How come you have no energy for the things you say are important to you?

How come you have no energy for the things you say are important to you?

filling my brain with stuffWhen I look how come I get to accomplish so much in a day, ultimately I always find that I set up my life differently from most.

I started back in 1987…

I was in a seminar called “Excellence” and I was clearly not in excellence in my life. The biggest issue was how much I hated my job, how much I would have preferred to do something else. Anything else.

But that was my job, and I didn’t see any alternative…

So I decided to do what I could… And I decided to pull back my power. Continue reading “How come you have no energy for the things you say are important to you?”

Cooking Jazz, Not Classical

Cooking Jazz, Not Classical
Lowering the barriers of cooking, so more people can connect deeply with the food system.

Last week we extolled the virtues of cooking and how it’s the link between everyday action and massive food systems change.

In a nutshell, cooking brings us closer to the food system like no other thing can and it makes us all informed, vested partners in a better food future.

But the way we teach mainstream America to cook is broken. It’s a recipe driven system, which prioritizes rote memorization over intelligent kitchen improvisation. It forces us to fit rigidly into a script, instead of staying flexible to the idiosyncrasies of our daily lives and pantries.

If we are to improve the food system through cooking, we need to lower the barriers to cooking and change the way we teach people how to make food.

A few years ago I wrote a piece on my supperclub’s blog about this very topic, which I’m re-posting below. It still encapsulates the way I look at cooking and I hope it can sway some of you away from the tyranny of the recipe and onto the freedom of gaining food instincts. I think it’s a way of looking at food that can get more people cooking regularly.

With all the ways to push a button and make food appear at our doorsteps, we need more ways to lower the barriers to cooking for everyday people.

Here it is, Cooking Jazz, Not Classical…

Over the years we’ve cooked a lot of recipes. Some have called for a battalion of ingredients and some have even begged for certain items to measured within a tenth of a gram. Taken literally, a recipe inherently calls for some semblance of perfection in the kitchen–you have all the ingredients, all the equipment, all the spices, etc.–and depending on whose recipe you’re reading, deviating from the script can be hazardous.

This sort of cooking is fine and well for the situation that calls for it, but more often than not in our lives, we cook in a much looser format. Life isn’t perfect, we aren’t perfect, so why live under the engineered construct of cooking by the recipe, where the ante is usually some level of perfection that most kitchens don’t have?

And while I learned to cook to some extent by following recipes, what stuck with me has not always been the exact composition of a recipe, but the underlying structure that most good recipes follow. The simplest example is pasta. Why do we need 100s of Pasta Primavera recipes? Why do we need 100s of separate units of information to tell us how to make different versions of the same dish structure?

The formula for Pasta Primavera is: 1) Pasta, 2) Vegetable, 3) Meat, if you wish. Why don’t we just tell people the basic structure of Pasta Primavera, tell them the characteristics of each element in the structure (e.g., Pasta: any long pasta works great, don’t use stuffed pastas; Vegetables: sturdy green veggies work best, don’t use potatoes…) and implore them to find the combinations that they like?

I believe that if you pay attention to how a dish is structured, rather than cooking each variation of it one by one in a recipe, you can have a much more fulfilling experience in the kitchen. You will gain intelligence about cooking, not just knowledge, and you will be more adept in the kitchen as a result.

A recipe is written like classical music–you follow the score, and note-by-note on the page, you create music. What I’m proposing is that we all start thinking of cooking more like Jazz–learn the basic scales and the right chords, then go off and jam out.

The Jazz approach brings cooking back down to Earth, embracing our culinary imperfections and whims, not making us feel bad that we don’t fit the rules dictated by a recipe. If we can teach people to become better improvisers in the kitchen, we can lower the barriers to cooking at home, and hopefully create new a new habit for the average American. I believe that we are smarter than the caricatures of chefs (professional and otherwise) that we see on the Food Network, and that we can teach people how to be intelligent in the kitchen, not simply follow orders.


Which brings me to an example that’s near and dear to us at Studiofeast. Here is a structure for Bo Ssam, that carnivorous Korean classic that has sat at the center of many a dinner party for us. In the image, the key elements of a Bo Ssam are unpacked, but we try to give guidelines rather than instructions on how to create your own. It’s an imperfect, initial attempt, but I want to see if it makes sense to people and if it can be the first step toward getting people to approach cooking a different way. This is the start, and it will evolve.

Go on, download the Bo Ssam Framework here and try it on your own.

