When you are looking for and find things to be angry about

When you are looking for and find things to be angry about

I have a student who seems to be looking for reasons to be unhappy, angry, frustrated. And not surprisingly she finds something. Always.

She is working on her health and well-being, and part of that ‘work’ is to document every breakfast, lunch and dinner what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, what she feels like, and whether she had a bowel movement or not. These are all indicators of her well-being and progress.

This morning I realized something: her diary says: bowel movement: small. She doesn’t say: bowel movement: yes (or no, whatever is the case.) No she says: small. Continue reading “When you are looking for and find things to be angry about”

There is no suffering, never anything wrong in reality

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There is no suffering, never anything wrong in reality
There is no suffering, there is never anything wrong in reality. All suffering, all wrong is brought on by words…

We live in an imaginary reality… with literally no capacity, no ability to tell fact from fiction.

Humans can’t see much of anything without labeling it… so humans live in the world tainted with words…

For the purposes of this conversation we will define reality as something even a just landed Martian can see, a Martian who isn’t complicit in all the meanings and narrative. Continue reading “There is no suffering, never anything wrong in reality”

One model for a satisfying life is the battery.

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One model for a satisfying life is the battery.

cell-battery-rundownIf you suck the last little bit of energy out of your battery and then charge it, next day it will give you a little more…

This is not true for all types of batteries… but, it is true for most people…

If you suck the energy out of the battery sparingly, if you are more worried about the battery than about building something with its energy… at the end of the day energy is left in the battery. Continue reading “One model for a satisfying life is the battery.”

Your shadow and your spirit are at the same place

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Your shadow and your spirit are at the same place

A whole new question is emerging.

Why do you do all the things you do to get better, or more, or different?

Are you doing it to fix something that you consider wrong? To compensate for it?

Or you are doing it to be liked? Well thought of? To belong? To become famous? Continue reading “Your shadow and your spirit are at the same place”

You Suck. And it sucks. But unless you are willing to…

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You Suck. And it sucks. But unless you are willing to…

I wrote this email 12 years ago… It is a great reminder for me, and it is quite apropos for you. Even though you may not be in marketing, you may not have a sales letter… but you have me, and I could be your Big Kahuna… So here is the email:

You Suck

Some people get lucky.

Most people I know want to avoid a situation where they can look bad. I know I do.

These are the ones that stagnate.

Then some of those people get lucky and get a mentor who pushes them… pushes them to be more, do more, have more…

Sounds good, right? Let me tell you, it sucks. It sucks big time.
Continue reading “You Suck. And it sucks. But unless you are willing to…”

Are You stupid? Or are you just BEING stupid?

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Are You stupid? Or are you just BEING stupid?

Summary: You may be stupid, you may be doing stupid and you may not know it. The biggest breakthrough for a stupid person is to declare that they are stupid. Why? Because it would force them to look before they label, act, talk, argue, say yes, or say no… Stupid is a state, not an ability…

So, what is the state of a stupid person? They think that they understand everything. They think that what they see is what’s there…

Koan: For you Everything is the same as everything else … except not always Continue reading “Are You stupid? Or are you just BEING stupid?”

Life is counter-intuitive to the human mind

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Life is counter-intuitive to the human mind

People who make mistakes, people who show weaknesses are easier to love.

I know this will hit you as ‘no, it’s impossible! I have to be perfect to be lovable‘, but it’s just not so.

Perfection isn’t relatable, achievable or real and it’s downright boring! What makes us so real and unique are our flaws. It’s how we’ve worked through that gives others hope! (from Facebook)

Perfection is boring. And your perfection, or your smarts, or your beauty makes other people uncomfortable. Continue reading “Life is counter-intuitive to the human mind”

Where do commitments come from? Who gives them?

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Where do commitments come from? Who gives them?

If you wake up because you have to. Or wake up because you need to pee. Or wake up because your pet needs you. Most likely you wake up because you didn’t die the night before.

One of the powerful moves you can do to wake yourself up is to cause a breakdown.

One of the reasons people don’t grow is because life is manageable. Even if it is full of low grade annoyance, it’s messy. Or it’s misery, dull, or full of scarcity, discomfort, or empty…

If the ‘bad’ is low grade and steady without undue peaks, people tend to relate to life as business as usual, like the frogs that don’t jump out of the slowly warming water. Continue reading “Where do commitments come from? Who gives them?”

A new approach to free your spirit permanently

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A new approach to free your spirit permanently

According to google this is a big issue for people… and it is rightly so. Living with the spirit languishing, living with the spirit playing possum is no way to live. And yet, to one degree or another each of us has this issue.

I have gotten through this issue… and my spirit is alive and well… and I am committed, COMMITTED to teach it to you, so you can have what I have, without getting to be my age. Continue reading “A new approach to free your spirit permanently”

For men are good in but one way, but bad in many

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For men are good in but one way, but bad in many

If you are like most of the people that visit my site, you came here in search of the best way to get what you want.

Healing yourself, feeling better about yourself and your life. Making money, finding love, or raising your vibration. Or maybe even becoming an Expanding Human Being.

And you, like myself, probably cannot tell one system from another.

  • good from bad,
  • effective from ineffective,
  • efficient from inefficient,
  • real or a fraudulent… we have no criteria by which to judge.

Continue reading “For men are good in but one way, but bad in many”