If you want more, better or different from what you have

If you want more, better or different from what you have

envyIf you want a better future.

This is a long article. Don’t just skim it… it has no value that way. Please…

Most people want different, and they want to change.

You are an employee? You want to be a business(wo)man.

And you start hating what you are doing, and start dreaming about what you are going to do. Continue reading “If you want more, better or different from what you have”

There are two major types of backdrops plus a mix of the two

There are two major types of backdrops plus a mix of the two

There are two major types of backdrop, and, of course, everything in between.

The two major backdrop types are:

To a child everything seems to appear magically

To a child everything seems to appear magically
To a child everything seems to appear magically because they want it.

Eventually a child will learn what is real life, reality… or not.

If even just one of your entitlement genes are still active (we are born with two. Genes that make us docile as babies) your ability to deal with reality is impaired: you are still a child waiting for magical, mystical, miraculous, sudden, instant… and don’t even consider that you have to do anything for it, other than wanting it. Continue reading “To a child everything seems to appear magically”

Do you have it or does it have you? Beliefs, pipe dreams

Do you have it or does it have you? Beliefs, pipe dreams

Do you have it or does it have you?

beliefs
opinions
ideology
dreams
pipe dreams

I’ve been spending a lot of time watching videos with Ricky Gervais, a funnyman. Continue reading “Do you have it or does it have you? Beliefs, pipe dreams”

Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?

Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?

things you can controlYou can only control what belongs to you… Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don’t belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say… they do belong to you.

They are interestingly difficult to see… they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.

We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading “Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?”

Why your life is like an obstacle course… ups and downs…

Why your life is like an obstacle course… ups and downs…

Roller coasters are fun, exciting, and you can scream all you want… But when your whole life is a roller coaster, 24/7, that is not fun. That is exhausting.

I used to feel like my life was a roller coaster. Like people, emotions (my reactions to people, events, tasks) were jerking me left and jerking me right.

I hated the experience. I like smooth. I like to feel in control of my life and my inner state.

That girl is me… I HAAAATE roller coaster, the real one and life that is like one. Always hated it.

But nothing I knew could do that for me, smooth out my ride… nothing. … and believe me, I tried.

I took courses. I learned to use energies. I exercised. Nothing seemed to eliminate the roller coaster… until… until a few months ago. The ride was getting smoother… but life was still jerking me.

In this article I’ll teach you what’s going on in the invisible, that life is like that… and what to do about it.

Continue reading “Why your life is like an obstacle course… ups and downs…”