How the about-me score effects your relationships, how you appear in the world, how successful you can be?
Everyone, always, wants to effect the results directly, but that is not the nature of reality. The result comes from many many factors, that together and individually can be effected… and the synergistic effect finally gets all the way to the end result.
In some contexts the end result is your vibration. In others your worldly results, like how much money you make.
Because most people have no idea how the world works, what is the nature of reality, they are highly ineffective in the world, and they are highly dupable.
If you cannot see cause and effect, the connection between things, you’ll do stupid things, put the cart in front of the horses, and spend time and money on ineffective practices, ineffective programs.
Religion is one of these ineffective practices, ineffective programs.
Of course religion has its soothing benefit, making the world understandable, depicting an authority who knows what they are doing… so you don’t have to be responsible for anything. All you have to do is serve god, make god happy… But its harmful effects, taking away your power, and declaring totally normal needs as sinful are the reasons why six times more non-religious people are happy than religious people.
My juice is bringing the divine to everything I do.
Do I mean god when I say divine? Hell no, or hell, I don’t know. Or I can say: Hell, I don’t care!
I only care about one thing: when I live my life, do my life, do my work where every action brings the divine to what I do, coaching, muscletesting, making my simple meals, my exercise classes, my reading, my articles, fixing the computer, doing my many experiments, chewing someone out (lol), talking to the few people I talk to, even to being sick, I live in heaven.
Oh, you were told heaven is smooth and easy? They were lying. Heaven is where you feel good about yourself, even though it is not smooth and easy.
So back to your about-me score. What does that score say about you?
It says that you got stuck in a young view of life where you experience the world with you in its center. What age? About one year old.
Why would you get stuck? I have no idea. I got stuck at an even younger age…
So what does it mean you got stuck in a view of life, in a worldview of an infant? That you consider most things as related to you, as being about you, as being good or bad to you, as threatening or supportive to you.
You are in the center, and life, reality, can only makes an appearance on the edges of your consciousness.
No wonder your actions are reactive, and inappropriate responses to reality… they are appropriate to the mirage that has you in the center, but not the actual reality.
If I had to assign you a perfect avatar, it would be the cowardly lion…
Fear, the disproportionate self-concern, avoiding doing what needs to be done, is one of the signs of the high about-me score, as is the sudden roar of the lion.
One of my favorite literary characters is Chuchundra, the musk-rat, who never comes out into the middle of the floor, but always creeps round by the wall.
Teddy carried him off to bed, and insisted on Rikki-tikki sleeping under his chin. Rikki-tikki was too well bred to bite or scratch, but as soon as Teddy was asleep he went off for his nightly walk round the house, and in the dark he ran up against Chuchundra, the musk-rat, creeping around by the wall. Chuchundra is a broken-hearted little beast. He whimpers and cheeps all the night, trying to make up his mind to run into the middle of the room. But he never gets there.
“Don’t kill me,” said Chuchundra, almost weeping. “Rikki-tikki, don’t kill me!”
“Do you think a snake-killer kills muskrats?” said Rikki-tikki scornfully.
“Those who kill snakes get killed by snakes,” said Chuchundra, more sorrowfully than ever. “And how am I to be sure that Nag won’t mistake me for you some dark night?”
“There’s not the least danger,” said Rikki-tikki. “But Nag is in the garden, and I know you don’t go there.”
“My cousin Chua, the rat, told me—” said Chuchundra, and then he stopped.
“Told you what?”
“H’sh! Nag is everywhere, Rikki-tikki. You should have talked to Chua in the garden.”
“I didn’t—so you must tell me. Quick, Chuchundra, or I’ll bite you!”
Chuchundra sat down and cried till the tears rolled off his whiskers. “I am a very poor man,” he sobbed. “I never had spirit enough to run out into the middle of the room. H’sh! I mustn’t tell you anything. Can’t you hear, Rikki-tikki?”
Rikki-tikki listened. The house was as still as still, but he thought he could just catch the faintest scratch-scratch in the world—a noise as faint as that of a wasp walking on a window-pane—the dry scratch of a snake’s scales on brick-work.
