Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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In life you get what you negotiate. Not what you need. Not what you want. But what you successfully negotiate.
Some truths pop out when you least expect them.
None of my students know how to negotiate. My students are a microcosm… A mirror of the whole damn world. Continue reading “In life you get what you negotiate… or win…”
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It is hard to remain motivated nowadays. I watch and this year only about 4% of the people work out in the park next to where I live. Only 5% of the people do much of anything that they used to. It is hard to stay hopeful.
People look and feel burned out.
Burnout is when activities that made sense in the past, that maybe even excited you in the past are now drudgery. It can happen with anything: talking to someone, making love to someone, taking care of the garden, cooking, building a business, reading…
It’s not the what, it is the who.
You. You lost what it was…
But what was it? Without recapturing what it was, or creating something just like it, you are going to have a life of meh…
Or a life where you are going to be an excitement seeker, an addict.
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… said Henry Ford in 1909 to his sales people… From Quora
The phenomenon of wanting to please everyone, wanting everyone to like you… is the hallmark of slavish people, needy people, who can’t and won’t be successful at anything.
If you are an entrepreneur, unless you rein this neediness in, and internalize that no one needs to like you… you won’t be successful… because slaves are never successful.
Who are the people who really choose providers, coaches, teachers by who they like are the same people who won’t like you if and when you do what you need to do to take care of yourself. They consider you fodder… ‘I like my meat well done… I like my trainer to be nice, naive, and putty in my hands.’
No distinction.
Same if you are a whore of sorts… Continue reading “You can choose any color as long as it’s black”
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Do you hate to learn new things because every time you do, it somehow tells you that you have been wrong? Or not enough? Not good enough?
Well, toughen up princess…
But otherwise it’s normal. I know.
As a child I lived across the street from my elementary school.
I was nearly seven when I went to school, I was born September 4. My mother held me back because I was so tiny. My brother was two years older.
On the first day of school… Continue reading “Emotional toughness, resilience can help you getting there”
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The other day, during the Integrity Workshop, the urgent sound of police sirens attempted to interrupt the flow of the workshop: every fiber of my being wanted to run to the front room window to find out what happened…
Anything to break the monotony of living an a hill, at the dead part of a dead end street… in the midst of a pandemic. I am nosy to a fault. Continue reading “Interrupt the patterns that keep you stuck”
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Mercilessly pruning, mercilessly weeding… this is the counter-intuitive path to plenty.
Everyone thinks, and it is natural to think that, that if they could add this and that to their lives, then they could be happy, healthy and wise…
Whether it is a sharper brain, whether it is a supportive family, whether it is more education, more money, more people to love them… it is easy to think that your life would be better. Continue reading “The path to plenty is not more… it’s pruning”
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I am not your mother! Yelled the chiropractor. Thank god, I thought, but she continued, and then, ultimately refused to provide care.
This happened to me several times, in several environments, not just with chiropractors and not just with women.
Like every person on this planet, I live my life out in a machine. No, not the Matrix, albeit I may, but I am not aware of that. But I am painfully aware about the personal hell machine I created with my words. Continue reading “I am not your mother! I.am.not.your.mother, damit!”
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Do what’s difficult when it’s easy.
This principle comes from Seneca, the elder, but it seems that it has another way to say it: do what you see, when you see it.
I am, in some way, still a child and crack up when I hear bathroom humor. I can’t talk about passing gas without laughing. Yours truly is about five years old in this regard.
One of my favorite such jokes is about the dude who goes to the doctor, and asks him to do something about his farting: it is silent and doesn’t smell… but it still bothers him.
The doctor scratches his head and gives him some pills… and tells him to come back a week later. The dude is back, enraged: your pills made my gas smell like hell, he says.
To which the doctor answers: good, we have cleared your sinuses, so you can smell. Now we’ll work on your hearing.
Now, why am I telling you bathroom jokes? To entertain you?
No, this is education.
Your body, your brain, Consciousness works the same “shoot holes in it before you can tackle it” way. Continue reading “Shoot holes into it… make it like a Swiss Cheese”
I have been noticing a strong reluctance from people. They don’t want to find out the truth about themselves.
There is, there are signals that you are not in perfect alignment with who you would need to be to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be healthy, vigorous, the world is my oyster kind of guy or gal.
And you hate it, because it niggles away on you, like the thought of getting a C diagnosis from a doctor, the diagnosis of almost certain death.
So you procrastinate. Continue reading “Reluctance to find out the truth about themselves.”
You read the meme that it is not what happens to you that matters, it is how you react to it. You nod, you don’t learn. You have no idea what it means. You are clueless.
This is one of the memes that never gives you pause, because it is a meme that is also a principle. It is true everywhere, and it is one of the most important things to wake up to… that is, if you want the good life. If you want success. If you want love. If you want to be happy. Continue reading “Your homepage attitude… How to have a choice?”
