What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?

What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?

orphaned fawnDon’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and
do that. Because what the world needs is people who come alive. ~Nelson Mandela

There is a word in Hungarian. It is very expressive, a word I ponder… a lot.

It is “elanyatlanodik”. If I want to translate, so I don’t lose the root, it means becoming a motherless orphan.

The word indicates that a child, at any age, goes through a fundamental loss when they lose the mother.

Half of my students, in some emotional way, lost their mother, the other half would have been better off losing their mother.

What do I mean? Continue reading “What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?”

Guidance that comes from outside of your own head?

Guidance that comes from outside of your own head?
train rail to change directionsDo you ever use guidance that comes from outside of your own head?

If not, you will arrive where you are heading

Good, you say, but where you are heading is in the invisible, meaning it is not where you would like to go: happy ever after, but where you are, in earnest, heading.

So where are you heading? This is what this article will explore for you, with you.

So first let’s start with some invisible dynamics that you need to understand if you want to see how this works, how Newton’s laws apply here… not just in the inanimate world:

Newton’s three laws of motion may be stated as follows: Every object in a state of uniform motion will remain in that state of motion unless an external force acts on it. Force equals mass times acceleration. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

We’ll be looking how the first law applies to YOU and your life…

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Connecting the dots in the right order: cause and effect

Connecting the dots in the right order: cause and effect

connect the dotsConnecting the dots in the right order… seeing cause and effect accurately

Seeing what-causes-what is missing. Yesterday I said 99.99% of humanity lacks it… I wasn’t exaggerating. It’s really 99.999%… ten times more that lack it.

In essence one in 100,000 people, or ten in a million have it even partially, in one area of life.

It’s an intellectual capacity, fundamentally essential to success in the world

This is why Mathematics, Physics, and Geometry is so hard for people. Continue reading “Connecting the dots in the right order: cause and effect”

What happens when you cannot see causality? 99.99% of humanity can’t…

Yesterday I wrote about seeing reason, seeing the causal relationship between things.

I confess that it is a hard thing to see. Not just me, but everyone. Cause is in the invisible realm of reality… it is there, but it is rarely seen.

The Butterfly Effect comes to mind, that says through a string of invisible cause and effect happenings, a butterfly flapping its wings in Japan will cause a tornado in Arkansas. According to Wikipedia: Butterfly effect: In chaos theory, the butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions in which a small change in one state of a deterministic nonlinear system can result in large differences in a later state.

So it is not easy. But… and this is what this article is about, most people lack even the curiosity necessary to see causal relationships: they don’t care.

If you don’t have a capacity, you also lack the capacity to see what would it entail to exercise that capacity.

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It’s difficult to argue: Life behaves as if it were sentient

It’s difficult to argue that Life behaves as if it were sentient…

the vitruvian man…Especially when it comes to people.

Of course people are sentient, and one could argue that it is not Life but the ‘spark’ in people that is doing the sentient-seeming actions. I don’t know enough, I don’t see enough, I am puzzled… I am looking.

What am I talking about?

People seem to be taught, repeatedly, what they need to learn and haven’t learned.

One of the most difficult thing for people to learn that there are consequences. Continue reading “It’s difficult to argue: Life behaves as if it were sentient”

What does it exactly mean? What do THEY exactly mean? What am I supposed to do exactly?

butter on breadWhen I write an article, when I give instructions, when I teach, what people do is as diverse as if I told them all different things… even though I said exactly the same thing. It could be my intonation: they were on the call at the same time, or read the same article, and yet.

You listen approximately, hear more of your commentary and interpretation than what is actually said, and then you follow your commentary, not what was said. And, to boot, you never actually take the time to understand what the words really mean. Your vocabulary is approximate… and you may not even know it.

I have been telling my Playground student to retell their life incidents in movie mode, so they can see what actually happened, without their feelings, without their interpretation, without their meaning, without the drama, without they remember… just the facts… on a movie. Continue reading “What does it exactly mean? What do THEY exactly mean? What am I supposed to do exactly?”

How do you change the future? By changing the past…

opposable thumbsEver feel like you are just the thumb Source needs to get things done? Things that need a thumb… Physical things…

I used to have a cat. And cats teach you about yourself things you never wanted to know, like how insignificant and useless you are.

