Going from hate and disgust to feeling good about yourself. From hate to love

Going from hate and disgust to feeling good about yourself. From hate to love

from hate to loveOne of the few things I need to be aware and manage diligently is to not slip into hate and disgust about things or people. And when I do slip, to go from hate to love with them.

One of my ‘favorite’ ways to slip into hate and disgust has been to gossip about things or people… whom otherwise I love and cherish, but something about them irks me.

The solution is to make room for the imperfection, the part that irks me, and then I can love them, warts and all.

The secret is to rant first and accept second.

  • What most people do is suppress. It is wrong to hate your teacher, for example. Or your wife.
  • Or alternatively, they get stuck in hate. They don’t proceed to acceptance.

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Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?

Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?

Ask and it is givenAsk and it is given… But if that were so easy and simple, there would not be a whole system of thought, Kabbalah, receiving in Hebrew…

You pray and you think you are effectively asking for what you want. You believe that you will get it… but only 1% of the asks are given…

This article is about why only 1% of what you ask for is given, no matter who you ask from. Yourself, someone else, or some deity.

In yesterday’s core group huddle I started to see something that is so hidden and so hideous that even when people see it, they don’t see it.

What is it?

You don’t, you can’t see what you want and why (context)  so what you ask for is vague, fuzzy, and not going to get given. Continue reading “Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?”

Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle

Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle

anna karenina principleHow does change fit into the Anna Karenina Principle, or the principle said in another way: the method of taking away what doesn’t contribute to happiness to make your life better?

Remember: the Anna Karenina Principle says: All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

The principle implies that the unhappy families have one or more things that make them unhappy, things happy families don’t have… That happiness is simple, while unhappiness is complicated.

In this article I will look at change and how the Anna Karenina principle, of taking away what doesn’t contribute can be done in the context of change. Continue reading “Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle”

Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?

Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?

did I love? did I live? did I matter?Some 10 years ago I heard a dude share an experience he had in the Caribbeans, that made him re-examine his life. He asked himself:

Did I live?
Did I love?
Did I matter?

What brought this up is this: all morning bouts of inner crying have been happening to me.

Inner crying is when the tears don’t reach your eyes, but inside you have all the feelings as if you were crying.

I muscletested and it’s mine. Continue reading “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?”

Dr Gundry, integrity, and self-love

Dr Gundry, integrity, and self-love

dr Gundry vibration 100I just sat through yet another video by Dr Gundry, (personal vibration 100) a medical doctor who turned into internet supplement peddler.

I wouldn’t be surprised if he were a billionaire already…

But when I ask Source about his supplements, and even about his formulations, Source says: only 10% truth value.

Does he know his formulations don’t work? Yes.

But what he is doing is giving people hope with one hand… and, with the other hand, he takes it away. Continue reading “Dr Gundry, integrity, and self-love”

I am reading this book, Change or Die by Alan Deutschman

I am reading this book, Change or Die by Alan Deutschman

the three r's of changeAlan Deutschman says you need 3 R’s… relate, repeat, reframe to effect lasting change.

I hate when people try to do anagrams or 3r’s from their advice, but I’ll fight off my disgust, and translate for you…

Relate, the first R, stands for hope. Trust. Faith. Faith that you can and will do it.

He says that for someone to change someone else has the believe that they can.

The doctor, the therapist, the teacher. Continue reading “I am reading this book, Change or Die by Alan Deutschman”

What is the Promised Land I have been talking about?

What is the Promised Land I have been talking about?

the promised land signThe Promised Land… what the F…?

Yeah, I expected this reaction. And no, I am not some religious cult, and the Promised Land is not somewhere physically, like on Mars.

The Promised Land is embedded in our DNA… a new Man, fully godlike, and fully equipped to live in productive peace that was foretold, the thousand years of peace.

What is that? Continue reading “What is the Promised Land I have been talking about?”

How do you change yourself into someone who actually gets sh!t done?

How do you change yourself into someone who actually gets sh!t done?

change yourself change your lifeChange yourself, change your life. When you change everything changes.

That is the principle… But how do you change yourself?

And if you manage to do that: is that change permanent? Does it go as deep as your DNA? or is it temporary?

Great questions, disappointing answers. You CAN change yourself, and the new you will be temporary… unless the change is so profound that it causes epigenetic shift… which is rare, but possible.

Why change? Because how you are creates a predictable future, and for most of us: that is very ugly, tragic, and lacks what we really wanted our life to give us: joy, satisfaction, self-love.

If that is a good reason for you, then keep reading. If not… don’t bother…

This article is going to be, hopefully, the first in a series of articles that explore change. Continue reading “How do you change yourself into someone who actually gets sh!t done?”

What human habit makes others richer than Croesus?

What human habit makes others richer than Croesus?

croesusTalk about Croesus: Human Design, a company, a system, entirely based on date and time of birth, has started, about ten years ago a thing, called eating style.

I get thousands of visitors a month looking for their eating style.

I did, myself, sent money to get my eating style, and what I got back was something… close to what it should be, but not quite.

The system diagnosed me as a ‘separator’. That I should not put even two different foods in my mouth at the time.

Nearly impossible to follow instructions… no salads, no bread, no soups, no stews, no bread and butter, no tea with milk, no coffee… not worth living. Continue reading “What human habit makes others richer than Croesus?”

What causes disease: a lack of ease, feeling bad? Can your health measurements answer that question?

What causes disease: a lack of ease, feeling bad? Can your health measurements answer that question?

health measurements show the 90%, the invisibleI have a number of people who subscribe to getting their health measurements monthly.

Today I measured four of those. I played Freecell in between to cleanse my system.

Of what? Of the previous person’s energy.

This cleansing serves two purposes: 1. I won’t accidentally remain connected to the person I just measured 2. I steel myself to the experience of being them.

What?

Yeah… When I am connected to you, I am, physically and emotionally merged with you. My brain, luckily isn’t, that’s why I can stay connected to Source, that’s why I can measure stuff about you. Continue reading “What causes disease: a lack of ease, feeling bad? Can your health measurements answer that question?”