When you decide to do something for yourself… to grow…

When you decide to do something for yourself… to grow…

992c7c4d24d13d506d6c5fd87c3f536cBetween two chairs I find myself fallen and sitting on the floor

I don’t know if you can recognize this situation, but my hunch is: you should.

Your attention is divided. Your intentions are divided. And NOTHING gets done.

It should be a daily concern… if it is not, you are probably in a rut.

What is a rut? A trench… you can either go forward or you can go backwards… Or stand still, hoping that it will give you a sense of being alive.

Whenever you add a new task, you have to go through this state: if you don’t, then you didn’t mean to add the task.
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If you are human, you are hungry for stories

If you are human, you are hungry for stories

composition-of-diverse-people-smilingcropped6aIt seems that to be human is to crave stories. So, if you are reading this, you crave stories.

The question is: where do you get your stories from?

Most of you get it in gossip.

Many get it in soap operas as well… not much better than gossip.

I recommend that you read. Quality novels or short stories… It enriches, while gossips or gossipy TV shows don’t.

Neither do romance novels…

You need to satisfy the hunger, but just like with food, some foods nurture, others fill you up with crap.
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How do you see yourself? how accurate is your self-image?

How do you see yourself? how accurate is your self-image?
skiff ... are you in sync or out of sync with your self-image?The inner view and the outer view of who you are are vastly different. Your chances for success, love, happiness depend on the accuracy of your self-image.

Do you know that people see you differently than you see yourself? And both you and other people see you differently than you actually are.

You may see yourself worse or better or just plain different than you really are… and so do others.

Your life would work better if the two views were closer. You’d have less surprises, less upsets, less fragmentation in your life…

Your actions depend on your self-image combined with your world-image. Altering either, will alter your actions. Bringing both closer to reality will make you a winner.
Want to stop procrastination? This is the work you need to do…

But why and how are the two pictures different, and what can you do about bringing them closer so you can start living the good life?
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How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work

How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work

Meaningful-Life-Skills-BannerHumans are meaning making machines… and are unconscious of the fact that all meaning comes from them.

We want to know what something means, so we can be prepared for the danger or the good fortune that the meaning carries inside it.

But, alas, life is empty and meaningless… intrinsically.

No meaning.

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I looked what is more important to me than life itself…

I looked what is more important to me than life itself…

8ca346c61dd1530c4a485f63b8883ed3Why do I write? Who do I write for? What is important to me? These are the questions that are occupying my thoughts…

I just finished reading 1984, Orwell’s novel. I am not an American, so I never even heard about it until about 1984… In Hungary it is not a recommended reading. Continue reading “I looked what is more important to me than life itself…”

The conspiracy to keep you miserable, wretched, and limited

The conspiracy to keep you miserable, wretched, and limited

unreasonableHow everything you know, everything you ever learned from others, everything is being taught makes you miserable, and unable to become an Expanding Human Being

I woke up this morning with crystal clear upsight: if you have a because then you are wretched or you are heading to being wretched.

In the book, Snow Crash, there are two main characters, Hiro and Y.T. 1

They win the war that is waged against humanity.

Hiro is a hacker, and a master sword fighter. He fights to win the affections of a girl.

Y.T. fights because what else is there to do.
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Asperger’s Syndrome: the many ways to be different

Asperger’s Syndrome: the many ways to be different

Asperger’s is named after an Austrian pediatrician, and is not a disease. People with Asperger’s will not go around murdering people out of anger: when people do that, it has more to do with suppressed anger than with any alphabet syndrome…

Here is a video made by the mother of a child with Asperger’s syndrome, syndrome meaning a group of symptoms characteristic of a “diagnosis”, in this case most of the symptoms deal with where the person is above and where they are below the “normal.”

Asperger’s is part of the autistic spectrum, just as dyslexia is. I have dyslexia but demonstrate symptoms of Asperger’s in my inability to care, in my focused attention to what interests me, and on being the rule-police… lol.

People like me don’t fit in. We are outsiders. I spent a lot of my time craving closeness, but never really achieving it.

The desire to fit in, to run with the herd is not as much the desire of the person who is different, more it’s the desire of their family: misery loves company: they don’t want the person be left out of the “fun.”

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Remember: How I learned Hebrew and how it can help you to become the new human being in no time flat

Remember: How I learned Hebrew and how it can help you to become the new human being in no time flat

remember Hebrew: you used to know it. Remember who you are: you used to know it.

Motto: Mentor: Someone whose hindsight can become your foresight

Remember who you are

In 1981 I got a letter from a man from Israel. He claimed to be a second cousin on my father’s side to me. He was coming to an educational conference in Hungary. He came with his wife.

We spent time together, they were staying with me, in my one-bedroom high-rise apartment in Budapest. He visited with every member of my family, and witnessed their contempt for me first hand.

He promised to be family to me if I decided to go to Israel.

One year later I packed a suitcase and left Hungary. illegally. It was winter in Hungary when I left, in fact it was below 15 minus, very cold. It was about 80 degrees in Israel when I arrived, penniless. I knew one word in Hebrew: shalom.


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Dyslexia – the good news and the bad news…

steven-spielberg-dyslexiaUPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me… after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row… where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.

Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.

It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.

Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that…

But maybe they are dyslexic. Hm.


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You are stupid and nothing and no one can help you, unless you get it

You are stupid and nothing and no one can help you, unless you get it

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If this article doesn’t apply to you, then I hope you are intelligent enough to know… Just please know, that 90% of the people it applies to will also think: “This doesn’t apply to me”. lol… not funny.

For context, you need to know that the first big breakthrough that set my life to a higher ground was, when I realized that I was stupid… and still am. So with that said: please read the article.

And if you can see that you ARE stupid… then heed it. 2

I woke up angry.

I stayed a few more minutes in bed to fully get what I am angry about.

I am angry about your attitude.


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