But one thing they also teach you that has served me well is teaching me that I have thumbs. Opposable thumbs. And in spite of their contempt for me otherwise, I can be useful because I can operate the can opener.

And god… whatever god is, is a lot like my cat. It needs a human with opposing thumbs to get things done in the physical universe. God doesn’t have a thumb. God is an energy, in all, through all, it is omnipotent… but lacking physical manifestation, it lacks a thumb… lol. So, us, humans, are here to make things happen.

For the most part, this has been my experience of that energy I call Source. Especially when I play Freecell.
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Procrastination: a life that is not going anywhere

Procrastination: a life that is not going anywhere

fear or action, that is the questionProcrastination is only the tip of the iceberg of a life that is not going anywhere

One of the behaviors that can be observed with people who procrastinate is that they are also reactive… not proactive.

I will talk about that in another article… but for now I am more interested in another one of the “hidden in plain sight” hidden dynamics is: where, on what you are focusing.

Duality is firmly present, omnipresent, in reality where it concerns you. You either do one thing or another. Even when seemingly you are doing both… because you can only do one thing at a time. Because your attention is like a vector, it can be placed on one thing at a time.

You can either be defensive or on the offensive.

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Why do you want to connect to Source? What would it do?

Why do you want to connect to Source? What would it do?
Let me start with the story of a famous thief…

Arthur Barry was described by Time as ‘The slickest second-story man in the East,’ truly one of the most famous jewel thieves of all times.

In his years of crime, he committed as many as 150 burglaries and stole jewels valued between $5 and $10 million.

He seldom robbed from anyone not listed in the Social Register and often did his work in… get this…

A tuxedo!

On an occasion or two, when caught in the act of a crime by a victim, he charmed his way out of being reported to the police.

Like most people who engage in a life of crime, he was eventually caught, convicted and served 25 years in prison.

Following his release, he worked as a counterman in a roadside restaurant on the East Coast for $50 a week.

A newspaper reporter found him and interviewed him about his life.

After telling about the thrilling episodes of his life he came to the conclusion of the interview saying:

‘I am not good at morals. But early in my life I was intelligent and clever, and I got along well with people.

‘I think I could have made something of my life, but I didn’t.

‘So when you write the story of my life, when you tell people about all the burglaries, don’t leave out the biggest one of all… Don’t just tell them I robbed Jesse Livermore, the Wall Street baron or the cousin of the King of England. You tell them Arthur Barry robbed… Arthur Barry.

Arthur Barry realized — too late –that he’d robbed himself of time.

We all only have so much time to achieve our dreams and aspirations.

I don’t know what your dreams and aspirations are — but I do know that for you to achieve them you’ll likely need to get the cooperation and help of your vertical self. Your higher self.

This means that you are going to need to know how get out of your horizontal self, get into your vertical self, and get the cooperation and supportive help of your vertical self…

…and the EASIEST way to do that is to connect to Source… that is on the same vertical as your ‘inner coach’, the Observing Self. And no, it is not your mind. Your mind is NOT your inner coach, though it pretends to be one. Your mind is the one that tells you that you are entitled… or that you are stupid… that you will never amount to anything, no matter what you do.

Your inner coach is your vertical self, and to locate it, you need to be able to use the Tangerine Method to connect to Source. (Alternatively, I think, you can do it while you are connected to the Big Bundle… but I am not sure. I can’t test it because I am always connected.)

It doesn’t have to be hard either. You just need the right tool and training to teach you how to do it.

You see, most things that are out there (I say most, because I haven’t seen everything yet. But for all the courses that I have seen, what I am saying here is true), most teachers, most training, most coaching, most meditation, most guru stuff, operate on and strengthen your horizontal self.

They operate on your desire to have more, to feel better, to be special, to hoard, to control, to ‘lead’, to have more fun, and all that comes from your horizontal self, and firmly entrenches you there.

Why do they do it? Because that kind of desire breeds more desire.

Because you want fulfillment, satisfaction, the freedom to be, feel connected, have self-expression fully, be all you can be.

And the horizontal desires don’t give it to you.

