Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Observe yourself: you do well, you get somewhere on time, you get to finish the project, you make yourself proud: and suddenly all that love spills out to your life. You smile under the blanket, and you ask: what happened?
This article will examine why you love yourself when you do, and what can you do that you can love yourself more of the time.
Continue reading “When you love yourself, you love your life”
We all have some narcissistic traits, self-importance, self-centeredness, etc. to one degree or another. This test (for entertainment only!) measures with innocent sounding questions to what degree you have the “traits”. Do it. It’s fun.
Oh, one more thing: for the results you will be taken to another site. Please don’t forget to come back when you are done.
All children are empathic. And all children must abandon empathy because of the pretense of their parents and care-givers.
Of course, some people are empaths… and they must learn suppression, avoidance, going unconscious for long periods of times if they want to remain sane.
Let me explain.
I grew up with two Holocaust survivor parents. They met in one of those camps where the Nazis collected the Jews before they transported them to a concentration camp.
Later my father impregnated my mother… and shortly after the boy was born, they got married.
My father was insensitive, and my mother didn’t love him. Then she got pregnant with me, and she put all her dislike of my father onto me.
According to some psychologists, I suffered from double bind: i.e. my mother’s feelings and behavior told two different stories. Impossible to reconcile, I went to the suppression route.
Continue reading “Bedwetting… what is in common with schizophrenia… or how to drive someone crazy”
I first experienced this when I was an architect in Israel.
I had a commission to design a two-family home. The relationship between the clients and myself became strained as soon as I was ready with the design: immediately they showed me who is the boss… they knew everything about designing, and building, and everything, without ever having to go to school for it.
Eventually I left architecture, because I thought that it was the only area where people considered themselves an expert regardless of their knowledge, experience, or licensing.
When, occasionally, I visit a website where people talk about their dreams and aspirations, like Mary Morrissey’s dream launch page, I see that every Mary, Tom and Harry wants to be a healer, a nutritional counselor, a coach.
Continue reading “Happiness is simple, attainable, but not easy”
It seems it is video-day here in my house… today. Mind you, I am not quite doing it for entertainment, I am looking for some solution.
In my coaching calls and even watching, observing myself, I have realized that some foundational skills are missing. They are the kind of foundation without which you simply can’t have what you want, you can’t feel better about yourself, and you can’t accomplish much of anything worth writing home about.
So I have to either find a way or make one, to teach you the missing skills.
In this case I’d prefer to find a way, after all if someone is already teaching it, why invent the wheel.
One of the videos I found is a TEDx talk by Barbara Arrowsmith-Young, the founder of the brain plasticity based brain training center.
Continue reading “Change your brain… and you can change your life”
The tribes that live near the North Pole have lots of words for snow. Syracuse people have one: snooow… that is pronounced with a guttural growl.
Tailors of suits can tell the type of black fabric they are looking at, though, for most people black is black.
A Sherlock Holmes can tell, from a little bit of ash, what kind of cigarette a person smoked.
But us, mere unconscious mortals, have a difficult time telling things apart, telling hype from helpful suggestion, truth from fantasy, belief from fact.
I got an email today from a one-time teacher of mine, so I checked out Mary Morrissey (personal vibration: 200, truth value of her teaching: 250… that is to say 7% is true, 93% is made up, b.s., misleading, misinformation, crap)
I watched three videos, almost two hours total.
Continue reading “How many shades of gray can you tell apart?”
This article was written by a guy in Switzerland. Different culture, different cultural conversations… he lives by a method of growing himself and his business counter-culturally if you look at it from the USA, especially if you live in California. And, of course, if you live in Canada.
What is the cultural conversation that he defies? That you are supposed to know it. That you are supposed to leap tall buildings, and there is no need to practice, there is no need to learn anything, you should just know.
I could have written this article, because my story is similar.
Enjoy.
Continue reading “The secret of doing something important to me…”
Frank William Abagnale, Jr.: Maybe the only living thief today who has had nearly as much success post his life of crime as he did while on the run. While he didn’t steal any priceless works of art, Frank used his cunningness to scam millions of dollars from banks through check fraud across 26 countries in a period of only five years starting at the tender age of 16. While other kids were working a paper route, Frank was jet setting across the Atlantic taking on the false identities of successful doctors and lawyers. After his FBI bust, Frank took up the honest profession of running a financial fraud consulting biz. Not all his glory was lost however; he guy still got Steven Spielberg to make a movie about him.
One of the most desired abilities people want to increase is intelligence.
They search high and low for an outside-method to do so… binaural beats, or any method that deals with the mind… after all the mind is the organ of smarts, right?
Wrong. The mind, in fact, has nothing to do with smarts.
in fact, most of you would benefit from reducing the mind’s relevance in your perception, and thus reclaim a lot of the processing power you already have.
As long as most of your attention and processing power goes into following the mind or fighting the mind and the emotions, you are going to have trouble to be very intelligent, astute, and it will effect your performance in every area of life where being present and operating with a full deck is important.
Continue reading “Want to get smarter? Mindfulness meditation to the rescue”
The sentence I hear only occasionally, is ‘But what is the work?’It is not because it is not a question that concerns many, it is because you are trained to know the answer, or at least pretend that you do.
I didn’t realize this until yesterday. I did not connect the dots… I didn’t see the forest for the trees. Continue reading “What is the work? Here is a detailed case study…”
