How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them

I looked at pictures of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi… who wrote the book Flow, and is an expert on talking about happiness. Not being happy, mind you, on researching happiness.

He doesn’t look happy, doesn’t feel happy (remember, I am an empath).

I even went and found videos where he speaks Hungarian… hoping to find a picture where he is joyful.

Didn’t find any. Not even one.

His insightful quote: “People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy.” is what was missing for him, and what is missing for most people most of the time. Continue reading “How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them”

Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind

Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind

Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind or brain or whatever part they blame for your lack of success and lackluster life.

When Tiger Wood discovered that his swing that he trained and won with was actually limiting him, he needed to take time out to “reprogram” his body to do the swing differently.

If you try to program the brain while you keep the current programming, you’ll be like me… I was in an Israeli supermarket when this French lady came up to me and asked me if I spoke French. Yes, I said. Can you read the English instructions on this box in French for me?

I started to read it in French, I thought, but turned out I read it in Hebrew, or a mix of French and Hebrew: I could not even tell.

The memory of that fiasco stuck in my mind forever: this was 30 plus years ago.

So what do the “reprogram the mind” people do wrong that no one ever gets reprogrammed, and basically we are all screwed if we follow their teachings?

Before you can write something on a blackboard, and make it dominant, you need to erase what is already there. Continue reading “Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind”

Desensitizing you to the mind-noise vs. principles

Desensitizing you to the mind-noise vs. principles

the unexamined lifeI watch Netflix series that don’t make sense on the surface for me to watch. But when I look, there is no book, no fiction, that would teach me the principle Source tells me to learn.

I am looking for principles. Principles are a lot like laws. According to the dictionary, a principle is a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning. Continue reading “Desensitizing you to the mind-noise vs. principles”

Imagining success, imagining stuff… here is what really happens…

Unless you know what creates your sky high desire number, and your unbridgeable gap between reality and your delusion… you need to learn where it comes from, what feeds it, and what is the feeder’s goal.

Your guiding principle should be: If in 30% you don’t know who is the sucker in the room, then it’s you. You are the sucker.

So how are you made the sucker? And how come you don’t know?

The mind, that storage/imaging device that is part of your brain, is really stupid. It really believes everything it hears.

You do “imagine” exercises, and the mind believes that it’s there.

Now, what good does that do to you? None, I say… no matter what your “wealth conditioning” expert teaches you.

It gives you delusions, and a delusional person becomes the next sucker… plain and simple. Continue reading “Imagining success, imagining stuff… here is what really happens…”

Setting your sights sky high not getting your hands dirty

Setting your sights sky high not getting your hands dirty
Are you always going for the home run? The big win?

One of the most useful steps in the 67 steps is the step where Tai compares business/life to baseball.

The most important aspect of business is to not lose money. Money lost is the result of mistakes. Mistakes are the results of hasty actions, or actions that try to go from zero to sky high in one fell swoop.

Like a baseball player who tries to hit the ball so hard every time as to be able to have a home run…

Most people I talk to have no skills, no plans, no idea… but when I ask them what they are up to, they talk about the sky-high.

Most people want to raise their vibration to 500+ right away… Continue reading “Setting your sights sky high not getting your hands dirty”

What is the number that most predicts how effective you are

What is the number that most predicts how effective you are

Theory induced blindness

I like to call the phenomenon of not being able to see what doesn’t agree with your theory of life: theory induced blindness. A more popular and better known label for it is “confirmation bias”.

You only hear what you agree with. Or more precisely, you only see what you recognize. And you only consider what you recognize as agreeing with your worldview. Continue reading “What is the number that most predicts how effective you are”

Unless you understand why and how a spiritual practice works, you are just going through the motions.

This article is not about The Healing Codes… this article is about you. About you not taking the time and the effort to even understand what it is that you are hearing.

Your ability to translate hearing to seeing is weak. Why? Probably because being complete and thorough in anything is a rare capacity in humans… You think you understand and leave it at that. You don’t ask questions because you think that asking questions will make others think that you are stupid.

And you are right… they may think that… because they live in the same warped moronic worldview as you do.

But intelligent people ask clarifying questions. Intelligent people look up the meaning of words. Intelligent people do experiments and realize that what they are doing is not likely what they are supposed to do… so they ask questions.

Intelligence, real intelligence is rare.

Intelligence is a behavior… Continue reading “Unless you understand why and how a spiritual practice works, you are just going through the motions.”

Do your spiritual practices make you higher vibration?

