Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Long term memory… learn to connect the dots

Connecting the dots… Cognitive performance… Cognitive activity… what am I talking about?

Cognition, according to the dictionary is “the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses.” Acquiring knowledge means: it stays… NOT merely understanding. You’ll see why later in this article.

As clients get better results nowadays, I am now really motivated to get better myself, to be able to help them get even better results.

So I read more books, watch more relevant videos, have extra conversations to home in on what isn’t working as well yet as I hoped it would, and what would.

How do I learn?

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How to get reasonably clear of your past?

This morning, while I was measuring someone’s starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. ¹ And it is… drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it… just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money… It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it’s about you, take things personally.

The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.

Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.

So when something happens, and something always happens! they are sure it has something to do with them, that somehow they caused it. Continue reading “How to get reasonably clear of your past?”

Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?

What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase… because the product or program delivered on its promises?

Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff… or the accent of the coach… so they are happy. With what? one might ask…

I wonder how much these people value themselves and their money… My guess is: not much. Continue reading “Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?”

The god shape hole that keeps you wanting…

U2’s singer Bono, says that all of us suffer from the sense that something’s missing from our lives.

We imagine that we lack an essential quality or experience, and its absence makes us feel sad and insufficient. Continue reading “The god shape hole that keeps you wanting…”

Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?

Unless it’s accurate knowledge… i.e. true, tested, from an accurate source.
Unless you know what you learned… unless you know what you know… you didn’t learn anything.
And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.

All learning is behavior modification, modifying behavior to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race.

As a coach, unless I modified your behavior, I didn’t do anything.

So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can or are willing to bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification. Continue reading “Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?”

Happiness or misery… the invisible dynamic

Tikkun is a Hebrew word, means correction.

I am yet to hear a Westerner, or an Easterner use the word: correction. The world, nowadays, is into “fixing”. ²

Fixing is an ugly world, immediately signaling what the speaker sees, that there is something wrong and it urgently needs to be fixed, because it is wrong that it is. Reactive.

But when emotions run high, the cone of vision narrows, your intelligence plummets, and stupid as the stupid does, your fixing creates new problems, that are the next thing to fix.

Compare that with the approach of correction… course correction… returning to the path of true north. Continue reading “Happiness or misery… the invisible dynamic”

Cats leave paw prints on your heart…

I have a magnet on my refrigerator door that says: Cats leave paw prints on your heart.

And they do. You remember your pets fondly… and often.

I remember one woman, often, and fondly, even though she was an enigma to me.

We met at the psych ward and spent some time, every day, together. I met her husband, son, and mother in law… whom I knew from work: she was an acoustic engineer advising me when I was the architect for acoustic practice rooms for the Hungarian Academy of Music.

My friend was in the psych board because she could not sleep. I was there because I didn’t want to live. Continue reading “Cats leave paw prints on your heart…”

The process of becoming a genius… It is a process

If you looked, you would notice that you want to do things out of order…

…for example: fix something that you don’t understand what it is, you just KNOW that it’s wrong. Put the cart in front of the horse. Never bother to find the cause… the real cause of anything… the laws of nature.

You may be doing all the steps that can produce the results you want, but what happens if and when you are doing them out of order? Or you don’t give enough time to each step to perform its magic, out of greed or hunger or impatience?

You’ll lose time… you’ll lose money… and you’ll lose your faith. Continue reading “The process of becoming a genius… It is a process”

Did we crack the key to happiness yesterday?

Life is a puzzle, life is a mystery.

Advice on how to be happy is on 360 million pages, and yet seeing a genuinely happy person is very rare.

All morning I have Hungarian cabaret type songs in my head… One asks a question: Daddy, how does the big elephant go into the lion’s cave when the lion invited him for tea? If he only puts his trunk in, that is very neglectful, because by the time he siphons up his tea, the lion will bite down his trunk… lol.

The second… what I hope for our children and grandchildren is to be free, to not bow down to anyone, to become a human being… weep weep.

Yesterday’s “Talk to Me” was the best we have ever had. Small in numbers, diverse in cultural affiliation. Continue reading “Did we crack the key to happiness yesterday?”

A life you love. Built at any age… with some simple rules

In search of quick transformation…

This is a long article, first showing what doesn’t work, why, and then it takes you to what does…

One of the things about humans is arrogance.

Arrogance is not what you think it is… arrogance is really an attitude where you assume superiority where you have none…

Which is, in an ordered universe… EVERYWHERE. Continue reading “A life you love. Built at any age… with some simple rules”