“That’s Nag or Nagaina,” he said to himself, “and he is crawling into the bath-room sluice. You’re right, Chuchundra; I should have talked to Chua.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdg9gkmWsEA
If you haven’t, read the Jungle Book… but don’t read it for the story. If you do, you miss the learning. In fact, don’t read/watch anything for the story, read/watch it for the learning. Learning for behavior. Learning for attitude. Learning for feeling… or you’ll remain as much a carton-cutout as you have been.
Do you think I learned what I know by watching actual people? Nobody has time for that! No! I read. I watch Netflix. I read, watch, and ponder.
I get paid the big bucks because I have a huge database where I can compare you and your behavior with something that I have pondered already.
Most of you can recognize only a few behaviors, only a few emotions, because you have always looked at what moves, the story, and never the who, the actor.
Yesterday I was delighted to listen to one of my longtime students demonstrate in her partner call her recognition of many different human attitudes and behaviors, while for years she was all about herself.
When you reduce reality because you occupy most of your field of vision, you also become very dogmatic, and very all-knowing, annoyingly so.
You start pontificating, no matter what is the topicmatter. No hesitation, no uncertainty, all-knowing, judgmental.
Revealing the Dark Side soul correction is all about that… because that soul correction is all about the high about-me score
When you manage to reduce your about-me score, most of the time with embracing and owning your Dark Side, you become quite tolerable, maybe even pleasant to be around.
Not surprisingly, second only to this soul correction, Revealing the Dark Side, is mine… Forget Thyself.
Oops, I just realized that I haven’t told you whose totem animal is Chuchundra, the muskrat: that honor goes to the Removing Hatred people…
As I said, you need to see, recognize, and own your own dark side.
But how do you do that, if you cannot see anything, or you see everything as wrong with you?
Excellent question. Because if everything is wrong, then nothing is wrong: no distinction. Everything has the same dramatic value, and… gasp… you are off the hook.
Not everything has the same value, and your powers of distinguishing, your powers of sight are weak or non-existent.
What comes to the rescue is a unique energy we discovered accidentally, the Avatar State Energy.
It lifts you up and allows your consciousness to see things from a higher level, where you can see that everything is not the same as everything else.
And once your consciousness sees it, you have a choice.
Now, consciousness doesn’t mean you’ll know it… consciousness doesn’t cause conscious awareness: you need to poke your head in there and get curious. But even if you can’t bring what you saw into your conscious awareness, consciousness, slowly will change your behavior to come from reality, not from everything is wrong, or everything is right.
But once your consciousness know, you’ll be able to start gather evidence, and slowly start making sharper, more astute decisions about people, including yourself.
You’ll interface with reality more completely, and that is the number one thing that should concern you… not how you feel.
Really. Once your decisions are more grounded… you’ll feel a whole lot better, guaranteed. You’ll be able to see that there is never anything wrong in reality… and there is never anything lacking.
And that will allow you to see what will be effective actions that YOU can take to provide you what you are missing.
This month I am running a special on this unique energy, the Avatar State Energy.
It is recorded and causes the Avatar State… seeing your world from a higher vantage point.
The version that is on special has a unique focus: Abundance.
It is not money, mind you, it is the attitude of abundance. Money is just one thing you can get once you have that attitude. Joy, self, peace of mind, intimacy, time, health… they are all function of this attitude of abundance.
In fact the connection is so strong, that you cannot have any of those without that attitude.
The opposite of the attitude of abundance is a sense of powerlessness… I know it is counter-intuitive, but it is true. I just muscletested it.
And to one degree or another we all suffer from a sense of powerlessness… I know I do.
So here is the special:
The Avatar State Energy of Abundance: $30
the high quality, sturdy mini speaker to play it in the background: free
If you need the near soundless version of the audio, please let me know. If you have a family, or want to play it in your office, you need that version.
I only have a few speakers at hand, once they are gone, I’ll order yours online, and they will ship it to you… expect about two weeks delivery time.