The horizontal self will just keep yearning, and spend your time and money on trying to get what those gurus promised…

Or, alternatively, your horizontal self hears that you can. And it may be true. You may have the potential to do it.

One of the winning ideas T. Harv Eker had was to call his company Peak Potentials… and potentials the participants remained.

Even in programs  like The Millionaire Mind Intensive where he had a step-by-step method of climbing closer to your potential, people didn’t act on it.

In the Millionaire Mind Intensive they give you two tools that actually are quite brilliant, even though I have stopped using them long time ago.
  1. the jars
  2. the 90-day Wealth Conditioning Program.

When I did the course, back in 2002, if I remember the year correctly, I went home and started doing those two. I bought the 6 jars, and did the daily exercises from the 90-day program… daily. Diligently.

After 30 days I had a reunion with a lot of people from the class. I asked if they did the exercises, and could not find even one who did.

I, myself, increased my net worth by 30 grands in 30 days.

I felt like a two headed monster… too different to be comfortable. So I quickly retreated to my former self: no jars, no exercises, no money.

Why did I do that, you ask?

Because my horizontal self took over, and I became like everyone else: a potential.

And went back to living a potential life. With the sad reality that my life didn’t amount to much.

But it is not too late to change. I changed, and I can teach you the steps.

The Brilliance at Will course was always about connecting to the Vertical Self.

In the beginning I hoped that I can give it to you, just give it to you while you are connected to Source with the Tangerine Method.

Then I started to teach you the principles of the machine we all live in, the machine that was created by our reptilian brain with its thinking part, the Mind.

I have been at it for years.

My job is to get you to live in your Vertical Self, even when you interact with the horizontal world… television, internet, Facebook, texting, other people, work, traffic, shopping, housekeeping, children, exercising, your body, your pain, your emotions, your thoughts.

It is a job that can’t succeed without you saying NO to everything you know, at least some of the time.

The clients and students who are successful, have found one major sticking point and its remedy.

More often than not, it is the Itch and its remedy. That is why I push the Itch workshop, because finding the Itch is the magic looking glass for most.

And having awareness of that one sticking point is enough to turn your life, turn your results, turn your whole life-experience around.

In an upcoming article I will talk about urges. The urge to avoid, the urge to do the same as always. The urge is like a sudden jerk of the machine: near irresistible. And what goes hand in hand with the issue is its remedy: self-discipline.

I have found that the level of self-discipline you have corresponds very well with your vibration, with your level of well being, and with your ability to produce results. The average level of self-discipline in the world is 3%. You need at least a level of 20% to do the work of becoming an Expanding Human Being. Lincoln was at 76%, Edison was at 85%. Where are you with that? You can send me a donation and I’ll measure it for you. In the meantime I am looking for a good course where you could get trained to increase your level of self-discipline.

It seems that I have the biggest issue with that, my own self-discipline. It’s only 30%.

In the meantime just hang in there, come to the Itch, sign up for coaching… all synergistic together.

Oh, and of course, learning to connect to Source with the Tangerine Method can make it all easier…

…after all the most important element of becoming an expanding Human Being is moving the Self into the Observer position.

I have a hunch that the Big Bundle can be an instigator in you being able to be connected and do all the stuff a connected person can do… while the audio is playing you your ears.

 

PS: The 7 greatest master thieves you’ve never heard of

We hear more about big time art and jewel heists in the movies than in the news simply for the fact that the main objective of any good burglar is to not get caught. Masters of disguise and often smooth talkers with a knack for getting in and out of even the tightest security environments, these master thieves were the best in the business.

Vincenzo Perguia, the Mona Lisa Thief. 1913

Vincenzo Peruggia: Vincenzo’s life of burglary was pretty short lived and really only had one highlight – the guy stole the Mona Lisa. Yea, the Mona Lisa, which is a pretty big deal, considering it’s probably the most recognizable painting in the world. In 1911, the former museum worker hid inside the Louvre over the weekend and slipped the painting under his painter’s smock and strolled out with it. Yep, it was that easy. Vincenzo kept the painting in his apartment for two years before being busted when trying to sell it to a gallery owner in Italy. Still, the guy had a pretty cool centerpiece for his bachelor pad for a while.

