Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

What is the difference between you and someone smarter?

Do you think it would be worthwhile to learn what is the difference between you and someone really ‘smart’? So you can become smarter, maybe even really smart?

Someone really smart makes fewer mistakes in every area of life. They know what to take personally and what not to. They know how to spend their money. And they also make smarter choices. They get paid more because they spend more of their time with what produces value. Etc. Etc. Continue reading “What is the difference between you and someone smarter?”

Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?

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Your starting point measurements tell me the whole story that you are.

And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements together also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing.

Pitiful.

But why?

Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their best church-going outfit, when they are smart, nice, funny, or can answer a question right… that that is who they are. Continue reading “Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?”

One of the undistinguished urges is ‘cheap closure now’.

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One of the undistinguished urges is ‘cheap closure now’.

When you are looking for something through a filter, you’ll see nothing else, but what the filter allows you to see.

Your filter is most likely your worldview…

When you see a problem, you immediately look for a solution… it is human nature to do that. But the nature of reality is that every solution comes with a cost. And often the cost is a bigger problem that will plague humanity with huge problems.

One of the worldviews that will match this urge, cheap closure now, is the worldview that says: ‘It’s not worth it’. Continue reading “One of the undistinguished urges is ‘cheap closure now’.”

The other destabilizing energy: the energy of the urges

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Yesterday I wrote about the destabilizing energy of avoiding, fighting, resisting. The enemies of having a good life, having a productive life. The enemies of being able to concentrate your energies on what you are working on.

There is a whole other type of energy that works the opposite way… the urges and the cravings. Continue reading “The other destabilizing energy: the energy of the urges”

How do I keep my humility high and my about-me score low?

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How do I keep my humility high and my about-me score low… day to day to day to day?

This question came from one of my students in a class. Interestingly none of the other students in the class asked this question. They didn’t ask, even though this may be the most important question to ask, and the most important skill to master.

You see unless you master this skill… unless you can reduce your about-me score to under 10%, your chances to interact with reality are slim… and for many people the chances are none. Continue reading “How do I keep my humility high and my about-me score low?”

When the lightening has no thunder, you can’t hear it…

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Sometimes, actually quite often, changing one word could be the difference between living a life in quiet desperation and living a life in excitement and eagerness…

But what is the word? What is the word that makes the spirit that has been dormant in you open its eyes and say… let’s go? Let’s fly. Continue reading “When the lightening has no thunder, you can’t hear it…”

If you manage to take away the ITCH what is left?

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Some of my students are starting to see that if they didn’t have the self-concern: The ITCH, they would react to life differently, they would be less upset, they would have a life, maybe, worth living.

So how does this work?

When you are in reality, things are as they are. A is A.It is what it is. Continue reading “If you manage to take away the ITCH what is left?”

Wherefrom comes the energy? and why does it fizzle out?

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In February 1988 my career as an architect ended with a whimper

It went out like a light.

I was 41 years old.

I was sure I had nothing to offer, I had no value, and I had no future.

It felt like I was on a stormy sea, on a ship, and had no control where the ship was going. I was not the captain, I didn’t hold the levers and dials in my hand.

Until that point I went wherever the ship went, and did what I could: do a good job, or not, wear clothes, read books, and be a passenger. Continue reading “Wherefrom comes the energy? and why does it fizzle out?”

What gives you wings? What do you hope will give you wings?

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When I was a kid I read a book about Sam Small, The Flying Yorkshireman. I read it in Hungarian… It was easier to read in Hungarian than in English… Ugh… that Yorkshire accent in writing… impossible to tolerate.

Anyway, this Sam Small could fly. And I decided that I wanted to fly too. I spent all my imagination… what it would be like to fly.

Unfortunately all my fancies were about escaping… I don’t know what it is about me: I still have nightmares about escaping, and there is always flying. Continue reading “What gives you wings? What do you hope will give you wings?”

Do you have an unhealthy relationship with money?

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I thought I would report on the Moneyroots workshop… given the seemingly no interest… Four people, the same four people paid for both workshops.

That made it very easy for me: I didn’t have to repeat anything… I am not good at repeating, my brain isn’t good at that. My brain is like the adventurers of the North Pole… may stop to sleep, to refuel, but then it charges on.

Anyway, forgive me when I say it: anyone who didn’t sign up is a moron. Continue reading “Do you have an unhealthy relationship with money?”