Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Rule-making, rule-accepting separates you from reality

You live life as if some things were better than others, as if some things are wrong, and other things are right.

Truth is, these are all memes ¹. This is not how life works.

Life works with physical laws, some of them we know, others we don’t, but they are laws nevertheless.

The difference between a physical/natural law and a rule is that for a law to be law you don’t have to agree to it for it to do what it does… But rules for them to be working on all involved, have to be accepted, agreed to, and bear the consequences if you don’t. Continue reading “Rule-making, rule-accepting separates you from reality”

Control Life Or Dance With Life? Fit in or be happy?

Society is a rule-system designed to perpetuate itself and only itself. It considered outsiders, differents an enemy and most of society’s activity, is hunting down and destroying everyone who is different.

Society is self-regulating: it feeds the members that comply, and denies sustenance to those that don’t comply, that don’t fit it.
Continue reading “Control Life Or Dance With Life? Fit in or be happy?”

Restoring Coherence. Harness and redirect the energy

Restoring Coherence. Harness and redirect the energy instead of allowing it to diminish you

Not everything you feel is an emotion.

There are emotions and then there are the effects of emotions. But…

…all emotions can cause incoherence…

Continue reading “Restoring Coherence. Harness and redirect the energy”

Keep your wits about you. Don’t be a monkey with a big brain

Keep your wits about you… or what it takes to become a human being instead of a monkey with a big brain

One of the amazing things I learned from The Jungle Book is that humans are really just monkeys, if we look at their behavior. Lots of chatter, no aim, short attention span, have no ability or even need to think independently…

Very interesting findings. Once you put your attention on a behavior, capacity, characteristic, you start to see what it does for you… or conversely, what the lack of it does for you.

The capacity I am now observing is attention. ²There is a fundamental difference between learning ABOUT attention and TRAINING your attention. I saw that there are courses on Khan Academy about attention, just like we have done the coursera course, learning to learn. Both are about… not the doing of it. Continue reading “Keep your wits about you. Don’t be a monkey with a big brain”

Does your worldview keep you from knowing yourself?

Before I write the meat of the article, I am sure you have a question: what the heck is a worldview… and how do you know what YOUR worldview is, if any.

The Three Umpires

A little anecdote comes to the rescue, about a radio interview of three umpires on how they call ball or strike (in baseball, for those who don’t know).

The three umpires are different ages.

Umpire number one asked first. He is a rookie umpire. He is asked, as will be his colleagues: How do you call ball or strike?

The rookie umpire answers: It’s obvious. I call it the way it is. A ball is a ball, a strike is a strike.

The journeyman umpire, has a few years of judging the game, answers: I do it differently. I call it the way I see it. I see it’s a ball, I call it a ball.

The old, wrinkled seasoned umpire, when asked the same question, grumbles… You are both rookies. Because I know that it ain’t nothing till I call it.

The three umpires represent three worldviews… A worldview is your relationship to what is happening in the world… ³ Continue reading “Does your worldview keep you from knowing yourself?”

Turning back the clock from misery to a life worth living.

Imagine that you find yourself in Los Angeles… and then you find out that your meeting was in Seattle… and you took the wrong plane.

If it happened, you would hop on another plane, or in the worst case rent a car and zoom up parallel to the Pacific Ocean, and voila you would arrive to Seattle… tired, but you would be there.

When evolution has taken the wrong “airplane”, let’s not worry if it was hijacked or not, you don’t have the luxury to take another plane, or rent a car…

You have to go back to where evolution took the wrong turn, and take a different path.

The grand experiment I am engaged in, is about that. Continue reading “Turning back the clock from misery to a life worth living.”

Change your perspective to change your experience of life

Life looks different the moment you look from a different place, in a different way.

This article is about those different ways… Tiny actions, big big big effect. On your life, on your mood, on your experience.

The first step is to look at things from others’ point of view. To reduce the size of “mememe” by getting out of your way.

People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.

When you can see that, clearly, without judgment, you are looking from the sideways position. You are not in the picture, only as another representative of “people”… neither the protagonist, nor the victim. Continue reading “Change your perspective to change your experience of life”

Will You Succeed or Will You Fail in business?

Everyone has dreams, visions of success… A good job, a nice family, nice people, nice work, nice house…

But that is not what people have… When you ask people what made them who they are today, invariably all of them answer a version of the same thing: The past.

How they express this varies: my parents, my schooling, what I have been doing, my genes, etc. etc. but all in all, they all mean the same: what makes me who I am today is the past.

If that were true, that would be bad news, really.

Imagine that it is true. Now see yourself trying to be successful online. Given your track record, and your genes, and your past behavior, how much chance do you have for success?

I’d love to say zero, but it would be unfair to many of you. So instead, I answer it in a way that applies to all of you:

The same as yesterday. Or a year ago…

Now, that is a total bummer, isn’t it? Continue reading “Will You Succeed or Will You Fail in business?”

Do you meet others’ expectations? There is a price to pay

If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.

A student writes

Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?

this was my answer

“This is the sign of two things: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
Continue reading “Do you meet others’ expectations? There is a price to pay”

If you just stopped doing what you know is bad for you…

I am not a scientist, not a doctor, but…

I pay attention. I experiment. And I muscletest while I am connected to Source.

It’s cherry time in the United States, and Aldi had a special price on cherries. I could not resist.

I bought a big bag… two and a half pounds… and as predictable, I ate it all in one sitting.

The insights I’ll share in this article are very important knowledge that I have suspected, but haven’t seen it this clearly before. Continue reading “If you just stopped doing what you know is bad for you…”

…all emotions can cause incoherence…

The Three Umpires

People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.

A student writes

this was my answer