How to tell the difference between thing-ness and beingness… i.e. are you treating another a person or a thing?
I learned, maybe re-learned something from my an email I got from someone who is taking ‘becoming a person’ very seriously… thank god.
He got that only through ‘granting’ personness to another makes you a person. That really you cannot be a person among objects… what you give is what you are.
Very counterintuitive idea, and probably controversial too. But to echo most people’s emotions: a ‘bummer’… too bad.
I looked at yesterday’s top picture on the article quoting Socrates. He is quoted saying: Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle… That saying can only be said by someone who lives as a person and considers others as a person as well… The minute minority of humanity.
In Socrates age more people would be able to heed that commandments: more people lived and honored others as persons… More than today, almost 2500 years later… Human consciousness, spirituality, is evolving backwards. Devolving.
Yesterday started with crying for me and ended with crying for me.
Crying is an expression of something… and if you allow it to express itself, it blows itself out… I am the master of allowing. In my world nothing is wrong, nothing is verboten, except what’s phony. that is not allowed.
what if respect means seeing yourself and the other a person?
After I checked the election’s vote counts this morning, I cried. The cry of the innocent on trial… no, make it the sob, when the jury comes back and the verdict is read: not guilty.
Of course it is not over until it is over, but the little flames of hope are starting to break out from under the ton of soil I poured on the fire of hope: that America becomes the country I want to live in, instead of being ashamed of living in.
I am for all people. Whether I like them or not.
Whether they make more money than me, are heard more than me… for all people. But, it seems, that unless some principles are held up, like the ones in the Constitution, this is not how the world works… and the Constitution has been made a decoration instead of the cornerstone of this country for the past four years, and I was losing hope so much, that I had to bury it.
What is madness? There are probably more medically approved ways to say what I am going to say. but madness is simply when you interact with figments of your imagination considering it real or reality.
And it seems that it has taken over 70% of humanity…
including one of my revered teachers. The teacher whose teaching has caused me to finally make a living instead of just get by the skin of my teeth.
90% of the people on my mailing list are buyers. so if you are reading this, chances are, 90% that you have bought something from me before. So you are considered a buyer.
One of my teachers is a guy who teaches doing business entirely through emailing. He has a rabid ‘tribe’, people who buy nearly everything he offers. Most of his stuff is pricey, some very pricey.
When he offers something for $20… it makes him more money than I make in a year.
So this morning I looked how I could get more people buy a $20 product myself…
It’s fall again. My favorite season. I like the colors, the contrast, the smells. I also like winter. Spring and summer are not my favorites.
But… and this is a big but… without seasons there would be no life on Planet Earth… of, according to the National Geographic, only in the area of the Equator… no agriculture, no science, no evolution… and lots of bugs.
When I ask Source it says: there would be no intelligent life.
So the seasons have something to do with the livability of this planet… and the seasons come from the tilt and wobble of the planet.
Some people come, with credit card, cash in their hands, or their umbilical cord… ready to plug it into your business, and yet you, as a business, you as a person, are better off without them.
I can’t help everyone. I literally can’t produce the result you pay for without your participation, without you being part of the solution.
There is a saying: you can’t teach a pig to sing. It will only annoy the pig, and they’ll never sing.
Why is having The Sight important to you? why is seeing important? You are not blind after all!
Religions that talk about the Third Eye are full of crap, by the way. Here is the Wikipedia entry:
The third eye is a mystical and esoteric concept of a speculative invisible eye, usually depicted as located on the forehead, which provides perception beyond ordinary sight
As we are embarking on another 30-day challenge to activate seeing in reality… I change the focus and therefore the process, but want to achieve the same thing: accuracy, astuteness, intelligence… in seeing what is in reality and have accurate, astute and intelligent responses in return.
Because, as weird as it sounds, the best the collective human race can do, at this stage is a 1% accuracy… which isn’t sufficient for happiness, peace of mind, powerful life… none of it.
Why? Because we look not out there, but in here… in the mind, and we keep seeing the same thing, regardless what is outside.
Your vibration, everyone’s main concern, can only be high as your astuteness is… this is why the average vibration on the planet is falling like a rock… it is 100 in 2020. When I started this website, in 2011, the average vibration was, if I remember correctly, 150… 100 is the level of religion, any ideology, fascism, communism, racism…
So, although I can’t do much for the Planet, I can help individuals lift themselves from the morass and see more, and see more accurately.
