Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Do you live your life without preparation? Winging it?

There is a saying ‘Always be selling’, but I think ‘Always be preparing’ is a better saying.

It doesn’t just apply to everyone, it also is more useful.

There’s a quote famously attributed to Alexander Graham Bell: ‘BEFORE anything else, preparation is the key to success.’

Today’s parents, today’s people don’t think they are unprepared. I have read about a woman who homeschools her children, and decided that they don’t need to learn basic maths… Continue reading “Do you live your life without preparation? Winging it?”

Homo sapiens, homo victimus, human being…

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There is an interesting human trait: when something doesn’t go as we expect it, we first, and some of us forever, blame something or someone else, other than own that we did it ourselves.

We could say that this humanity, this version of humanity could be safely called ‘homo victimus’ more accurately than be called homo sapiens… we don’t seem to be wise. Continue reading “Homo sapiens, homo victimus, human being…”

It is hard to read the label when you are inside the bottle.

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OK, Sophie, but what is the bottle you are in? And what is the label?

Most everything that is about you is the bottle and most everything that would clue you in why you are stuck, why you don’t feel well, why your life works the way it works is the label.

To read the label, you need get outside of the bottle… while you are also in it.

I call it bilocation… but not in the physical or esoteric sense…

I mean it in the intellectual sense. Continue reading “It is hard to read the label when you are inside the bottle.”

But what about fear? What shall I do if I am always afraid?

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Alexander the Great supposedly said:

Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.

Now, looking at it from the viewpoint of the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset you can see that the fixed mindset promises you to keep you safe. Continue reading “But what about fear? What shall I do if I am always afraid?”

What kind of soil are you for the seeds I plant?

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Who is listening? Who is listening that you are unwilling or unable to move towards your dreams?

Warning: without the concept in this article, you can read 100 books, take 100 seminars, and they will not matter… chances are you have never heard about this concept.

In this article I am writing about a little known aspect of life… I couldn’t even find pictures for it… I will be using a gardening analogy,

What kind of soil are you?

Continue reading “What kind of soil are you for the seeds I plant?”

Widespread incompetence, insufficiency, abominable service

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What is the reason of the widespread incompetence, insufficiency and abominable service companies provide?

And I mean big companies, Amazon, Google, Twitter, Clickbank, Spectrum, nearly any company I deal with…

I am going to use muscletesting to answer most of the questions…

But before I go large, I am going to look at some of the things I can see, even though I am a shut-in.

Case study one:

I live in an apartment in a two-family home. Continue reading “Widespread incompetence, insufficiency, abominable service”

How to see a painful incident differently, even after years

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In our ‘Reframing Challenge’ suddenly being laughed at, or snarky remarks have come up to reframe.

The challenge is to not take it personally.

In the homo sapiens world everything is personal. They are laughing AT YOU…

Here is an example when a person is bigger than that… and how that scenario looks from the sideways view. This is from Reddit.

The thread starts thus: I set the timer on the camera then fell running to get in the photo. My family’s reaction…

Here is the picture the camera took… Click on the picture to see it full size…

I laughed with that family, and it felt soooo goooood!

Continue reading “How to see a painful incident differently, even after years”

Scarcity, fear of not enough, reciprocal altruism…

Recently I learned some things… And when I learn something, I turn around and open my eyes widely… so I can see the big picture, so I can see how many and how far the dots are that belong to the same thing.

This article will document some of my learnings, and will let you see the dots that are not readily visible as part of the same distinction. Continue reading “Scarcity, fear of not enough, reciprocal altruism…”

They snatched defeat from the jaws of victory

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I know, I know. the saying goes differently: they grabbed victory from the jaws of defeat…

But, in my experience, most people, myself included, give up hopeless, before they could get to victory… some as soon as they would start.

If I had to point out one secret to my longevity, both in life and in business, I would point to this shift: that I can now hang in there beyond the point where I used to grab defeat from the jaws of victory. Continue reading “They snatched defeat from the jaws of victory”

When it was the best, was it really really good?

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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship is the title of the book that had a deep impact on me. I read it some 20 years ago…

That question is underneath most of my life… including my commitment to go where I am celebrated, not where I am only tolerated.

It isn’t about relationships for me, by the way, it is about the question it poses, the only question I remember from the book. The one question that you can ask about anything and allow that question to guide you in your life. Continue reading “When it was the best, was it really really good?”