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What you are most proud of about yourself is…

What you are most proud of about yourself is what holds you back in life

This article was written OMG 10 years ago? We haven’t again addressed these life-suckers… Since we are working on anchor-to-doom and the actions necessary to live a life not determined by the doom… we probably will need to talk about these minor anchors… the topic of this article. These keep us stuck, suck our aliveness, curtail our successes, and make us inauthentic and pretending. So they are important.

We’ll use transformation to get unstuck: transformation is caused by making the invisible visible... Continue reading “What you are most proud of about yourself is…”

What’s the opposite of cowardly? Is it courageous? Fearless?

What if cowardly simply means: not willing to get hurt? Not willing to feel pain. Any pain. Including non-physical pain… like the pain of being wrong.

What if everything we have ever really done was to avoid that non-physical pain?

As usual, I am going to look for some experiences in me… myself, and tell you things I probably shouldn’t. About myself… And expose myself to the pain. Continue reading “What’s the opposite of cowardly? Is it courageous? Fearless?”

People who raise their vibration and people who don’t?

Humanity can be divided to two groups. The dividing line is the vibration of 200… the level of responsibility and integrity.

Responsibility is a view of life where it is up to you. What? Everything. And when it is up to you, then you are never a victim, although things may happen to you, thing may be done to you, and yet you are not a victim. Because you have something to say in the matter… and you don’t say that you are a victim.

Responsibility is a dividing line, and I fully expect that 99 out of 100 of my readers, including my regular readers, my clients, my students, think responsibility is either a duty (you have to, need to, or should) or blame (you had to, you needed to, you should have… and you didn’t!) Continue reading “People who raise their vibration and people who don’t?”

Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster

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Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster***… Where is there? Nowhere, really, so it is all about the faster, the cheaper, the less effort for humanity. Going nowhere fast.

Was it always so? No.

I have a theory that humanity cycles through phases of being… beingness… that are, maybe the same as the book ‘Pendulum‘ teaches. The book says that the beingness humanity cycles through is the degree to which it is about ‘me’ or it is about ‘us’. Continue reading “Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster”

Too many choices leave you high and dry. Confused and stuck

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Clarity is power… Unclarity traps you. Makes you stuck.

I have lived in three countries.

I was pretty in the first country. And I was normal in the second. And I have been mostly exotic and ugly in the third.

Because what you are most used to, what is like what you saw as a child is what is pleasing to you. Even though philosophers have defined beauty through and through… and yet.

Why am I writing about this now? Continue reading “Too many choices leave you high and dry. Confused and stuck”

How to have your cake and eat it too? The secret skill

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I am an avid reader. Of novels. Of fiction.

What you don’t know, and I didn’t know it until I did, is that

…unless I care about the main character, unless I care how things turn out for them, I don’t want to read the book.

It is at best boring, at worst it’s drudgery.

I hadn’t realized the importance of liking until just recently. Continue reading “How to have your cake and eat it too? The secret skill”

16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor

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16 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

What can it be that causes you to be less popular than most?

Why do you miss out on invitations and frequently feel like a Billy-No-Mates?

Or do you feel that your career is suffering because you’re alienating superiors and co-workers alike?

Let’s take a look at some possible factors. Continue reading “16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor”

Word-cages… The means of keeping you powerless

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I woke up at 3 am today. Shall I get up? I asked myself. Yes…. said something…

And then I asked, what part of me that wants me to get up.

My body, my intellect,

My psychology…

What is Psychology? Feeling science… right?

I want to be proud of myself. Continue reading “Word-cages… The means of keeping you powerless”

You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?

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I am reading many books, many articles.

They all say that my life could be better, would be better if I just looked at the bright side of things.

But that… looking at only the bright side of things, actually leads to a boring, inauthentic life.

What makes good good is the contrast… No bad? Not looking at it? there suddenly isn’t good either… only boring, dull, dead. And you can’t sleep… Continue reading “You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?”

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

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When it comes to making buying decisions, what do I pay attention to?

I pay attention to how many different problems a product is trying to solve… claims to solve…

Because they are trying too hard.

Now, most things, most problems, admittedly, cannot be solved with one skill, one tool, one push of effort. You need a set of tools, a set of skills, and efforts invested in the right amount and in the right order.

But… tell me, can you tell a first grader to fix the leaky toilet, or to cook a three course meal?

You wouldn’t dare… Continue reading “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.”