Source: https://medium.com/the-future-market/cooking-jazz-not-classical-490eb9b77d8#.pjxql3r17

Context is decisive, or why your dreams only exist in words

Context is decisive, or why your dreams only exist in words

You have freedom to create any context you wish. There are only two kinds of contexts:

1. Empowering Context
2. Disempowering Context

Empowering means, simply, that it gives you power to go in the direction you meant to go. It is like the wind behind your back.

Disempowering, as in anything negative, what takes you off your path, hinders you, takes your power away, makes you doubt, etc. Continue reading “Context is decisive, or why your dreams only exist in words”

Choose your life in the first hour of your day. The Backdrop

Choose your life in the first hour of your day. The Backdrop

being-firstEvery day works best if and when you have a context set in the first hour of the day.

If you prefer the imprecise New Age-y language of Esther Hicks, the original quote is here

Take the time to line up the Energy first, and action becomes inconsequential. If you don’t take the time to line up the Energy, if you don’t find the feeling place of what you’re looking for, not enough action in the world will make any difference.

She is trying to say the same thing. Trying. Continue reading “Choose your life in the first hour of your day. The Backdrop”

Do you have opportunities to break out from your routine?

Do you have opportunities to break out from your routine?

the-2-percentFor me holidays are important, because they are not routine. And because it is so easy to be in a routine, and not consider it a rut… even I need something outside to change to take a different look at my own life, at my own business.

This time around I finally was willing to admit that my site needs redesigning.

I am not willing to overhaul it completely, but I am willing to make it completely compatible with mobile devices: already more than 50% of all visits are from mobile devices. I have been acting in concert with the 5% tweak principle I learned from Tai
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Awareness… it’s seeing what you are looking at. Accurately

Awareness… it’s seeing what you are looking at. Accurately

cherry-hazelnut-muesli-2I have been in this inquiry since February when I first heard Tai say: the strongest predictor of your success, in any area of life, is the level of your awareness.

So what is this awareness that is so important.

Nine months… it’s taken me till today to get complete clarity of what this ‘thing’ awareness is.

Six million Jews perished in the gas chambers and mass graves during the holocaust, because they were not aware.

Tens of millions of people were ashamed of themselves and their association with Germany, people who elected Hitler and the Nazi party… because they were not aware.
Continue reading “Awareness… it’s seeing what you are looking at. Accurately”

You want it effortlessly… Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance…

You want it effortlessly… Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance…

surviving the weekI read a lot of books. About 100 books a year. Cover to cover. I don’t subscribe to Tai’s reading method…

I left a 2000 book library when I left Hungary. that was 34 years ago.

Every book is an opportunity to shatter my view of the world. And many do. Sometimes not directly… sometimes through the effect the book has on other people.

This is what is happening with this book I am currently reading, The Upside of Your Dark Side. And previously with the book “Curious

My view of others got turned upside down… sideways… OMG. Talk about upsetting my apple cart! lol.
Continue reading “You want it effortlessly… Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance…”

When you’re suddenly in turmoil inside and say: Opportunity

When you’re suddenly in turmoil inside and say: Opportunity

I am in turmoil, right now. Inside. Have been for a few days… Since Sunday night…

Some people use milder language. They say they are out of sorts… Same thing.

What happens when you go from a relative cease-fire, stand-still, contentment, to a state of ‘what is going on? Why do I feel so bad?’ Continue reading “When you’re suddenly in turmoil inside and say: Opportunity”

Self-coaching demonstrated

Self-coaching demonstrated

what-coaching-is-notHm, it seems that “Source” or my inner guidance, or soul, or whatever is doing this guidance thing… is intent for me to have integrity: speak from experiential truth.

So it seems from the few “trips” it’s been sending me.

  1. In the area of health, it is telling me to make dietary mistakes… so I can be authentic in saying things to my clients and students that are doing things that hurt them.

    As soon as I get what I was supposed to get… I am taken to the next “trip”.

  2. Continue reading “Self-coaching demonstrated”

Cognitive biases, blind spots, a sticky point and a “remedy”

Cognitive biases, blind spots, a sticky point and a “remedy”

center-of-the-universe-2011We are all born seeing ourselves as the center of the world. We don’t know we are the center of our world… we just don’t know there is any other vantage point to look from.

Most of us never learn it.

Like one of my students: every time I recommend anything, she answers: “I agree…”

She hasn’t crossed that threshold, that divide between infant and even toddler… absolutely and completely ignorant to the fact that using the personal vantage point is ineffective, because it is delusional.

This is also true if and when you can see that other people see things differently from how you see them, but your view is accurate and theirs is inaccurate.

Same delusional, baby-view of the world. Continue reading “Cognitive biases, blind spots, a sticky point and a “remedy””