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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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You can have everything, but not at the same time…
In certain areas of life it is obvious… Like eating sugary stuff and weight loss…
But in this work, the work of causing human evolution, from human to human being, I don’t address many obvious things, because the secret of evolution is in the invisible domain. Continue reading “You can have everything, but not at the same time…”
You can only control what belongs to you… Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don’t belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say… they do belong to you.
They are interestingly difficult to see… they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.
We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading “Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?”
I wrote this article in 2014… So the webinar sessions it talks about are now a recorded course… Carrot and Stick.
We’ll have the third webinar in the Carrot and Stick series today. The results are mixed, but I am excited. Because it has made people to show their true colors: good or bad.
M from London, a Filipina writes:
Hello Sophie
I want to share with you that what we did last Wednesday (in the Carrot and Stick webinar) is now having an effect on me. Just saying UNWILLING in my mind has some some effect on my body something like a burst of energy and the feeling of ‘I can’t have this same life any more.’
This morning, I don’t know if this is part of the the plan of the universe for me to feel the disgust on how I behave and live my life by accident, I watched something on the internet that made me question how could I live the way I live…. I cried for hours until I felt I could not cry any more.. I have headache and my eyes hurt. I’ve never cried like this before. I feel so disgusted the way I live my life.
In case you are interested this the video that made me feel disgusted with my behaviour and attitude in my life. she won XFactor Israel. The song she sang inspired me which I will keep on listening at the moment to remind me the feeling of disgust with the way I live my life
Thank you so much Sophie. Stick works for me.
Watch the video below that inspired M… https://youtu.be/_LVV750lZkA
Continue reading “Carrot and Stick: Becoming someone who can”
What do I mean too late? I mean this: The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken
This saying sounds like the god honest truth, doesn’t it? But when I muscletest, it is only 20% true…
Why is the truth value of something universally accepted as truth?
It is true, because it takes effort and intention and commitment to break bad habits. And we, humans, are not very motivated to change any habit, let alone a habit that gets us pleasure… in another name, payoffs. But when people can see, when people can own that they pay with their lives, a lot more people are interested and are willing to make efforts…
The biggest hindrance is the goodies… What goodies? you ask. Continue reading “Is it too late for you? Is it too late for you to change?”
This is an article from 2013… as valid as it was then…
The signup to the Carrot and Stick webinars has started. This has prompted me to write this article.
Most of us, thinking that we are machines that can be operated by anyone, think that just by finding the switch, we’ll be able to do the things we haven’t been able to do, haven’t been willing to do, haven’t been liking to do.
Continue reading “The Carrot and Stick Method, or what’s between you and doing what you need to do, want to do, dream of doing?”
Motivation… it is either a stick or a carrot…
And it is either an inside job, or an outside job.
I am more motivated, more nudged on to do a move, to do something, to make a change in behavior by the stick than by the carrot… the inside stick… Continue reading “Am I weak? Are you weak? Can you activate the inside stick?”
Freedom versus Liberty, those who thrive, survivors, or those fallen by the waysideWhen I ask people what they want, many say they want freedom. When we poke into it: they want a sense of freedom, but think the way to get to freedom is through liberty… Let me explain.
Just like with all words we use, here is huge confusion, a collapse of two distinctions: freedom and liberty. They are not connected. They don’t even overlap!
Continue reading “What is Freedom? What is Liberty? What is the difference?”
Can you learn how to have peace of mind, productive, and maybe even happy from Colin Wilson and from the book The Mind Parasites?Colin Wilson died a few years ago. He left a legacy of of many many books, some of them I have read. His vibration was 200, and yet the book can leave you a lot more empowered than Colin Wilson ever was…
This article is about that… how to be empowered by that book, the idea that there are parasites, mind parasites that have their own agenda in your brain. Continue reading “What can you learn from The Mind Parasites?”
I measure 30 things about a person when they ask for their Starting Point Measurements.
They are all very relevant, but when it comes to the quality of your life, to your life satisfaction, your experience of your life… one could almost say, the level of your happiness depends on one thing.
The culture claims that to be happy, you have to have possession, you have to have success, you have to have comfort, safety, fulfillment, companionship, whatever, and, to some degree it may matter but not as much as the number, the measure, just one number told me why 99.99% of the people I have ever measured had a low life satisfaction, even though some had money, success, love even talent… seemingly everything you’d ever wanted. Continue reading “What is the strongest indicator of the quality of your life?”
There is never a better time to experience what you experience, than right when you experience it.
This morning I was hit with a strong feeling of despair, loneliness.
I didn’t have time to hang out with it, I was in the middle of something. I wanted to shoo it away, and I also wanted to indulge in it.
But then I decided to just feel it, acknowledge it, and let it go. I paid attention to what it said… nodded, wept a little, and let it go. 1
Is this familiar to you? I didn’t think so. You don’t know who you are, and you don’t want to find out.
One of these reasons is that you resist your emotions.
Continue reading “Why getting well is so difficult for us…”
