recognized from outside of the cave…
I teach what others won’t… either because they don’t want you to be powerful, or because they themselves don’t know…
99.3% of humanity relates to the world through the shadows… not to what casts them.
You can become part of the .7% who don’t…
I teach this in the Playground… It’s a program…
It is, although enjoyable, not for the wimpy and the sissy… It is probably not for you… 99.3% certain… lol.
You know who you are… or if not, the Starting Point Measurements will tell the truth about you…
And here is a little common knowledge bordering the invisible, maybe even overlapping a little:
Pay special attention to the quote… The constant facade of order hides the wilderness that is craving to seep out and teach us that life wasn’t created to be what we think it is… we must experience the wilderness to be taught what cannot be otherwise known
What that quote does, is touch on, hint on the order in the wilderness that has been undiscovered by you…
That is what I teach… that order.
- An aside: As I am teaching the newest version of The Playground, the science of living effectively in reality needs me to define for people to recognize and tell apart reality from unreality.
This, living a script, is reality. It’s invisible reality.
Invisible reality doesn’t mean you can’t see it… It only means that it is part of the 99% of reality that you don’t know that you don’t know.
But if you are willing to look, and willing to learn and recognize it, then it becomes part of YOUR visible, even if no one else can see it, and you’ll become the one in a million who can navigate life more successfully than all the others…
Really, all power comes from the invisiblefrom the part of reality that you don’t know that you don’t know… once you make even just a little of it known to you, visible to you.
Me recognizing that I am living this Phoenix burn/reborn script prevents me from making it worse… I can stop trying to fix my health/my money every time it burns… I can stay with the important things: eating right, sleeping well, reading, loving people, etc.
Before I recognized this script, I didn’t know it was a phase and it will right itself by itself… so I actually did crash and burn. Get hospitalized. Lose literally everything. Impulsive… dramatic, horrible.
And just like in other parts of life… you can make sure you land softly without breaking bones… the period when i competed on the uneven bars comes to mind… It was dangerous, but not that much…Most of these ‘invisible’ patterns, invisible dynamics can only be seen if you are willing to step back and look at your life, at your behavior in a larger picture… not in a ‘nose to the grindstone’ perspective.
As long as you are in-it, instead of looking-at-it, you can’t see any of those…
It is a lot like the most useful advice to business people: work on your business instead of working in your business…
Hey, how you do anything is how you do everything… if you can’t or won’t step back here, you won’t step back there.There is a world of difference between watching the drama and being gutted in the drama… Most of my life I was gutted in my drama… until I could step back, and now enjoy the drama.
There is nothing wrong with the script, or even with the drama, by the way. It doesn’t need to be changed, doesn’t need to be fixed, and probably can’t be changed and can’t be fixed.
Just like there is nothing wrong with tornados.If you live in an area with frequent tornados… you better remember that… And if you do… your life, your house will be the only one that is spared… like that one house this year that survived a severe storm… at Mexico Beach. All the rest of the houses, the rest of the people’s lives went up in smoke, because they pretended that the storm is not coming…
The storm is coming… and pretending that it isn’t is stupid… Hey, stupid as the stupid does.
