Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

How do you think of yourself less? your about-me score

How do you think of yourself less?

What does that mean? Thinking of others? By becoming a do-gooder?

OK, I am going to clarify something. Something that myself don’t quite know how it works, and why it works that way.

So it may come out incomprehensible, botched up, and useless. But, in my view, it is worth to try…

Note: if you only read one example, make it #5!

OK, the issue: one of the measurements is to what degree your life is about you and your life… the words I use I borrowed from someone else… True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. and the words are ‘to what degree you think of yourself’… as a measure of humility i.e. how much room you have to learn and grow, how much room you have for the world, for work, for life… for others. Continue reading “How do you think of yourself less? your about-me score”

Your life is like a boat. It is driven by the drift 99%

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Every learning is becoming. Every action that is aimed at learning but doesn’t lead to becoming… is not learning, it is just a pretense. Treading water. The drift.

But becoming is not easy, and it takes longer than you would expect. OK, longer than I expect. Longer than I have been expecting 🙁

Why? because some of the learning requires you to be right there, ready for that particular learning. You first need to become ready.
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Commerce is king… and you are a peon, or maybe a rook.

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Judge Kenesaw Mountain Landis handing out a sentence to an old bank robber
’30 years’
‘Your honor, I’m 75 years old, I don’t have 30 years to serve’
‘Then do the best you can’

This joke pretty accurately summarizes our lives.

The odds are not on our sides to live out our lives fully.

I could say ‘by design’, but that would not be accurate.

What the heck am I talking about? About the conflict between you and commerce… Continue reading “Commerce is king… and you are a peon, or maybe a rook.”

Why do you need humility to learn anything? Skills, habits

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Learning is humbling. Especially humbling is learning about yourself, and learning about your need to change.

You have a Precious I. Whether you believe it or not, whether you know it or not, the precious I is in every single person.

And your precious I wants to have and retain the self-image unchanged, the self-image that says you know everything. That you are the center of the Universe. You are special. And it wants to keep the self-image where it is superior. Where you are, therefore, OK. Continue reading “Why do you need humility to learn anything? Skills, habits”

Respect: look again… but this time differently

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In the movie, Stranger Than Fiction, our hero is doing what he is doing, unconsciously.

When Harold Crick, the hero of the movie, starts hearing the narrating voice in his head…

…what the voice says takes him out of his unconsciousness and makes him conscious

…his usual way of doing things, going through life like a drone, and this changes his life.
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There’s no ‘no’ in reality. ‘No’ can be masked.

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Like saying it is missing. Like need. Like want. Like missing.

All those only exist in language.

The crucial distinction I teach is reality. Reality as opposed to the mind, the imagination, the meaning making machine.

Today I realized that inversion, the different thinking methodology is needed. because often what is there is what is the problem. I’ll explain.

Humanity is a piling upon piles hoarding type of species. A lot like squirrels. Continue reading “There’s no ‘no’ in reality. ‘No’ can be masked.”

What is the connection between respect and appreciation?

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What is the connection between respect and appreciation? Both respect and appreciation are spiritual capacities… states of being.

I am having a lot of insights lately. Of course, it was predictable: I am running an experimental workshop: it is driving up the questions.

When you have questions, relevant questions, you are going to get insights. You ask irrelevant questions? you’ll get no insights.

Anyway, the circumstance this morning was this: I accidentally double-paid for a course. Sent a support request to get a refund, and they answered that their policy was to talk to me, to make sure I was who I said I was. Continue reading “What is the connection between respect and appreciation?”

Feeling lonely? Are you feeling your own feelings?

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Are your feelings yours?

I had a realization a few minutes ago: Every summer I am attacked by this strong feeling that unless I have a life-partner, I am alone, and I have an empty life.

It comes fortified with bouts of depression, bouts of misery, bouts of fear, bouts of anxiety.

Today was really horrid.

Then I got a flash of insight: what if this is not mine at all? What if this has never been mine?

What if the student who wrote to me about lonesomeness… gets the same feelings?
What if YOU are bombarded with feelings that are not yours, and yet, they feel like they are?
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The dominant forceful way you are killing life.

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If you pay attention: you won’t want to read this post. You won’t want to know what keeps your vibration low. You are scanning the internet, the horizon, the people around you for feedback: that you are already all you can be.

This ‘not wanting to‘ is essentially what I am talking about in this article, this insistence, this forcefulness.

I wrote this article in 2016. Humanity has gotten worse sence. More forceful…

I don’t want to… I don’t like it… arrgh, nooo!

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Read this article if you plan to remain a client

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A spiritual practice like no other… Are you doing it?

What makes the ‘Stranger than Fiction‘ type of narration work like gangbusters to get you out of your head?

To my surprise not many people take advantage of the opportunity to watch a good movie and steal a habit that can be called a spiritual practice.

Steal a spiritual practice that can take you from a victim of your mind, to as near a human being as you can get in a few months’ time.

The movie, Stranger than Fiction is a really good movie.

but the best part of the movie is that the style of the voice that is speaking. The voice that the hero, Will Ferrell dude hears.

The way that voice talks is the exact type of inner speaking that you hear when you speak from the Witness’s position.

Hearing the little voice in your head from the Witness/Observer position is is heaven on earth. Lovely. You can even be entertained by it… I am.
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