Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Pretense. authenticity. the zig-zag path to yourself

“Don’t wish it were easier: wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom” said Jim Rohn
I want to be loved just the way I am… say most people.
You are already perfect…
The marriage of these three differing points of view is the state of humanity right now: rampant pretense… and utter misery.

The pretense prevents most everyone from becoming better. From building skills. From attaining wisdom.

The pretense is like a 2 feet by 4 feet jail cell… tight, restrictive, unpleasant. Continue reading “Pretense. authenticity. the zig-zag path to yourself”

More on the strategies of your Human Design type…

One of the tricks of gurus and teachers is to be vague. It is that they seem to be vague… per se, by itself… No. They seem to be really clear… while in execution they allow everyone to make up their own interpretation, and thus fail.

Just look at meditation: I am an empath and I watch/feel what people are doing when they are supposedly meditating… Not.

Two kinds of results from followers:

some lie and say: they followed the instructions, and hit solid gold. They either followed the instructions or didn’t… If they did hit solid gold, my hunch says they would have hit solid gold without the instructions…
The rest: they think they followed their interpretation of the instructions but are afraid to say: it didn’t work… Just like the crowd won’t trust their own eyes to say: the emperor has no clothes.

This is exactly what happens with followers of the modality to live by your design: The Human Design System.

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What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and
do that. Because what the world needs is people who come alive. ~Nelson Mandela

There is a word in Hungarian. It is very expressive, a word I ponder… a lot.

It is “elanyatlanodik”. If I want to translate, so I don’t lose the root, it means becoming a motherless orphan.

The word indicates that a child, at any age, goes through a fundamental loss when they lose the mother.

Half of my students, in some emotional way, lost their mother, the other half would have been better off losing their mother.

What do I mean? Continue reading “What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?”

The Hiding Hand Principle: see enough reason to change?

I just read a book review by Malcolm Gladwell. I like to read his prose… He is easy to read, his writing has an easy flair, and his topics are interesting.

He writes about a man I have never heard about, Albert O. Hirschman, an economist, who I recognize myself in.

He is everything most people aren’t.

He said that you don’t need creativity unless something gets screwed up, and things don’t go as planned.

That when the going is smooth, no growth, no invention, no evolution happens. Neither personal, nor species evolution. Continue reading “The Hiding Hand Principle: see enough reason to change?”

Until you know what you are REALLY MISSING…

Until you know what you are REALLY MISSING… you can’t give it to yourself…

…And until you know how… knowing what you really need won’t help a bit

In fact, although I can’t find a picture to illustrate it, but if you fill in a word that doesn’t fit into a crossword puzzle… the whole puzzle will be like your life… utterly unsolvable… miserable… wretched… and in fact it is, for most people.

I could say “all people”, and it would be accurate, and would make you stop reading… so I’ll settle for “most people” to appease you.

Solving the puzzle of a human life, to get a person on the right track after decades of only achieving misery in most of life is not easy… Because the forces conspiring against it are immense, and complicated to boot. Continue reading “Until you know what you are REALLY MISSING…”

Guidance that comes from outside of your own head?

Do you ever use guidance that comes from outside of your own head?

If not, you will arrive where you are heading…

Good, you say, but where you are heading is in the invisible, meaning it is not where you would like to go: happy ever after, but where you are, in earnest, heading.

So where are you heading? This is what this article will explore for you, with you.

So first let’s start with some invisible dynamics that you need to understand if you want to see how this works, how Newton’s laws apply here… not just in the inanimate world:

Newton’s three laws of motion may be stated as follows: Every object in a state of uniform motion will remain in that state of motion unless an external force acts on it. Force equals mass times acceleration. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

We’ll be looking how the first law applies to YOU and your life…

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Buyers are liars

“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.”

– W.T. Purkiser

Most people claim that they want to change their lives… because truthfully, how it is now, is not much fun.

Only a tiny fragment of them will be willing.

What is the reason?

One reason is that they are lying. Habitually. And maybe, just maybe, they don’t even know it.

I remember the times when I had no idea what I liked and what I didn’t like.
I remember when the only way I knew I was hungry is because I found myself eating.
I remember when I didn’t know I had to go to the bathroom until I found myself there. ¹

So ultimately you know what you like, what you want, who you are only from your actions. Not from what you say. Continue reading “Buyers are liars”

How you do anything is how you do everything

Your how matters more than your what… the How you do anything is how you do everything’s how

Using the “See Reason” capacity is pointing out things to me that are not obvious. Not obvious when it comes to mistakes, not obvious when it comes to successes.

The areas I am looking at, because what there is to look at is what you are actually doing… so these are MY areas:

my back/leg pain
my digestive issues and clarity of mind and quality of sleep
Freecell
learning to respond instead of reacting (My Human Design strategy)

Continue reading “How you do anything is how you do everything”

Connecting the dots in the right order: cause and effect

Connecting the dots in the right order… seeing cause and effect accurately

Seeing what-causes-what is missing. Yesterday I said 99.99% of humanity lacks it… I wasn’t exaggerating. It’s really 99.999%… ten times more that lack it.

In essence one in 100,000 people, or ten in a million have it even partially, in one area of life.

It’s an intellectual capacity, fundamentally essential to success in the world

This is why Mathematics, Physics, and Geometry is so hard for people. Continue reading “Connecting the dots in the right order: cause and effect”

What happens when you cannot see causality? 99.99% of humanity can’t…

Yesterday I wrote about seeing reason, seeing the causal relationship between things.

I confess that it is a hard thing to see. Not just me, but everyone. Cause is in the invisible realm of reality… it is there, but it is rarely seen.

The Butterfly Effect comes to mind, that says through a string of invisible cause and effect happenings, a butterfly flapping its wings in Japan will cause a tornado in Arkansas. According to Wikipedia: Butterfly effect: In chaos theory, the butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions in which a small change in one state of a deterministic nonlinear system can result in large differences in a later state.

So it is not easy. But… and this is what this article is about, most people lack even the curiosity necessary to see causal relationships: they don’t care.

If you don’t have a capacity, you also lack the capacity to see what would it entail to exercise that capacity.

Continue reading “What happens when you cannot see causality? 99.99% of humanity can’t…”