Frank William Abagnale, Jr

Frank William Abagnale, Jr.: Maybe the only living thief today who has had nearly as much success post his life of crime as he did while on the run. While he didn’t steal any priceless works of art, Frank used his cunningness to scam millions of dollars from banks through check fraud across 26 countries in a period of only five years starting at the tender age of 16. While other kids were working a paper route, Frank was jet setting across the Atlantic taking on the false identities of successful doctors and lawyers. After his FBI bust, Frank took up the honest profession of running a financial fraud consulting biz. Not all his glory was lost however; he guy still got Steven Spielberg to make a movie about him.

François Villon

François Villon: Francois Villon was a 15th century French poet who supported his himself through a life of crime (surprise – not much $$ in the poetry biz). Spending part of his childhood as an orphan before being adopted by a wealthy clerk, Francois was actually a good student. It didn’t last though and he turned to crime, joining a gang of thieves called “Gang des Coquillards” and began robbing churches and public offices. After his arrest in 1462 he was to be tortured and hanged, but had his sentenced was reduced to banishment. After that not much is known about Francois, but his poems continue to puzzle French lit majors to this day.

Bill Mason

Bill Mason: Bill Mason lived the life of a lot of American men, regular job, wife and kids, but on the weekends instead of going on fishing trips he preferred to steal millions of dollars in jewels from the high rise penthouses of the rich and famous. For 25 years, he lived a double life and became addicted to stealing valuables from celebrities like Bob Hope before being busted and serving five years behind bars. Which really doesn’t sound bad, considering estimates of his plunders are around $70 million. Instead of heading back to his cat burglar activities after prison the guy decided to write the bestselling book, Nine Lives. Not a bad way to capitalize on your follies.

doris payne jewel thiefDoris Payne

Doris Payne: The youngest of six, Doris Payne is the only female on our list and came from humble beginnings of a WV coal miner father – not exactly the classic makings of a 50-yr career jewel thief. Doris didn’t rely on fancy tools or gymnast skills to get the goods, but confusing the store clerks and causing them to forget while she slipped out the store. A master at sweet talking sales clerks, she’d try on multiple items before sneaking out with one or two pieces of bling, often selling them before she left town. Now 80 yrs-old, Doris spends her time in the pen, while talks of a bio pic with Halle Berry float around Tinsel town.

Alan Golder

Alan Golder: Besides the riches, international intrigue and possible movie deals one of the cool things about being a master thief is the nickname. Take Alan Golder “The Dinnertime Bandit” for example. Alan started his life of crime at just 6 yrs-old and by 21 was selling stolen jewels on the NYC black market. Often working for the Genovese crime family, Alan would sneak into the homes of such notables as Johnny Carson and rob them blind during their dinner parties. Spending much the 1990s behind bars, upon his release Alan went back to what he knew best, crashing dinner parties and leaving with a doggy bag of bling.

Charles Peace

Charles Peace: Quite possibly the most famous cat burglar in history, Charles Peace stood at just 5’4 and used his gymnast skills and elaborate set of tools to raid the homes and stores of London’s rich before finally being tried and hung for his crimes in 1879. Many knew his name, but few knew what the man looked like as a result of the thief’s masterful disguises. Wanted posters issued by Scotland Yard listed his age somewhere between 40-70 yrs old. His unusual life of crime has been the inspiration for dozens of books and films, so in a strange way crime does pay. Peace just wasn’t around to see the benefits.[/efn_note]

Getting to clear. Getting to whole and complete.

Why are you miserable… why do you pretend to be happy?

Good question, isn’t it? Both parts…

My answer is the same to both questions… both parts.

It is the shoulds.

They are everywhere. Society, family, partner, government, religion, everyone we come in contact with place a should on us… and we take it, even if we don’t like it.

When we are born, life is big, and our playing ground is huge.

Then come the no’s and the do or else’s…

And with every no and with every “do or else” the playing ground where we are free to do what we want to do gets smaller and smaller.

When I look at people, they are pretty much restricted to a life the size of a playpen. Area where they are free to be themselves, area where they can be curious, area where they can do what they want to do. Continue reading “Getting to clear. Getting to whole and complete.”