Do your spiritual practices make you higher vibration?

What is the common error in many of the spiritual practices, an error that result in not what someone wanted from the practice, but instead forcing, or self-righteousness… neither of which are very spiritual? 1

I am learning a lot by observing Gurjieff at different stages of his journey, and through the different students he had.

If I am not mistaken, the mistake is made early on… in the intention.

I have learned different meditation techniques. What was in common with them is the desire to be free from the thoughts, and the harmful emotions.

It is the wrong start. Continue reading “Do your spiritual practices make you higher vibration?”

The connection between how you listen and how alive you are…

You listen… approximately. And your life can be no better… you are at best approximately alive.

Your powers of distinguishing the relevant from the irrelevant, the worth listening to or the noise, the worth reading or the noise, the worth knowing or the noise are not even on a kindergartner level.

Why? Because you have all these amazing human abilities, but you don’t use them.

When I tell you to practice the Amish Horse Training Method, and I explain that the way it goes is that the Amish farmer ties the young horse in training to a pole next to a busy highway, and leaves it to deal with the noise of the highway for 30-60 days. Continue reading “The connection between how you listen and how alive you are…”

Blind chicken syndrome part two. Serious teaching here

Blind chicken syndrome part two. Serious teaching here

In some way I was born to be one of these blind chickens. It used to take me conscious and deliberate thought not to close down a looking process, not to jump into a conclusion. It did not happen without deliberate thought.

And when I forgot, or I was too tired, or when I was on a roll… god save me from the consequences. My life, my business, my relationships could have been twice, three times as good had I had the presence of mind of remembering not to jump into conclusions all the time.

But there is another aspect, or maybe two?

And that is agenda.

I just watched on youtube the impassioned speech of the whistle blower in Larry Nassar sexual abuse trial.

The person, since her abuse, became a lawyer, has her own children.

The interesting thing about the speech was that its words were powerful, but she had an agenda… and that killed it for me, made me cringe: she wanted to impress.

Now, that is one of the agendas that you want to notice.

Are you speaking to impress? To be considered smart, knowledgeable, fast, or whatever the hell you are pretending? Are you pretending to others, or are you pretending for your own sake?

In the invisible 53, I speak about the invisible moves and games people play.

We could say that there is only one game … a racket. It is recognized by seeing that you have a payoff: making yourself look better than you are, smarter, etc… and a cost; giving up being all you can be.

Obviously, speaking for effect is a racket. And the real cost is that after saying what you said, now you cannot do what there is to do… because now it would negate the talking… and make you look bad.

And all the talk about becoming all you can be, having this and having that becomes impossible for you… because now you can’t do what you need to do.

And that is a horrible price to pay.

The other day someone posted a question that triggered a way of looking that is important:

Here is the question: Sophie, I’ve been teaching these steps to my children too. Hoping maybe they can catch it earlier on and start practicing hearing the voices and memes.

How do you make it a spiritual practice where you consciously do it 24/7 without forgetting it? Do you have a certain method you apply for each practice? I am thinking maybe putting few reminders in my phone to start with until it becomes a habit.

Some soul corrections are very delusional. The person fancies themselves other than they are. It is the voices… The voices that tell you you are better than you are. So what is asking the questions is the voices of the delusional self.

This particular person is a good example: when I muscletest how much of the time she is unconscious, asleep, living in the bull’s ear, safely tucked away in an imaginary world created by the voices… the muscletest says: 99%.

Gurjieff was a 20th Century philosopher and “guru”. His school is still operational, and his school still produces people who believe they are better, more awake, etc.

Without self knowledge, without understanding the working and functions of his machine, man cannot be free, he cannot govern himself and he will always remain a slave.

Looking at Gurjieff I realized something really important: your eventual success, your personal success, depends on your starting point: what you call things.

And I just found another reason his teaching wasn’t effective. He taught:

It is impossible to recognize a wrong way without knowing the right way. This means that it is no use troubling oneself how to recognize a wrong way. One must think of how to find the right way.

The exact opposite is true. The strait and narrow of the “right” can only be found by finding the “wrong” way. This is a huge and important difference between his ineffective methods, and my 80% effective methods.

I am still searching for the missing 20%. But between you and me, happy 80% of the time is almost good enough for me. Personally. But for humanity’s sake, for human evolution’s sake, I am diligently searching for the missing 20%. It is there, by design. Muscletest says: I am holding it, just can’t see it for what it is… weird. lol

He called all the voices that you hear, all the voices that demand that you do, that you don’t, that you eat, that you don’t… etc. he calls them all I… a multitude of i’s.

