Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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The all-or-nothing attitude (Gentian). The ‘I will always/I will never’ attitude.We have been working with the machine. The machine we all live in. It is alive… and yet it’s a machine.
This, the self-sabotaging Gentian attitude is the most frequent move of the machine. Continue reading “Dynamics of self-sabotage: I will always I will never”
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I have been wondering if I could tell if a person can be trained or not. What would I see that would tell me yes or no?
I watched a little Grantchester on Amazon Prime yesterday. In one of those episodes the vicar gets laid. His pal almost instantly knows.
A few years ago I saw a woman come out of the hotel elevator in Las Vegas. To me she looked like she had always looked, but a man in our group instantly knew she just got laid.
I verified it with her… But how did he know? Continue reading “He got some last night… yes. But how would you know it?”
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I overslept this morning. Whenever you oversleep, or allow comfort to set in, something sinister happens in the invisible.
Your brain takes your behavior as an instruction that you want to practice for death.
You could call it hibernation, but it is only hibernation if that is what you meant to do. Otherwise it is the state where there is no future.
The first signs are hopelessness. There is no hope. There is no future. Just blah. Continue reading “Have the ‘why bother?’ attitude? A Big C symptom”
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Independent, strong willed, smart, knowledgeable, pretty, nice, creative. all lies.
You paint those over everything. Over everything to hide that you are not that. Hiding that you are a real person suffering from no freedom to be yourself. You have no freedom to be any way you want to be. Instead you have to be nice. Instead you have to be smart, you have to be independent. Or maybe you have to be a superwoman. Continue reading “The second and third move of the machine…”
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…every step of the way
Here are a few unexpected ways you keep yourself trapped in your misery:
How it should be, how it should go, what is right and what is wrong behavior, looks, everything.
You apply these standards to measure everything and everyone… and, of course, everything and everyone falls short… including yourself.
Standards are something that you invented, or alternatively bought into. You relate to them as if they were universal and mandatory for everyone…
It is all made up. There are no standards that survive reality: these are all made up reality, not binding to everyone, maybe not even to anyone. Continue reading “Your standards and ideals. Rulemaking. Wanting to win…”
We are definitely dealing with something that feels like an uncatchable ball.
We find something and it turns out not to be THE BALL… and we need to go and find another ball to catch… but instead of being able to catch it, it slips out of our grasp.
Why are we even trying?
Because unless and until we catch it and have it in our grasp, firmly, our lives cannot change, our performance cannot change, we cannot really get to where we love ourselves, love our lives, and live it powerfully.
This uncatchable ball is small, slippery, and evasive.
And we want to catch it… If nothing else, I am tenacious… And so help me god, I’ll catch it. Identify it, if it takes me a hundred articles… I will. For you, and for me.
This article is an attempt to catch it… The next article is already written and will come out later today…
Continue reading “The uncatchable ball… did you just let it slip away?”
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You may think that you want… That you really really want something. But the truth is: you really really NEED it… because you feel that without it you are… what? dead? a loser? what are you really afraid of?
Real want is energizer, real want is nurturing. You have no real wants. You have needs…and you are pitiful.
What happens if your ‘needs’ are dominating your life? If you are the 8-billion? Continue reading “If you play to win, always, you can’t get good at anything.”
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Your starting point measurements tell me the whole story that you are.And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements together also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing.
Pitiful.
But why?
Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their best church-going outfit, when they are smart, nice, funny, or can answer a question right… that that is who they are. Continue reading “Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?”
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One of the signs of intelligence is for someone to be able to see and actually see the big picture.
To see you need to look. Look and see.
Most never look. Or when they look they are looking for something, which means they narrow their cone of vision… to minuscule width.
Results: most people never see what there is to see.
Today the average intelligence is not high enough for the average intelligence person to even appreciate looking wide and deep… Even the average asks: look for what? Continue reading “Something keeps you down… do you know what it is?”
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You live in a machine. The machine lives your life for you
But don’t feel suddenly innocent… you are running this machine as much as this machine is running you.
We could maybe even say: what is your vibration? Your vibration depends on to what degree this machine is running you and your life. The more often it does the lower your vibration.
Without responsibility, at this time, and maybe forever, the machine is running unimpeded. Continue reading “You live in a machine. The machine lives your life for you”
