Updated: Are you at cause or are you at effect?

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Can context be cause?
Note: I wrote this article three years ago, but it is as timely as ever… It moved me then, and it moves me today… Enjoy!

This question doesn’t sound like it could make much sense, does it? But when you find out what it means, you’ll be thrilled to know that it is the panacea, the cure for most of what ails us.

By the way, Nature’s fundamental law is: Like causes cause like effects. If something you consider “cause” doesn’t work reliably, it is not a cause, it’s an effect. Like prayer, like certain remedies, like the “Law” of attraction, like thinking positively, like placebo…

The Second Phase Activators Course just finished on Sunday, and I am working on the next course. Making decisions, creating some new stuff. And a big change: I will not allow everyone to sign up, just because they want to be in it.

There are some current students who, because of their attitude, lag behind. This creates tension in the group: I spend more time trying to unstuck the unwilling or lazy ones than actually teaching stuff. (The main unwilling attitudes ‘it’s good enough for me the way it is,’ ‘why rock the boat,’ or belligerence or even hostility/resistance are the attitudes I have been experiencing and won’t tolerate in my next courses.

These people also don’t have a big enough desire to change or even to experiment, and change and experimenting are mandatory if you want to create a shift in your life to the better.)

I also needed to create changes in MY attitude to be able to believe that I can pick and choose who I want to teach. That is a long shot from where I started: accepting anyone who was willing.
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Winners don’t fight what is: they use it.

Your chances are like this tiny sea turtle hatchling... not bigThe ones who fight are broken.

You fight? you’re broken

To all the people that had their anchor-to-doom attachment pulled, I recommended that they start using the Unconditional Love Activator. Why?

Because the capacity of allowing need to be first practiced between you and you. Between you and your actions. Between you and your feelings, thoughts, and urges.

Without first allowing what is, you will ALWAYS be ineffective, bruised, and beaten.

I have learned this the hard way. I am a very forceful person by nature, and that is a horrible thing for a coach. Forcefulness create resistance in the other person, and instead of smooth transition to desirable actions, I trigger fighting, belligerence, and ultimately failure.
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What is the capacity that is like a linchpin… if you have it you can enter the kingdom

allowing - the linchpinI am a lot like you, except not always. I am forceful with the best of them, except I am not always forceful. I can be limp and resigned, like you, except that I am not always limp and resigned.

I have mastered to a large degree the capacity “allowing.”

One of the readers says in a comment: I have been practicing dropping the pen, and yet I find no change in my attitude towards anger that I don’t want.

Dropping is forceful. Surrendering is forceful. Changing is forceful.
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How to make a commitment you’ll keep

making a commitment and keeping itI have had problems with my hip for the past 16 years. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on chiropractors, and the hip just got worse and worse.

This year I had a recurring flash of desire of being a person who travels from country to country, while doing the work I am doing now.

The only thing standing in my way is the pain to walk, or even stand longer than a minute.

I have given up public speaking because of it. I have given up going out, because I limp. And because it hurts.

The recurring flashes of desire to become mobile again started a process of looking for a solution, if there is a solution.
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Are you adding good to the bad, hoping the bad will get better?

adding-water-to-the-seaIn almost any endeavor, removing what you don’t want makes more difference than adding something good to the mix.

And although this makes a lot of sense, in spite of it not being common knowledge in self-improvement, you keep on trying to add stuff to your anxiety, to your inability to breathe, to your fear, to your unwillingness or to your listlessness, expecting results, fast and furious.

You are quite stupid, forgive me for saying that. My only excuse for saying that is that I am like you.  I know this is what you do, because I have been observing myself doing the same thing. Continue reading “Are you adding good to the bad, hoping the bad will get better?”

How to use context to be more astute, and feel better?

the-dark-side-of-the-moonWhen I have an unexpected feeling or emotion, I look for a context, because context is decisive. 1

This morning I had heart symptoms.

When you have a symptom, it is important to know what is causing it, because your actions will be different with different causes. Same symptom,different action.

Turns out that it was a Dark Side transmission.

Feelings are energies, and they can be duplicated by someone more advanced in energy sorcery than I even strive to be.

Had I been you, I would already be in the emergency room, racking up a huge bill.
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Doesn’t work? Let’s do more of it, that should do the trick

Doesn’t work? Let’s do more of it, that should do the trick

MindValley is very encouraged by its results with John Assaraf’s program launch: they sold 1.2 million dollar worth of courses. An excellent way to rid people of their money, people who probably paid with credit cards, and increased their debt load in hopes of becoming a millionaire… by changing their minds about money. Continue reading “Doesn’t work? Let’s do more of it, that should do the trick”

Soul Correction: Sexual Energy

sexual-unionSoul Correction: Sexual Energy

New Insight 6/5/2018: This is a soul correction I would call pussy-whipped, if you are a man. Weakness covered up… Dependency, dutifulness, difficulty to make decisions? Still looking…

My experience with women is that this same soul correction is whipping-pussy, if there is such a thing. Demanding, using, controlling… enslaving. Could be wrong about that. I need to look some more. the few examples I have point in that direction.

Update 2/3/2016: The essence of this soul correction is push/pull. The person resists what they don’t want, and craves (greed) what they do want.

Guaranteed unhappiness. Guaranteed roller coaster. Because the moment you get what you want, you start not wanting it.

The dynamic doesn’t change.
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Are you willing to become a prosperous “neighborhood”?

Are you willing to become a prosperous “neighborhood”?

baby steps to become all you can beI republished an article, that is as important as anything you’ll ever learn, if you wanted to live a life of an expanding human being…

Response when I first published it: no echo. Response this time: no echo. Nobody heard it. Nobody saw it. Nobody was interested.
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The article is pinpointing the reason why you have what you have, and do not have what you want to have.

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