I call them the voices. The voices that you train yourself not hearing as yourself. They are not you… they are noise. Train yourself Like you would train a horse… like the amish train their horses to hear they noises of vehicles as irrelevant.

Without that training both you and the Amish horse are clueless as to what to listen to, and what not to listen to.

As some of my students have been astutely stating: most of the voices come from the Delusional Self… the not-you. The “entity” that masquerades as you… And you fall for it.

And without training you will.

There is a huge difference between a spiritual practice and a training.

In a spiritual practice you practice what you have trained to recognize, what you have trained to do accurately.

Truth be told, meditation is not a spiritual practice, because no one knows what the heck they are doing, and the teacher doesn’t know either.

So it is not a practice, it is a passtime…

Unless you are drilled, trained, corrected, and drilled, until you make NO MISTAKES, there is no spiritual practice, there cannot be.

Most people I know refuse to be trained. The Delusional Self fancies itself too good to be needing training.

These are the people I tell “Sorry, I can’t help you.”

And when the trainer himself uses their own method that is using the terminology that is misleading, like Gurjieff, then the trainer himself will only have moments of awakeness… Gurjieff was only awake 10% of the time. The rest of the time he was battling or he was in a trance with the voices that he fancied were him.

I am awake 80% of the time. Not because I am better. But because I am working with a different model of organization of what is going on in a human.

My awake time is not 100% because of some inaccuracy in the model I use.

I have been nudged about that for a few weeks now… and I am having a hard time seeing what would be a more productive model… that would allow you to see and hear reality, to see and hear the order that Life has, to see that Life is pretty simple if you take away all that isn’t Life… the voices, the memes, the desire traps…

That when you live Life at Life’s terms with Life’s tools, then you can be happy.

But not until then. All that smiling, all that success seeking, all that pleasure is not happiness making…

And because what is NOT Life needs to be relegated to the unimportant…  your eyes, your ears, your feelings need to be trained to recognize and relegate them to ‘unimportant’, so you can be left with Life and what is important. What is intrinsically valuable, and what makes you happy.

Here is an insight I have been attempting to give birth to:

There is a Ukrainian series on Netflix, The Sniffer. He is a guy who can smell like an empath can feel. He walks around with a smell-blocker in his nose. He only takes it out when he needs to identify a smell. He works with law-enforcement.

And he is good. He is amazing.

There are a lot of people with a good “sniffer” for a nose, but he is unique in that he has the discipline to direct his sniffer to what is relevant. And he has a huge body of smells that he recognizes accurately.

Like I direct my “feeler” to what is important.

Unless you train yourself, with the Amish Horse Training Method to be able to tell what is relevant and what isn’t, you are worthless as an empath, worthless as a sniffer, and pretty worthless as a human.

Worthless to yourself! I see your value, but you don’t. Because you listen to everything as if it were relevant!

I have some generous students who give me daily detailed glimpses into their personal hell. In that hell you can’t do good, you can’t amount to anything, you are tortured.

Happiness? An obscenity inside that hell.

The only thing that can get you out of that hell is training. Training or hell… these are the options for humans.

And in the meantime I am working on the missing 20%.

The next training I am offering grew out of the ‘Growth’ course where it became evident, that you connect to everything through words. Everything including yourself.

And that produces surface connections, where no love, no fulfillment, no satisfaction is possible.

Unfortunately unless the participants do what they are supposed to do, the mallet exercises, the attempts to feel and connect on the feeling level, no course, no training can be successful.

I want people in the Feelings course who are willing to do what it takes to move from distant, unhappy, meaning making machine to feeling, breathing, loving, fully alive productive person.

Are you that way? are you willing?

I can only help you if your level of integrity is higher than 10%.

I just visited the website of a spiritual advisor, who gives skype/zoom consulting calls.

She has a ton of testimonials.

She just has a simple conversation with people and points out what they can do differently.

And as the testimonials attest, they do, At least once. And then get the results that have eluded them.

I could, like her, do the ‘I give you advice’ like I give you a fish.

I have decided that I want to teach you to fish so you’ll never need me.

My diagnosis of humanity is: they don’t believe in becoming someone who can fish, they prefer to be fed… one fish at a time.

But if you are one of the rare people who want to be trained so you can become all you can become, in business, in relationships, in health, then the Feelings course is for you.


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