The easiest method and fastest method of doing that is validation, the practice, coupled with the DNA capacity activation.
To be able to get into the vibration of appreciation (300 on the map of consciousness) or get into the vibration of gratitude (above 300 on the map of consciousness), you would need to be a vibrational match to either, and 99.99% of the population isn’t.
The good news is: the act of validation will temporarily raise your vibration to that same vibrational frequency and that is the vibrational frequency where you can TEMPORARILY activate the Law of Attraction and have your desires be fulfilled. You can start exactly where you are.
If you diligently practice validation, you will be able to keep your vibrational frequency at this high level. You will experience first-hand what having a higher vibration is like: pure bliss.
Let me explain the process of validation
You find something worthy of acknowledgment in another.
It can be big or small. You can always find something easy to start with: you have nice teeth, or you smell good, or your socks are a fabulous color. Practice this first to find out that people, if you are honest, will appreciate being seen…
Next, a step harder, is to have a goal in mind: one could be: to experience being heard by another. I have a student for whom that would be reason to celebrate.
Another goal could be to bring a smile to another’s face.
Mine is often to experience people returning to the present moment. I’ll feel it because I will experience that they can actually see me. Not an easy feat… I don’t always succeed. You show up for them as a disruption… ok, I do… lol. Hey, I am a disrupter…
Why does validation work? Why it alters YOU? Why it’s worth doing?
Validation coupled with the DNA activation is like getting glimpses of heaven.
Validation is much like smiling. Once you start it, it causes a state change. Your mood start matching the smile, it goes up with it. You don’t have to feel like smiling when you start, and when you end it, you can’t help feeling happy.
In the beginning you will have to strain yourself to find anything worthy of acknowledgment. But as you practice, it will be easier and easier.
I remember when I started I looked at people’s clothing, their bodies, their hair to find something to acknowledge. Then I graduated to behavior, and later to who they really are. Today I am able to connect to their real self and acknowledge that.
Catch: in order for validation to work for you, you actually need to look before you speak. Which means, you can’t just become a robot, and spout nice things, that will actually lower your vibration. Trickery doesn’t work in the world of vibration.
Remember that this exercise only raises your vibration while you are doing it. So doing it diligently is your best bet.
Eventually you’ll be able to keep the DNA capacity open… but continuing living a life of a validator is, I say, mandatory to keep the capacity open so you can see
Put up reminders around you. After a long while it will become second nature to you. By then your vibration was permanently impacted.
The 30-day Validation challenge starts on Monday, 10/26/2020
I activate the capacity and let you know in an email.
So, as you see, the first exercise for validation asks you to see… and tell them. See more every day, and tell them.
A second exercise for validation is different
It talks to something you can’t see. It is designed to open up your sight to see what you have been denied access to by your own mind.
Some twenty years ago I had a homework in one of the courses I did to acknowledge a missing item, something I could not see, something that was missing for me. The instructions were: lie authentically.
That sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? lie and authentic in the same sentence? Bah.
But it worked brilliantly. It took me a week and 43 people, but by the 44th I could actually see free, my missing item, and acknowledge it authentically. Until that point I just said the words, and was very surprised that people thanked me for noticing it, or just nodded in agreement. I really could not see… but they could. They had a different missing item, not the same as mine.
I have used this in my coaching with the same surprising results.
My missing item was “free.” Yours will be likely different.
So my acknowledgment was: “I see that you are free.” Or “I acknowledge you for being free”.
If your missing item is powerful, then you would say: “I can see that you are powerful”. You’ll be surprised to see how many people will be pleased to hear it.
This second exercise, done properly and past the time that you can actually see your missing item, raises your vibration permanently.
I just got an email from a long time student who said:
how can something that is all about me raise my vibration? After all my missing item is ‘belonging’… and it is all about me.
My answer is: the exercise is to acknowledge that they have your missing item… and that is not about you. If I tell you: I see you are loved, and you smile and feel warm all over, and say, thank you… was that about me? No.
So none of the validation exercises are about you. If at any point you feel it’s about you, then you are doing some ego exercise.
If you think you are ready to make the jump, please do so before Monday
You see that the line is tout, the rod is trembling, so you do what fishermen do, and you pull out a fish.
As you take the hook out of the fish’s mouth the fish starts to talk. It says: My good man (or woman, if you are a woman), please release me back into the water and I will reward you handsomely: I will fulfill three wishes for you.
How to tell the difference between thing-ness and beingness… i.e. are you treating another a person or a thing?
