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Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion

I just had an insight. I saw something I had never seen, even though it was right in front of my eyes.

The source of neediness.

First let’s look at what is a need and what is not…

We need food and shelter and clothes to cover our need. We may need a community, and air and water. Not much more.

Margoczi says we also need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves and other people’s expectations of us… Maybe. I am not sure. Maybe to the extent that we can carry our own weight… but not more.

But there are certain things we, as children, thought we should have gotten, and we didn’t, and now we pursue it, relentlessly, at our own detriment.

What kind of things? Continue reading “Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion”

Are you astute? Do you think I am saying something bad?

Astuteness is being able to identify what’s in front of you, what’s happening, what might be the issue, the problem, and match solutions with problems successfully.

It seems that one of elements, or sub-capacities of astuteness is missing for nearly every person… and this capacity is easier to turn on by asking a simple question… while the whole sink and caboodle of astuteness comes to bear only AFTER you go through the first fundamental step.

This step is being able to separate, to tell apart what is relevant and what isn’t.

When you have a capacity open, you suspect that everyone has it open and functional, and fall flat on your face when it turns out that people don’t have it, can’t see it, and it isn’t missing for them that it’s missing for them.

This is what happened with this capacity. Continue reading “Are you astute? Do you think I am saying something bad?”

It is not the smartest, it is not the strongest that make it

Whether Darwin said that anything like that, or he didn’t… doesn’t concern me. The principle is true, whether a famous person said it or not.

In the evolutionary sense, it is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able best to adapt and adjust to the changing environment in which it finds itself. Continue reading “It is not the smartest, it is not the strongest that make it”

Fighting your demons, expecting to win one day

You and I spend most of our lives trying to fix something that never happened. Not only that it wasn’t wrong… but it never actually happened. Something that was never factually true. Even though you keep telling the story as if it were true. And you don’t know that you are lying.

Some people call these demons… even though there are no demons… but nevertheless, using the expression: fighting your demons is very accurate, if you don’t believe that demons are entities. There are no entities in the visible or invisible Universe.

And yet we are fighting… I call it an itch… a compulsion… something that makes you weird.

The ITCH that tells you that unless you get what you say you didn’t get in that story, at whatever price, even extorting it, you cannot be OK. Continue reading “Fighting your demons, expecting to win one day”

Are you the bowler or the bowling ball? in the hands of…

Are you the bowler or the bowling ball? A bowling ball in the hands of your pancreas and your thyroid…

One of the enemies you need to work against, and I mean WORK against, is the impression other people give you, that if you can see it, you can do it.

That if you see a result, you can have it.

It seems to be sold and bought wholesale by nearly everyone, and buying that, of course, reduces you to a thing that engages in wishful thinking, but does no productive work.

It is so seductive to think that forcing yourself to do work belongs to lesser people. That to actually learn how to climb the mountain, get the right gear, get the right guidance is something you’ll never have to do… because you are special, you are better.

And, obviously, we are not only talking about climbing a mountain, we are talking about things you want to, you could achieve, but you don’t, in any area of life. Continue reading “Are you the bowler or the bowling ball? in the hands of…”

Can you be sick and be well at the same time?

Some days the DS energies are stronger than others. Today is one of those days.

The energies can effect the emotions (just like the ones in the Heaven on Earth! just the opposite way: make them stronger instead of weakening them), other days the energies are like physical pain… if you imagine someone using a voodoo doll to torture you, by proxy.

I have an appointment at 3 and I need to decide if I should cancel it.

I connect to Source, and I muscletest: “Am I going to be well at 3?” The answer is yes. I know that the question was “illegal”, I am not allowed to divinate, ask questions about the future. Hm… I ask another question: “Am I OK now?” and the answer is yes.

I laugh and laugh and laugh. It’s funny.
Continue reading “Can you be sick and be well at the same time?”

You need to understand why it is the way it is to change it

This article will be mostly about reading. Specifically why reading doesn’t fulfill its purpose with you…

Remember when I asked you if your life was empty? a week or so ago…

Well, when nothing is actually happening in your life, it feels empty. Continue reading “You need to understand why it is the way it is to change it”

How do you measure success?

Some people who blog like me measure their success by how many people open their articles, how many ‘read’ them, how many ‘clap’ for them.

For me those are not the numbers I am interested to know.

I want to know how many people actually BENEFIT from what I write, from what I teach, from what I create. and I want to increase that number.

It’s a harder number to know, because

1. People lie

People lie to themselves, and then they lie to me… they (I just learned this expression) virtue-signal… they want to look good, they want to look important to me, they want to get the praise, the applause, whatever.

They are NEEDY.

2. People think that all they have to do is buy the darned thing… . Continue reading “How do you measure success?”

Whenever there is a gap between your habits and your goals, your habits will always win.

If you ever wondered why you haven’t been accomplishing as much as you intend, wish, desire to accomplish, that quote should be your guide: Whenever there is a gap between your habits and your goals, your habits will always win.

What habits are we talking about? Interestingly, here, we are mostly interested in the how, instead of the what habits.

I have students who seemingly do the right things… but their results fall way behind what the effort would suggest.

The reason is in the how… Continue reading “Whenever there is a gap between your habits and your goals, your habits will always win.”

What does a Hungarian joke have to do with your life script?

Teacher: list five African animals
Morris: two tigers and three elephants

There are a few jokes that I brought with myself from Hungary… that describe the human condition very well.

One of them is an elementary school joke:

Morris is asked to say the multiplication table… with 8.

He starts to chant… lalala-lala lalala… lalala lala lalala…

What is this? Asks the stunned teacher? Oh, I remember the tune, but can’t recall the words… answers Morris.

Several of my students, maybe all, got stuck in an early childhood age, resulting from a decision to fix a traumatic incident. Continue reading “What does a Hungarian joke have to do with your life script?”