What is transformation? Is it so important to know exactly?

What is transformation? Is it so important to know exactly?

Everyone talks about stuff… using big words, like transformation, but no one actually knows what the word means, and what do people actually do, or promise to do, who cause transformation.

If you really look, you can talk for half an hour, and you won’t even get near to it… Continue reading “What is transformation? Is it so important to know exactly?”

What is the real meaning of “we are all one”?

People’s instincts are good… but your actions following are only as good as your interpretation of the instinct.

Instincts are sign language… with no well-defined sign-dictionary… on second thought, most words are like that too…

So you have an instinct, that you need to team up with another human if you want to grow… if you want to feel good, if you want a life you can love… and then you go south…

Oh, I need a lover, I need a wife, I need a child… and then you follow the yellow brick road to unhappiness.

The instinct says: TEAM up… and you say, ok, teams are about something, sex, security, blah blah blah… and they aren’t. Continue reading “What is the real meaning of “we are all one”?”

Explained… the only path to happiness is…

Explained… the only path to happiness is…

Explained: That is the name of one of my favorite shows on Netflix.

We all walk around with some approximate knowledge of things… we know absolutely nothing exactly, deeply.

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Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?

Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?
  • Unless it’s accurate knowledge… i.e. true, tested, from an accurate source.
  • Unless you know what you learned… unless you know what you know… you didn’t learn anything.
  • And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.
All learning is behavior modification, modifying behavior to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race.
As a coach, unless I modified your behavior, I didn’t do anything.
So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can or are willing to bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification. Continue reading “Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?”

Why you go for more knowledge, more and more and more…

I just finished reading a book, a NY times bestseller.

In it a scientist discovers two life enhancing treatments: one makes you smarter, the other makes you live longer.

People go crazy to live longer, and don’t care to get smarter. 1As I am looking to find some good pictures to illustrate this article, I am finding that people have NO IDEA what it is, or what it would look like to be smarter. So they don’t even go there. Continue reading “Why you go for more knowledge, more and more and more…”

A spiritual practice that can change improve everything

A spiritual practice that can change improve everything

If you’ve bought into the b.s. that thinking good thoughts, happy thoughts, being non-judgmental is good for you, 2 then your vibration is low, but more importantly, your vibration cannot be raised, unless you let go of this b.s.

Let’s turn this baby on its head: if you bought into the b.s. that your thoughts create your reality, and you need to avoid thinking bad thoughts regarding yourself, the world, the future, other people, because it makes you and your life bad… then there is nothing I can ever do for you, unless you change your mind.

Why? Because you refuse to interact with reality, you refuse to base your actions on reality.

Reality is neither good nor bad, it is what it is.

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Does life behave like a kayak or an automobile?

As I was answering a coaching student’s post on my Reclaim your life program, I had an insight.

The model you use to change your life, to make decision, to live your life is the model of the automobile.

Narrow streets, you make right angle turns, the motive power in the engine obeys your steering.

Life doesn’t work like an automobile. Life is a lot more like kayaking.

The way you adjust your direction is with tiny shifts of your paddle… no big moves are effective. Continue reading “Does life behave like a kayak or an automobile?”

Unless you know what you learned, you didn’t learn anything

Unless you know what you learned, you didn’t learn anything

The last joke I heard before I left Hungary has stayed with me… and it’s very apropos today

Here is the joke: What are the two paths for Hungarian intelligentsia?

Answer: alcoholism. The other path is impenetrable…, in practice there is no second path.

This article is about humans, about you. And it tries to establish that in fact it’s possible to penetrate a second path… an evolutionary path, to become a human being, even if 99.5% of humanity isn’t interested in that path.

So let’s see how that applies to how it is today…

There are two schools of thought: the two paths… You really either choose the one or the other. There is no compromise… Continue reading “Unless you know what you learned, you didn’t learn anything”

Can you eliminate beliefs?

Is there such a thing as a belief? Are beliefs real?

Yes and no. In reality? no such thing as a belief. Belief is a mind construct.

So what is holding you back in life if not beliefs?

In my previous article I talk about the backdrop, and that the backdrop is made up of all the things you say, all the things you heard/read that you accepted, and surprisingly also all the things you have resisted.

Why are things you resisted there? Because things you don’t consider true or facts: you don’t resist.

If I told you that you were a zebra, you would not resist. But if I tell you you are a loser, or worthless, or stupid… you’ll resist… because they could be true… what if it’s true? and now it is part of your backdrop. Continue reading “Can you eliminate beliefs?”